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Wedding day order & guests

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Helpmeplan · 04/04/2018 17:45

So first off does this sound ok?

Ceremony is 15 mins from home.

So:

2.15pm Transport to venue
2.30pm Bride & Groom do their pre-ceremony thing
3pm Ceremony
3.30pm Pictures
4.30pm Transport to Reception
5pm Drinks
5.30pm Sit down meal
7pm Home for cake and piss up

Separate issue how do I tell my h2bs work colleague that there is no way he is coming to the wedding because he has to cover dp who is a chef without being blunt or rude.

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Helpmeplan · 05/04/2018 05:57

Not a bad plan Sleeping and actually it might work out better with regards to the general public being around

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Helpmeplan · 05/04/2018 05:59

Or maybe less in ceremony town with groups and come back earlier. Let the guests go and get drinks whilst we have pics locally before dinner.

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LML83 · 05/04/2018 06:09

do group shots first Then guests can travel to reception and have a drink, seat and a chat while waiting for you and dh?

Also I haven't heard of pre ceremony thing for bride and groom on the day, could this be done a day or two before?

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Helpmeplan · 05/04/2018 07:03

In a registry office wedding whilst the guests are being seated the bride and groom have to see the registrar to confirm they still want to go ahead, etc. Even if you have been together 24 years 😂

Only trouble we have is that the restaurant isn't open until 5pm so might have to send them to a local pub with some cash first.

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SleepingStandingUp · 05/04/2018 08:16

You'll only be 30 minutes behind realistically so cash for 1? You'll need separate transport too potentially?

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Helpmeplan · 05/04/2018 08:50

We have separate transport. Not that dp knows ... he'll love it!

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jellycat1 · 05/04/2018 08:57

We did photos whilst guests were having drinks as we both agreed the worst bit of the weddings we'd been to is hanging around for an hour after the service. It's a shame you have to do a pre ceremony thing on the day. Can that not be done before? I'm a bit trad and I loved not seeing DH until we were at the altar.

jellycat1 · 05/04/2018 08:58

I realise you're not having a church wedding but still

MySockIsWetAgain · 05/04/2018 09:00

Let the guests go to the reataurant earlier and start drinks. 60 min is long to wait and 30 min is short for drinks.

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Helpmeplan · 05/04/2018 09:50

jellycat we don't have to go in together, but yes registrar insists it must be immediately before the ceremony.

Just checked the restaurant and they are open from 12 noon so actually our wedding party could go straight to the reception from the ceremony. I just think that we'd want at least one group photo.

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SleepingStandingUp · 05/04/2018 10:26

You need some group shots but if you prioritise those - group, mem, women, bridal party, parents etc then send them ahead they can get drinks and then carry drinks over to the meal. That works well. Then some less formal photos back in your home town after the meal. Will it still be light at 7/8 ish? You can do awesome photos in the dark but you just need to know where I guess

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Helpmeplan · 05/04/2018 11:15

Good point. It's October. Some lovely buildings where we live with lightng nearby so hopefully they'll come out nice. Only us, our parents, dp's brother and wife and our children so not too many shots.

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antimatter · 05/04/2018 11:24

5.30pm - 7pm Sit down meal, how many courses? IMHO this should be 2 hours

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Helpmeplan · 05/04/2018 12:00

As per upthread not largely relevant because we're only going to our home for cake and bubbly after

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SleepingStandingUp · 05/04/2018 15:42

Yeah so maybe all group, one with parents, one with kids kind of thing then send them away so you can so smushy ones haha

Littlebitty · 05/04/2018 15:48

DH and I also factored in time for photos in between the ceremony and travelling to the reception. We put on drinks and canapés for guests whilst we went with the photographer to have couple photos done. we ended up being late and missed all the canapes. In hindsight I would've skipped the photo session in between and been a bit more flexible with where we had the he photos done!! I would suggest cutting down the hehe whole hour and put on some drinks and canapés for you and guests and get people together and you and DH for photos during that time!

DiscoMoo · 05/04/2018 15:59

The pre ceremony thing lasts less than 5 minutes, you just confirm your name age and occupation and the same for him (and vice versa), and that you still want to get married, you really don’t need 30 minutes.

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Helpmeplan · 05/04/2018 16:09

Registry office staff have told us to be there for 2.30pm and the ceremony is at 3pm so just doing as I'm told.

I'm stressing over sweet fa really aren't I?!

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SleepingStandingUp · 05/04/2018 16:09

Yup but it'll keep you busy til October haha.

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Helpmeplan · 05/04/2018 16:17

Welcome to tell me to shut up 😂

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SleepingStandingUp · 05/04/2018 16:24

I was gonna ask if you've got your dress sorted and are you having flowers ha ha

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Helpmeplan · 05/04/2018 16:41

Dress bought and paid for and have discussed but not booked flowers. Cake deposit paid, transport booked and deposit paid. Restaurant won't let me book until nearer the time.

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BackforGood · 05/04/2018 17:23

Your timings sound fine. As a guest at a wedding, you'll expect there to be some photos - most of us would also like to take some.
If there's only 12 of you it might not take that long, but that's fine, everyone just goes back to find their car a bit sooner.
I was going to say you'd need a bit longer for your meal probably, but see that doesn't matter as nothing afterwards that needs to be a specific time.
Sounds lovely,
Have fun.

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Helpmeplan · 05/04/2018 17:40

Thank you. Must stop stressing out.

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SleepingStandingUp · 05/04/2018 19:05

Bless you Help, how long have you and DF been together?

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