Totally Overwhelmed (huge rant probably makes no sense)

[PixelDust]

I am getting married in April 2020 (h2b has fixed holidays so have to plan around them). I have no idea where to start!

We have seen a venue that I totally love but my DM has been pushing for another (has been since we got engaged) and wants me to go and see it. I have went into petulant teenager mode now because she keeps pushing it. Do we go and see it just to make her happy? If I genuinely don't like it she will think its because she wants it.

I have no idea about colours or what flowers. How do you know these things?

We are very lucky to have my parents contributing a large amount (£10K) and we will be paying the rest but we have had no input from his parents. I don't want to be rude and ask if they are contributing because well thats just rude. They just don't seem interested in the planning at all. Is it different for the grooms parents?

Also my niece will be at our wedding at will be 3 nearly 4 who watches her when we are eat our meal? Her dad, GM and GD will be at the top table and her mum won't be there (parents aren't together)

I am totally over thinking things aren't I?

I don't think parents should be expected to contribute to second weddings at all. Whether they did anything forr their sons first isn't your business. They will have had their reasons ( which obviously proved correct since the marriage didn't last). It's good enough that you all get on well and they like you.
As someone else said they will be more excited when it's comes a bit closer.

I don't think April is peak season for weddings so I sm sure you can find a lovely venue without trouble. As for the rest ,I'd worry that what I like now won't be what I like in two years though.

I get married in 8 days and we are eloping which makes things easier. I always wanted deep red roses but my dp is wearing a great kilt and a purple cravat, the red wasn’t as nice. So I changed as red and purple aren’t a good match and now have white roses with heather and thistles. This is how the colour ideas come about, look at local cake makers website/Facebook pages and see what takes your fancy. The venue will also have suppliers they can recommend.