Awkward dates

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NC in case this is identifying!
Would you go to a wedding on the 29th December?
Or the 5th of January?
Looks like those are the only ones that we can do in a 4 month interval, because my brother is in the army and going to be away before and after that for long stretches, but I'm worried people will hate it and not come...

Just thought I'd resurrect this thread because now I'm panicking!
Sent out the invitations last week, and so far 21 rsvp and no declines!
I need a couple to decline so I can have my work friends (only got 9 spare "tickets" at the moment...)

Somebody will decline right? Some of them are 300 miles away/in other countries/will have 6-week-old babies...!

even the friend doing a year in china is coming! (they'll be home for christmas)

If you go for the 29th then you need to let people know a long time in advance because a lot of people have complicated Christmas schedules with family (particularly divorced parents), in-laws etc. Some people might not be able to make it, but that will always be the case. If you get married in the summer it might interfere with people’s holiday plans.

I don’t think either date is particularly problematic though, especially if both Saturdays.

Haha so you have the opposite problem to what you expected!
We didn’t have many declines at all for our wedding and we always go to a wedding if we are invited (except for the wontimes we were invited to two weddings in the same day in different counties/countries). It’s the kind of thing people tend to put themselves out for, especially if they have plenty of notice.

@LoveInTokyo - We've moved on slightly!
@3boys3dogshelp - to be fair I love a wedding, and so do my family.. don't think I've ever turned down an invitation!
I'm winning so far, I have 19 guests and DP has 4 :)

Oh right!

How restricted are your numbers? Can you pay more for more guests or is there a hard limit on the number of people you can invite to the venue?

I'm getting married abroad (for most of my guests, it's where I live though) and we've done save the dates but not sent paper invitations.

So far everyone has said they are planning to come! So same boat as you really.

29 December

Is it for this year?

Would cost be an issue for your guests? It's already an expensive time of year anyway. Hotels will be more expensive than normal. They might also be booked up already. Especially if all the other dates are taken at the wedding venue.

I was thinking of booking at the end of January but due to the long month, people are normally skint by then. I wouldn't expect people to dip in to savings to come.

@LoveInTokyo the venue has a hard limit for sit down dinner of 120. Which sounded like loads but now actually doesn't feel like that many. We have quite a lot of family though, DP's mum is one of 6, and there's a family of 7 siblings on my mum's side, 2 of whom we're close to.

@Aebj and @Eliza9917 RTFT, it's booked already. But I have been warning people that accommodation books up fast, and put a little note on our website too, so hopefully people will get the message. A few of the younger ones are using airbnb, and stuff tends to pop up on there in a trickle, as some people only release dates so far ahead.

How long have you given them to RSVP?

I've found giving a deadline a headache. Due to some horrendous circumstances we had two families you couldn't give us a yes or no. We're having a small wedding so 8 potential guests is a lot.

5 th Jan better. We did 17 December as it was only date left in the year and we had 5 weeks to organize it.