We have finally found our dream venue. It ticks all our boxes and I love it. We’ve seen a lot of places and none of them wowed us but this one did. However it seems to be causing so many issues with people.
The venue is just under an hour from where we live (although some of our guests live closer) and we have opted for a Monday wedding because we just don’t have the minimum numbers needed for a weekend wedding (we have about 55 max guests but every venue we’ve looked at is looking for between 80-120 minimum). We’re supposed to be going to put the deposit down on Sunday and I feel like it should be really exciting and I was really excited but people are making it hard. I’ve had a lot of “I’m not trying to put you off but...” and saying things like a Monday wedding means nobody will be able to go and the fact it’s a drive away means people might not be able to go because they can’t afford to stay over etc. Our reasoning was the people who are important to us and we want there, will come. Those who we aren’t that fussed about will be the ones who might not be willing or able to travel/take time off work. I was worrying too much about other people but I’ve tried to remember that this is OUR wedding and we should do what WE want instead of trying to make everyone happy and there’s nothing we can do that will please everyone.
My parents and grandparents have all been on at me. Grandparents have nobody to watch the dog (??) if we get married somewhere they have to stay overnight and my parents assume we’ve rushed into it without thinking it through even though we’ve been crunching numbers etc every night for weeks.
Has anyone else had a midweek wedding? Are we being stupid by having one? I just can’t justify paying the increased venue fees plus for potentially 60+ extra people we don’t actually have just to meet weekend minimums. I’ve never wanted a massive wedding, just one with my closest family and friends. But with a Monday, there’d be quite a few guests who would have to take two days off (the wedding day and the day after if they’re staying over etc). There’s a lot of time to sort that with employers but is it a lot to ask of people? We don’t really have any other option that doesn’t involve us going way over our budget. My fiancé thinks I’m worrying too much about other people but then when those other people start casting doubt in my mind and then I think maybe I’m justified in my worrying!
Sorry for rambling, I’m just stressing too much!