Is anyone still holding onto their wedding this year?

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Who actually thinks weddings are still going to go ahead this summer? Do you think their will be restrictions? I'm so undecided in what to do

Ours is 100, I feel more despondent by the second.

Ours is currently at 120, we can cut it comfortably down to 50 without plus ones and elderly distant relatives, but it would be a struggle to go lower than that. We are still holding out for 24th October, just hoping we can get legally married at least. It's so difficult to know what to do, I really just want to be married and don't think we could go through the hassle of organising again just to have our hopes dashed we've been together for 9 years and this was supposed to be an exciting time. I feel so selfish and sad for being so upset about it but it's difficult when you've been looking forward so long.

I feel the same, we've been together for 8. I just don't want to compromise on the wedding I'm looking forward to. I feel guilty about how precious that sounds, and I feel guilty worrying about something that's so minor, relatively speaking. I was just looking forward to it so much. I'm gutted. We're 27th December.

We were lucky to get married at the end of March. Only two witnesses and the officiant were allowed and we had to social distance. It wasn't the wedding we had planned but we're looking to have a first anniversary celebration with all of our friends and family to make up for not having a reception.

That's lovely. We've agreed to try and go for the same date next year if it comes to that. We want to have the wedding we've got in our heads now.

@lovinglavidaloca Re waiting a whole year for the same date, I can’t help but wonder, what’s the point? There is absolutely zero guarantee that there won’t be another wave, lockdown or venue could simply not survive the financial consequences of this virus.

We have postponed from September this year we are now having to wait until spring 2022 for a variety of reasons !!! This wasnt due to social distancing or anything like that. But like others I still wanted to have the day we have planned so we didn't really have an option. Well we did.... but we didnt want a winter wedding. So it was our decision to postpone so far ahead. I was gutted, angry and lots of other emotions at the time....

@AnxiousElephant77 I think you are allowed to feel sad and disappointed even given what's going on in the world right now. I hope you get sorted even if you postpone to next year.
We've had a couple of weeks to process this now and we are looking forward to it and we know that we will be married. I also wanted to enjoy the the time leading up to our day... and as all our suppliers have been great and transferred the amounts we have paid so far to our new date... I think there will be less stress in the long run. Eventually lol !!

We are October and still holding out for now.

Another one here who wouldn’t know when to postpone to as even if we waited another year, who is to say a new wave won’t cancel that one too?

@Boredsheep you’re right but if people thought like that no one would ever book a wedding ever again.

I think I’m going to wait and see what is said at next lockdown review then speak to my venue. I need to weigh up getting the time of year I want vs the fact it would mean waiting another whole year.

We’ve been together for years and years and it’s just typical of all the time we could have chosen to get married in those years that this has happened now!

@lovinglavidaloca I think mine and @Boredsheep point was picking a specific date next year doesn’t guarantee the wedding will actually happen, or if it does happen, that all of the guests will be allowed to/ healthy enough to come.

There are over 30 strains of Covid-19 now around the world so one vaccine isn’t going to a) help and b) be available to everyone for a long time. Sorry, just being realistic, and it sucks.

Stronginside - you're not worrying about your August wedding now then? Just 'being realistic'?

So what will people do then? No one ever gets married ever again in case Covid might still be around in 1/3/5 years?

My wedding is ‘easy’ in the grand scheme of things to postpone but you can’t just not pick a date. How does that work?

Not meaning to sound confrontational btw

I'm still hoping my registry office wedding will go ahead on 1 July. It's only us and 2 witnesses (our children). The uncertainty is horrible, I wish we knew either way.

We're having a registry office wedding. Originally it was for 30 people to attend. We're just hoping we can have us and 2 witnesses. Our original date came and went already. We were contacted by our Registrar before the original lockdown was extended- they obviously had received guidelines before it was official announced. As it stands, they have cancelled all weddings until mid June. So we will continue to wait and see what happens. At the moment our reception is on hold, I don't know when we'll be able to do that part because even if we were allowed to have gatherings I don't know how many people will be comfortable coming.

I think it's so admirable of people that are happy to make the priority getting married and just have a couple of people there.

Me? I've waited 8 years for this. I want a big wedding with my family and friends, the wedding I've imagined and planned for. And if I have to wait 12 months, then that's what I'll do.

@SureTry were you able to arrange a new date?

@AnxiousElephant77 My point was quite the opposite- I am worried about this August, next August and every other month, because rebooking it for the same date next year has as much chance of succeeding as blindly picking a date out of a hat.

@lovinglavidaloca To their own, I wasn’t trying to be confrontational either 👍 I am just pointing out that waiting for a specific date next year might not make the wedding happen, so I guess I was hoping everyone was as confused about date picking as I am right now😬

@lovinglavidaloca I meant more at this point in time. I don’t know what’s going to happen in October, and I don’t know what’s going to happen next year - so it seems pointless for me to postpone at this stage because they both have the same risk ifyswim?

Ahh yes I see what you mean!

Willow We've been allowed to rebook whether it goes ahead is another matter.

I see what you mean about future dates as we just really don't know what the new world will be like in terms of socialising.

Our venue let us roll over to the same date next year so we've taken it. I've barely put any thought into it though and probably won't until much closer to the new date when we know what's what.

Part of me thinks "fuck it, let's not bother"

The other part of me says it's something nice to look forward to. It's difficult.

I'm trying to be positive about my wedding because the uncertainty about that along with everything else is too much. But I admit that I am worried because mine is so close to Christmas and unsure whether more rules will be applied at that time to limit things.

I'm praying track and trace makes a difference, but then I worry about that. What if two days before the wedding you get an alert saying you've been in contact with someone!

I was due to marry April 11th 2020, we have postponed to end of November as that is the date we were given by venu. Full booked from March onwards through until autumn next year at my venue. If it can’t go ahead I’m not sure what will happen. We have 110 guests. It’s unbelievably sad, we booked our original date in May 2018!!

I'll be here for handholding if you need it. It's a right bloody state of affairs, eh?