August 2021 wedding..?

Anxietyannie86 · 2021-01-06T11:19:27+00:00

Had our May wedding cancelled, tried again for October but that was postponed too as DP's parents live abroad and his DF is undergoing cancer treatment so it wasn't worth the risk them coming over. We've rebooked for august but really, what is the likelihood of it happening? I just don't think I can face another year of worry as to whether it will happen or not.

Honeyroar · 06/01/2021 11:21

At this stage I’d just get married whatever happens. Be it small or large. You can celebrate later with family if need be.

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Anxietyannie86 · 06/01/2021 11:24

@Honeyroar

At this stage I’d just get married whatever happens. Be it small or large. You can celebrate later with family if need be.

DP doesn't want to get married without his father present and I can't deny him that as with him currently having stage 3 cancer who knows what the future holds. It's the fact they're abroad as to whether they will be able to get over here safely by then. Here's to hoping he might have had the vaccine by then along with my dad who's 70 this year x

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whatthehelldowecare · 06/01/2021 11:29

We are booked for 30 July (moved from July this year) and I have absolutely no idea what is likely to happen. My thoughts change daily 😂

We've decided we're going ahead no matter what, but if there are still restrictions (guests in masks and social distancing etc) then we're scrapping the big day and getting married in the garden with our nearest and dearest. We're in Scotland and Sturgeon has said she is cautiously hopeful of 'few or no restrictions' by late spring early summer - before that I didn't think there was any chance at all, but I'm holding out a little hope (whilst also taking extra care of the garden through the winter, just in case)!

Good luck when it comes

TrashCanBird · 06/01/2021 11:36

We're booked for July, postponed from last summer.

Tbh I don't think it's going to happen. I think we'll end up postponing to 2022.

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Anxietyannie86 · 06/01/2021 14:40

@TrashCanBird

We're booked for July, postponed from last summer.

Tbh I don't think it's going to happen. I think we'll end up postponing to 2022.

Yes I'm reluctant to get my hopes up to have them dashed yet again this year. To be honest I feel like giving up with the idea of a normal wedding altogether. X

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CrotchetyQuaver · 06/01/2021 14:49

I've always felt the second half of this year is likely to be better than the first, but that was before this new variant came along which is now rife where I live (up til recently very low case numbers) and really it's only going to get worse before it gets better. I'd be looking to October onwards and keeping my fingers crossed.

DrCindyPops · 06/01/2021 20:02

We are getting married in August, in Scotland.
We've discussed this with the hotel and came to the conclusion best fare scenario is likely to be tier 0 which in Scotland is 50 guests so that's what we are planning for. I don't know what the equivalent would be in England.

Honeyroar · 07/01/2021 10:18

My friend decided not to postpone her wedding this year, but could only have 30 guests. They got married in a little chapel, cut the cake and did speeches right after the ceremony (obviously with the vicar’s permission!), had photos outside and then had a small band play while they had their first dance in the chapel garden and the guests all got a beautifully wrapped afternoon tea in a box and individual half bottles of champagne. It was absolutely gorgeous, so different and memorable.

Honeyroar · 07/01/2021 10:20

Ps, I was originally invited but had to be uninvited for obvious reasons. A few of us still went and stood in the church yard and clapped as she went in/came out so she felt special.

DenisetheMenace · 07/01/2021 10:21

I think it will go ahead 😁
Congratulations.

Sailor2009 · 07/01/2021 10:22

@Honeyroar

My friend decided not to postpone her wedding this year, but could only have 30 guests. They got married in a little chapel, cut the cake and did speeches right after the ceremony (obviously with the vicar’s permission!), had photos outside and then had a small band play while they had their first dance in the chapel garden and the guests all got a beautifully wrapped afternoon tea in a box and individual half bottles of champagne. It was absolutely gorgeous, so different and memorable.

That sounds absolutely perfect. Many congratulations to your friend.

AmyD54321 · 07/01/2021 11:22

Also booked for August this year. We've invited 70 and just hoping for the best. I think it will go ahead, but we're realistically expecting to be allowed 30!

Buttercream22 · 10/01/2021 10:40

Same here. We've postponed twice now. Our new date is August and we initially invited 90+ people. I'm not confident that we will have a bih wedding.
Planning on just having close family, maybe a party in 2022 X

Lemonyfuckit · 16/01/2021 12:34

@DrCindyPops

We are getting married in August, in Scotland. We've discussed this with the hotel and came to the conclusion best fare scenario is likely to be tier 0 which in Scotland is 50 guests so that's what we are planning for. I don't know what the equivalent would be in England.

We're very similar (Sept Scotland) and discussed with the venue last week who thought prob the same thing - ie tier 0, 50 guests.

