Didn't lose the weight, now it's too late!

[noonetoblamebutmyselfandpizza]

There will probably be someone on here who will spot it's me! But I just need to say it all here in the hope that someone can make me feel a tiny bit better, after all I have no one else to blame but myself!

My wedding was meant to be last July. We've rebooked for August.
I bought my wedding dress last February. I loved it, but I lost about 6 kilos ish to get into it.

Then lockdown, stopped dieting, two young toddlers to look after, couldn't exercise because of hip pain ...I could go on! But ultimately, regardless of those things I've mentioned above I just ate.too.much.food! And for some reason I just couldn't get the motivation to get the weight off. Still can't.

I've since gained about 10kilos more than when I bought my dress so obviously it doesn't fit me. I've left it too late - due to my denial and "diet tomorrow" attitude and now I can only get a dress off the rack. Or I can get mine altered - going to see about that tomorrow.

I just feel so fucking stupid and disgusting! It's only now dawning on me how I've really let myself down :(

Can anyone make me feel better? I doubt it but it's worth a shot.

They altered my dress, put a side panel in in exact same fabric.

Nobody noticed. You can’t tell in the photos. Years later people still talk about how much DH and I smiled (not the details of the dress)

This post is so what I needed to see, I'm in such a similar boat.

Hope you had a wonderful wedding day OP! I'm sure you looked beautiful and more importantly I'm sure you looked happy, and I hope you love your wedding photos.

I picked my dress up on Sat and my wedding is just under 3 weeks now. Dress fits absolutely fine, I've lost a bit of weight since all my fittings, I love the dress, my issue is with the body inside it. So yes it fits but I just feel I would look so much better in it if I was smaller. Doesn't help that when I picked it up I was knackered, had no make up and the photos my friend took of me are at the most unflattering angle ever, but Im also so worried that I look fat in it and that I'll hate the wedding photos. Whilst I have lost some weight, I just haven't lost as much as I was planning. I'm trying very hard to give myself a break because it has quite genuinely been the worst year of my life. This time last year I got made redundant, then my dad started to be unwell. I found a new job but I'm working ridiculous hours so I'm knackered and so stressed about work I'm not sleeping (let alone wedding stress) but my dad passed away a few months ago, which is no time at all and the grief is still so raw. And that's all in addition to the f'ing global pandemic! So whilst I genuinely know I've got a lot on my plate, I'm not bloody superwoman to have not lost an additional 10kg, there's still a part of me that just so stressed and down that I'm going to hate how I look in all the photos.

Hi everyone,

I just wanted to come back to update you all, and to let you know that I had THE BEST WEDDING DAY and that you were all right and I felt gorgeous!

I haven't seen the photos yet but hopefully they aren't too bad!

The day goes so bloody fast, I'd advise anyone else in my situation to just enjoy it.

I didn't think about my arms once. Just about my new husband :)

Thank you to everyone on this thread who tired to talk some sense into me. You were all right, you wise wise mumsnetters! X

omg i've just scoffed half a tube of bbq pringles whilst reading this.

But congratulations! And i'm glad you managed to overcome your insecurities enough for the day to just enjoy it.

That’s such a lovely update, @noonetoblamebutmyselfandpizza. Congratulations!!

I bet you look amazing. Be proud of your curves and show them off in your amazing new or altered dress.

So pleased to read your update. Your photos will be a wonderful reminder of your happy day!

Op! I did the same! Bought dress in fit of optimism and got fatter. Was hurting head in sand when my dsm insisted we get tit adjusted- just in time! We put in another panel, no one knew and I got to wear it! It was a magical wedding xx what’s plan b? Xx

@noonetoblamebutmyselfandpizza congratulations!! I bet the photos look amazing!!