So for background: we will have our own 2 young children at our wedding along with another further 12 under 5 year olds. We (me and H2B) are really kid orientated and so are planning our wedding around them. We are going to have a small intimate ceremony at 10.30am with imidaite family and friends (totally 26) followed by a luxuries afternoon tea at 12.30pm for our wedding breakfast. Later we shall have our remaining family and friends (totalling 80) for drink, food and live music. We want the whole thing finished by 8.30pm so those with kids can stay whole time plus our little ones won't be over tired. Also we both wanna escape and spend the night together without being exhausted from a long day!
But my two of my sisters today were saying over lunch how crap of a plan it is and how no one will enjoy it because they won't be able to get drunk enough by 8.30. They also said we shouldn't be focused on the kids and should be enjoying it ourselves. They just made me feel like crap. I already know my other sister with young kids too feels the same as them but has some respect for what we want. They said no one will bother coming as they won't be there for long enough (fyi "evening guests" will be arriving at 3pm so they will be there for 5.5 hours!).
Idk what I'm looking for by posting this. Maybe some reassurance what we have decided is okay? Or perhaps I need to be told be complete strangers our idea is stupid.