We were aiming for 80-100 guests, and have booked a fantastic ceilidh band. It's a venue with a big dance floor so 50 guests would feel a little lost and it would be a bit pointless if we can't do the dancing. So we're thinking if that's the case, we'll do a small registry office wedding on the date as planned and then postpone the big party plus have a blessing in the chapel the following year.

The really tricky thing though is just the not knowing - deciding at what point we go ok, it's not happening this year. It's quite hard to think we should plough on at the moment with things like designing invites etc if not going to go ahead, but at the same time we risk leaving everything too last minute. Also big reason we'll get married anyway on that date is we want to start a family. We're too old to take our time on that. I don't really want to be pregnant for the actual big party wedding, but I don't think we can have that much control over the timing of a pregnancy, we just have to start trying as soon as poss and if it happens be grateful it's happened.

Realise in the grand scheme of things this is not a big deal, and that's what I'm trying to tell myself to not get upset about it, but it's a bit disappointing all the same.

DrCindyPops · 16/01/2021 13:11

@Lemonyfuckit it's so hard to know what to do isn't it. We are quite lucky in that our venue has different rooms we can use so won't look crazy with only 50, but at the same time I'm kind of like do I still want to spend £1500 on a band for just immediate friends and family, like will they get proper use of it and dance etc. They probably will but you know what I mean!

I'm struggling at the moment a bit with it all, we are planning for 50 now with some people thinking I'm crazy that it could be more (although I doubt it and I'm not paying for lots more people then having to uninvite them, that would mortify me ) and others telling me they think I should postpone which I really don't want to do.
We have a really awful year last year and I want something to look forward to. Plus planning during covid has been stressful enough I don't want to drag it out any longer!

If I were you I would go ahead too, especially if you want to ttc. I'm sure we can still manage to have lovely wedding days, regardless of how many people are there.

Workyticket · 17/01/2021 01:08

We're booked for 17th July. Postponed from last summer. I've no idea whether we'll have the wedding we want but we'll definitely get married this time.

Postponing is shite

CakeRequired · 23/01/2021 11:41

@DrCindyPops

We are getting married in August, in Scotland. We've discussed this with the hotel and came to the conclusion best fare scenario is likely to be tier 0 which in Scotland is 50 guests so that's what we are planning for. I don't know what the equivalent would be in England.

That really depends on where in Scotland. The North, you MIGHT be lucky, but we never got below tier 1 last year. The south of Scotland, I'd say not a chance. Some areas there didn't get below 3. You'll have 20 max, and maybe not even a reception.

DrCindyPops · 23/01/2021 20:40

@CakeRequired well that brought me back to reality with a bump 😂

No I have been thinking this week that it's looking a lot less positive and 20 is now the most likely unfortunately.

CakeRequired · 24/01/2021 09:57

[quote DrCindyPops]@CakeRequired well that brought me back to reality with a bump 😂

No I have been thinking this week that it's looking a lot less positive and 20 is now the most likely unfortunately.[/quote]
Sorry but it will be even worse for you if you plan for a 50 person wedding and then find out its 5 with no reception.

Sturgeon has said the likelihood of big events happening this summer is slim to none basically. And they will change the tiers here at last minute notice. I think you're more likely to get a 20 person wedding. Honestly, even I'm planning for that now and my wedding isn't until next May. Shows you how much faith I have in these idiots running this.

BendyWendy18 · 25/01/2021 20:17

We've cancelled our August wedding this week, venue too big for a smaller wedding, and it was too stressful trying to keep planning for the 100+ wedding we have invited for. Still have the church booked, now deciding whether to go ahead with a smaller wedding. It's so hard to envision what it will look like!

Onlinedilema · 09/02/2021 21:12

It's very hard with your in-laws having to travel from abroad, who knows what restrictions will be in place. Also will your Fil want to risk coming being so ill. What if he takes a turn for the worse whilst here? Personally I can't see 'normal' ie pre covid weddings happening this spring or summer. Lots of people will not have had their second vaccine in the UK, probably even lower numbers abroad. Other things will be prioritised before allowing large gatherings such as weddings.

DrCindyPops · 15/02/2021 11:49

How's everyone feeling with the news the Torys want restrictions lifted in May? I know we need to wait on the roadmap etc but don't know if I feel a wee bit more optimistic?

Onemorefortheroad · 15/02/2021 20:17

We are September 2021 (4th date!). I just have no idea now. Felt optimistic before Xmas, then I didn't, now wondering if we might get at least slightly higher numbers, although highly doubt it will be the 120 we had planned for. 50/60 would be nice but perhaps optimistic?

My worry is that they relax things too early and then we are locked down again come then!

DrCindyPops · 16/02/2021 09:41

I'm the same @Onemorefortheroad and scared I invite people then it gets stricter again & I need to uninvite them.

DP is of the option we should still go immediate family anyway even if the restrictions are lifted just to be sure!

DrCindyPops · 16/02/2021 15:40

And the optimism is gone again after listening to NS today