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Wedding day order & guests

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Helpmeplan · 04/04/2018 17:45

So first off does this sound ok?

Ceremony is 15 mins from home.

So:

2.15pm Transport to venue
2.30pm Bride & Groom do their pre-ceremony thing
3pm Ceremony
3.30pm Pictures
4.30pm Transport to Reception
5pm Drinks
5.30pm Sit down meal
7pm Home for cake and piss up

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Separate issue how do I tell my h2bs work colleague that there is no way he is coming to the wedding because he has to cover dp who is a chef without being blunt or rude.

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McTufty · 04/04/2018 17:46

What are your guests doing between 3:30 and 4:30?

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Helpmeplan · 04/04/2018 17:47

Photo's and travelling to Reception probably. We are literally having 12 people including ourselves

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Helpmeplan · 04/04/2018 17:48

.....hole in the plan .... bugger!

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SleepingStandingUp · 04/04/2018 17:49

2.30pm Bride & Groom do their pre-ceremony thing

What is that?

Dermymc · 04/04/2018 17:49

There's a big gap from ceremony end to drinks at reception.

Have you booked a room or table at a restaurant?

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Helpmeplan · 04/04/2018 17:53

sleeping something to do with confirming you want to proceed like an interview.

Restaurant. It takes into consideration journey time (approx 20 to 30 mins) and the fact we'd like group pics too.

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SleepingStandingUp · 04/04/2018 17:53

Also is there just the two chefs in which surely he's worked it out or are there say 5, you've invited the other 3 in the hope they all get AL and the guy you dislike works? In which case just do that. Don't invite him

yikesanotherbooboo · 04/04/2018 17:54

You can't expect your guests to hang about while you have your pictures taken.
You can only disappear for pictures if they are being entertained in some way eg drinks/ canapés and with such a small number of people I can't really see how you would find an opportunity to disappear like that. Your options for photos are before guests arrive ie during the 'pre-ceremony bit' or during the evening knees up when your absence won't matter.

SleepingStandingUp · 04/04/2018 17:55

Its an hour, not really that long a gap, reasonable people assume there will be photos at a wedding

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Helpmeplan · 04/04/2018 17:55

My dp is head chef. This guy is sous. No other chefs. Very small establishment. Dp in work other is off and vice versa.

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Skyllo30 · 04/04/2018 17:57

I’d allow more than 90 mins for the meal unless it’s only one course and no choices. Usually everyone chats for a while before ordering. My experience with meals of more than 6 friends is they can be over 3 hours!

KalaLaka · 04/04/2018 17:57

Have you left long enough for the meal?

SleepingStandingUp · 04/04/2018 17:58

So he should be able to work out that of DP is getting married, he's in work. It's a none issue surely

KalaLaka · 04/04/2018 17:58

Sorry xpost! We take at least 2 hours for a pub meal.

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Helpmeplan · 04/04/2018 17:59

Sky tbf the length of the meal is largely irrelevant tbh because cake and bubbles is at our home so can be sooner or later. Just a rough timeline in my head tbh.

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Helpmeplan · 04/04/2018 18:00

You'd think that Sleeping wouldn't you but he's a bit of a pushy sod

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Skyllo30 · 04/04/2018 18:17

help I realised that just after I posted! Blush I think it sounds fine and your guests can amuse themselves for an hour! With such a small group they can just chat.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 04/04/2018 18:22

I'd rather have drinks and canapés at 3,30 but I'm a lush!

thethoughtfox · 04/04/2018 18:24

Have drinks / canapés / music / something for guests while pictures are being taken.

SleepingStandingUp · 04/04/2018 18:49

There's 12 guests for 1 hour during which they'll be needed for photos. I think hiring musical entertainment might be a bit ott.
And depending on the venue for the service there might be no option for food.
Chairs as its a long time standing bit it won't even be a full hour in reality

AnnaMagnani · 04/04/2018 18:55

You will need a drink for guests on arrival pre-ceremony.

One hour for photos is OK and guests presumably can talk to each other - could they have cake during this time as then you get cake photos and cake cutting pics?
An hour is a long time - they need something to do.

Otherwise is all fine.

SleepingStandingUp · 04/04/2018 19:22

Op where are you getting married? Its all very well demanding pre wedding drinks and canapes and a string quartet but of its basically the local registry office, it isn't going to happen

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Helpmeplan · 04/04/2018 21:35

We are getting married at the most local registry office. It is approximately 20/30 mins drive from where we and most of our guests live. You can't park there, so nearest parking is 5/10 minutes walk away.

Photo's we'd like in town where we are getting married and maybe a couple in our home town before we trot off for our sit down meal. So inbetween pics in registry office town and home town will be a 20/30 minute travel which now concerns me that I'll need to push back dinner.

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Dermymc · 04/04/2018 21:44

Why not do the photos in your home town before?

SleepingStandingUp · 04/04/2018 22:10

Don't do them before, you won't be married, you won't have on rings, and presumably you want to see each other first at the registry office. Pre ceremony photos are odd.

However could you do photos after the meal and before cake if the restaurant is far from where you want the second photos?