August 2021 wedding..?

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Had our May wedding cancelled, tried again for October but that was postponed too as DP's parents live abroad and his DF is undergoing cancer treatment so it wasn't worth the risk them coming over.
We've rebooked for august but really, what is the likelihood of it happening? I just don't think I can face another year of worry as to whether it will happen or not.

It's such an unknown at the moment. I think we will have to go ahead with whatever the numbers are at the time but feel absolutely gutted - just isn't the day we planned. First world problem and all that I know!

I didn't hear the whole of NS update yesterday but was hopeful that they are telling people not to book holidays the now - ruling out Easter but maybe slightly more optimism for summer so maybe things will have settled? Be keen to see the new roadmap they are working on to see where weddings feature.

Numbers got right down to 2 cases per day in summer last year in Scotland so surely if we can do same again, with vaccines and more treatment options then that's good... right?! This is what I try to keep telling myself but could be totally naive! 🙈

Hi guys

Newly engaged here. We are looking to get married August this year. We have decided that whatever happens we will still get married. Our church opens up again early March so will book then . Its so difficult to plan as just don't know how many people can come.

Came on here to see if there were any more thoughts on this, comforting to know there are others still wrestling with it...!
We've booked nothing, not "officially engaged" but talked a lot about it, DP would be happy with a tiny wedding so ball is in my court really as I'd like a "big" one (80-100).
Maybe I'm being overly optimistic but I just can't see how normal weddings won't be back again by the end of summer/early autumn. They're saying possibly all UK adults vaccinated by August. Cases last year were pretty low by that point thanks to warmer weather (recall some knobheads eg Julia Hartley-Brewer saying "the pandemic is over!" Twat....I digress) and that was without a vaccine. Surely if say 80% of the adult population is vaccinated, and it's summer, and with the political pressure from the Tory party to get the economy back, there's no way that weddings from August onwards will face restrictions?? Obviously possible evil strain that vaccines don't work against but so far it seems ok? (I am not an abusive covid reader - disclaimer!)
What am I missing?!?

I think restrictions will be in place due to new variants being discovered
We are yet to fully see how covid affects people who have been vaccinated ( if they get covid say months after having the vaccine) will they have small symptoms or will they still end up in hospital or seriously unwell??
I work for the NHS and still so many coming into hospital with covid
I hope because of the warmer weather restrictions won't be as bad and we have more leeway.

I hope I'm wrong I just don't feel confident that all restrictions will be lifted.
Both Nicola sturgeon and Boris Johnston have both said that they will be more cautious than last summer. NS said staycations in the UK MIGHT be possible by the summer if hospitality is fully open, and like pp said we don't know about transmission after vaccinations.

I really hope I'm wrong I would love everyone to be able to have 200 people at their wedding if that's what they want, I just don't know that I'm confident I'll see it this year!

As I've said in previous posts I might be being pessimistic but I think I'm doing that rather than getting my hopes up & then being disappointed.

Tier 0 in Scotland plan last year was 50 people for a wedding, it'll be interesting to see the road map next week and see the plans now but I think than tier 0 is more realistic than no restrictions unfortunately.

I'd take Tier 0... I'm based in an area of Scotland which had fairly low numbers last year (although went crazy over Xmas!) so will hopefully get to a low tier over summer. Will have to wait and see. At the moment I can't think about the wedding... just want to see a bit more of family and friends but still a way to go yet I think...

From the bits that I've read, the AZ and Pfizer vaccines are effective against the new variants - not quite as effective but not a big cause for concern.
Of course there's a chance for further variants to emerge where you might not have the same protection but the more people who are vaccinated the less chance that is of happening presumably, as case numbers fall.
I also think that once cases get below a certain number & pressure on hospitals eases, the political pressure will be huge to "go back to normal", since the original argument for lockdown (certainly the one that got the tories on board) was Protect the NHS. So once the vulnerable are vaccinated there will be a big push to release restrictions on the economy including the wedding industry who have been increasingly vocal. So by August to still have restrictions (other than intl travel)? Hmm
I'm not saying any of the above is a sound argument and I'd still worry about whether people will want to go to a large wedding given everything that's happened.... but I really struggle to see a scenario where things are still so restricted...
At the time the Scottish government described tier 0 as "the most normal set of circumstances we could hope for in the absence of a vaccine" so 🤷‍♀️
I am clearly biased in wanting this all to be true of course but I also don't see any logic now that it wouldn't be the case, unless something massively from left field happens (in which case getting married probably least of our worries).
Please shoot me down if you disagree!

