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Awkward dates

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user1487519954 · 03/02/2018 08:07

NC in case this is identifying!
Would you go to a wedding on the 29th December?
Or the 5th of January?
Looks like those are the only ones that we can do in a 4 month interval, because my brother is in the army and going to be away before and after that for long stretches, but I'm worried people will hate it and not come...

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Bubblysqueak · 03/02/2018 08:09

I went to one on the 2nd of jan it was lovely .

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 03/02/2018 08:09

Well we’d come, but I love a wedding. I’d do a lot to get to the wedding of a friend or family.

CrabappleBiscuit · 03/02/2018 08:10

Purely depends how far I had to travel and if I had kids ( but that’s the same with any dats)I don’t have kids so would happily do either for a good friend with enough notice. Some people will be away seeing family on the 29th but might be glad of the excuse to get away.

5 Th people less likely to be away.

Lillylollylandy · 03/02/2018 08:10

29 Dec better than 2 Jan - most people are back at work after Christmas on 2 jan. my brother got married on 28 Dec and it was a lovely time of year for a wedding.

Sarahh2014 · 03/02/2018 08:13

29th better it would be a lovely thing to look forward to in that awkward time between Xmas and new yr

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user1487519954 · 03/02/2018 08:14

Most people are quite far away but we're in the middle of them... So his family 4 hours north, mine 4 hours south, a lot of friends 2 hours away...

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mpsw · 03/02/2018 08:15

Yes, I'd go.

Probably appreciate an email tip off well in advance, because people do plan their Christmas hols a long way in advance (especially if they're factoring in which side of the family they are visiting and when).

Need to check when schools go back.

And expect those with awkward journeys to decline, or those who cannot find accommodation (if they need it). But with military families, you just have to squidge things in when you can. I think people are likely to make the effort, because they'll understand that this is the only way to fit it in.

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user1487519954 · 03/02/2018 08:15

Bum name change fail!

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TheRealCurlySue · 03/02/2018 08:16

My wedding was the 29th December and we had plenty of guests. A family member is getting married on the 29th December this year. So I would definitely go.

Sittinonthefloor · 03/02/2018 08:18

Are they Saturdays? If so that's easier. I'd find it annoying, it's our family time of year and We are normally very busy! 5th would be better, but we'd be knackerd!

WeKnowFrogsGoShaLaLaLaLa · 03/02/2018 08:21

2nd Jan puts a lot of people/ kids back at work/school. The 29th fills that gap when you’re not even sure what day it is. I’d love to go to a wedding then. 😂

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user1487519954 · 03/02/2018 08:23

Yep Saturdays.
I was worried about people thinking it's 'family time'. I think family would be OK with it, and we're of the age that most of our friends don't have their own families yet.

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ivytable · 03/02/2018 08:24

29 dec would be fine..my parents got married on 31 dec which seems to have been fine

Brakebackcyclebot · 03/02/2018 08:24

29 Dec.

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user1487519954 · 03/02/2018 08:25

5th January is the date we got engaged too

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user1487519954 · 03/02/2018 11:55

bump!

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IHeartHoumous · 03/02/2018 11:57

Don't get bogged down with 'awkward' dates OP, if you give people enough notice they can make arrangements to come if they want. If it was between those 2 I'd opt for 29 December and (if it wasn't local) probably stay an extra couple of nights and celebrate the new year in a nearby nice hotel.

hellogoodbyeendo · 03/02/2018 12:04

I would love to go to a wedding on either date. 5th Jan would help to extend the festive period. I do love a wedding though.

SequinsOnEverything · 03/02/2018 12:06

I would, I love weddings! I agree that before new years when people are still off might be better. Maybe send invites or save the dates early so they haven't made christmas plans.

fourpawswhite · 03/02/2018 12:09

I would go to either. We got married December. For us, although we didn't realise till nearer the time, we benefited from a decorated church and hotel with little effort on our part. You might not get that with January date but likely to with December date.

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user1487519954 · 03/02/2018 12:23

IHeartHoumous good point... we live in a lovely touristy place so maybe people will do that!
Thinking to send a save-the-date email to close family and friends as soon as we've decided, then they can plan around it. (or not lol)

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ivykaty44 · 03/02/2018 12:51

A lot of people have time off between Xmas and new year so would think this is an ideal time to get married, very exciting along with being romantic.

Mumguiltisabitch · 03/02/2018 12:55

I'd love the 29th a lot would be still off work and enjoy the party aspect , whereas the 5th would be the Saturday before i go backto work and kids back to school and all the preparation that entails.

HumbleCrumble · 03/02/2018 13:39

I would go! I think the 29th would be slightly better as more people would still be off, and I would also probably extend it to a New Year break.

You will get declines on any date, no matter how much you try to suit everyone, so go for when you want :)

Shitbag1511 · 03/02/2018 13:44

We did sat 3 jan
It was lovely... people saw it as an extension of the celebrations... everyone that wanted to come made the effort to. We nearly did the Saturday in between Xmas and new year but felt that lots of people already have plans or traditions.
Either date will be lovely it's a lovely time of the year to get married

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