Child not invited to wedding

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Me and my sons dad have split but his sister is getting married and not having any kids there,
She has asked if he can be there before the actual wedding but isn't invited to wedding as it's no kids,
Is it wrong to not let son go? The way I see it as he is her brothers flesh and blood but not invited but good enough for a few pictures before hand?

I understand the whole concept of no children at weddings but feel it's different when it's family that close?

She just wants the child there for photos?
why would you bother. A lot of effort to then be turned away and how do you explain that to a child without making them feel unwanted!

I'd just say he can either come to all of it or none of it, no bother either way please just let me know.

How old is child? Showing kid an impending party and then get taken away from it? Nope from me.

Basically how I see it get a few photos with him then, I have to pick him up before the ceremony, not a very nice thing especially when it's her nephew

He is only 2 but isn't any bother and would enjoy most of the day till it was close to bedtime, just find it a little insulting

You're taking this personally when it's not. She doesn't want a two year old at her wedding. Loads of people wouldn't.

Just let his dad sort it surely?

If you're not with his dad and it's his sister wouldn't it be his dad's choice whether he takes him or not? I probably wouldn't facilitate it, but if his dad wants to pick him up and drop him home again I wouldn't mind. He's only 2 so wouldn't know that he's missing out and may enjoy the fuss.

I understand why people don't want children at a wedding but not when it's her own brothers child

Leave it to dad to sort out and don't get involved.

I'd say no to the pictures idea. He's so young and likely to not understand why he was taken there and then had to leave before the event.

I would not want a 2 year old at my wedding either

I was just going to say the same. As to whether he's there beforehand, that's up to you and your ex, whether it's going to upset him (I wouldn't have thought so at 2), logistics etc

If she’s expecting you to get him ready, drop him off, hang around for pictures and then take him home again no way would I bother!

If his dad is facilitating all of this then I wouldn’t get involved.

If the former option I’d just tell her I had planned a fun day out with DS so he wouldn’t be available.

Hmm no i wouldn’t get my 2 year old all dressed up just to go for photos. If your ex wants to do all the running around and get your som ready etc then fine but I wouldn’t be actively supporting that. She wants to have her cake and eat it basically

She's cheeky. She does not want children at wthe wedding but wants to use them for photos..

Just say no.

Exactly this - have him there or don't, but don't expect you to be running around after them all

Agree with this.

Yeah he won't understand and basically just using him for the photos which isn't a nice thing to do, his dad would prefer him not be there as bad as it sounds means he can drink and not have to look after him, probably reason behind asking me

Just let his dad have the conversation and sort it out. It's not something you have to facilitate by taking him there and back. If they want him, they can do the logiatics.

I'd tell his dad to sort it out.

He can do what he likes but I wouldn't be dressing a 2yo up, taking him and then coming to collect him.

his dad would prefer him not be there as bad as it sounds means he can drink and not have to look after him, probably reason behind asking me

There's nothing bad about it. Who wants to look after a two year old while you're a guest at a wedding? Hell no.

Just let his dad sort it.

Would you be against him having photos taken with your side of the family though? It is just to have family pictures (if his dad wants to sort it).

I didn't have children at my wedding, regardless of who's they were. No children means no children 🤷🏻‍♀️

Bit weird she wants photos with him in tbh - I'd leave it for his dad to sort perhaps?

The pictures aren't an issue, just feel they are using him for pictures to then palm him off