@Cavagirl not going to shoot you down in the slightest. Everyone has their own thoughts on it. I've explained I'm pessimistic as I don't want to be disappointed. You have your thoughts because you want that be what happens. The truth is unless any of us are secretly NS or BJ we don't know!
It'll be interesting to see their road maps this week & I hope that will give us a better idea.

Looking good for you all in England tonight. I know nothing is set in stone for after 21st June but at least 30 will be allowed. Some of you may get your day with no restrictions at all!

Patiently waiting on NS tomorrow now, if I can get 50 I'm happy so fingers crossed for that!

Good luck Cindypops hope you get your 50 hun. I am in England and the news of 30 is great to hear. Sad for all those getting married that have to have smaller numbers for now 😫

I’m on 3rd date of 11/8/21 and so happy tonight. The relief is immense, although I find it hard that the numbers go from 30 to unlimited overnight. That needs reviewed

@Mummyme87 I find that bizarre too, would have thought there would be a middle ground somewhere!

Thanks @dipsydoo22, I hope you manage to get whatever numbers you are hoping for too!
I really hope this means that everyone gets the day they hoped for.
DP is still telling me we need to go small, do 50 and no more even if they say unlimited in August in case the plan gets held up a few weeks but I can go for that and be happy at that. If it's 30 tomorrow then unlimited I think I could just squeeze it in to 30 too!

I'm re-booked for 2nd May, so we're limited to 15. It's indoor hospitality so means no reception. I have no idea whether to postpone again or just get married with very little family there (assuming my venue is even open!) and postpone the reception (if the venue will allow that).

I can defo do 30. 40 would be even better lool but I would be happy with 30.

@MoreGinPlease2020 sorry it's not the best of news for you tonight, and here we are talking about if 30 will be enough etc.

I would struggle to decide what to do too, maybe speak to your venue & see their options?

My venue has no weekends from now until 2023 so moving wouldn't be an option for us so maybe speaking to your venue can help you make your decision.

So just read the guidance in full. There will be a research program starting in April which will pilot schemes for large events & this will decide if larger events can go ahead. Still promising for everyone and just fingers crossed it goes to plan!

Thanks @DrCindyPops. We're trying to get through to the venue to discuss our options.

So Scotland brides are no further forward today then

What does that mean for you cindypops?

I have no idea Dipseydoo.
I think we stick to our plan of tier 0 50 people as best case and plan for that. She's putting us back in to tiers after lockdown so at the moment that's the most logical I think of I think. Just feeling a bit disappointed we didn't get much detail today but I suppose she's maybe right to be cautious than get our hopes up.

Yeah I understand how your feeling. It's so frustrating. Defo plan for 50 and if u can have more then its a bonus.
Like a previous poster said I can't really see us having unlimited numbers after June. I think that's very wishful thinking so maybe NS being cautious she doesn't want to get everyone's hopes up and then have to implement changes.

Felt quite uplifted by UK Govt announcement on Monday and then our Scottish update was a bit of a reality check but I'd rather be realistic than have my hopes up for something bigger which doesn't go ahead :-(

Hi all, late to the party but I was reading the thread and looking for people in the same boat!
Our date (our THIRD date so far 😂) is July 31st so I'm cautiously optimistic?
We wrote a list of 30 guest ages ago, and I can like with 30 for sure.
If we're optimistic are we thinking we could plan for 50? Is that what others are thinking for this summer provisionally?
Our original list was 140 😂 I feel like I'm getting ahead of myself resuming the original planning from last year for that many.
I did spend several hours last night making more ribbon bunting for our village hall reception though! Hope prevails!

*live with 30