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Awkward dates

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user1487519954 · 03/02/2018 08:07

NC in case this is identifying!
Would you go to a wedding on the 29th December?
Or the 5th of January?
Looks like those are the only ones that we can do in a 4 month interval, because my brother is in the army and going to be away before and after that for long stretches, but I'm worried people will hate it and not come...

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Bridechilla · 03/02/2018 18:37

Personally the 4th would work better for me. Especially if a lot are travelling. Hotels/trains/flights will be priced at a Christmas/NY premium in December and lots of people have traditions.

Saying that, if you're planning on 2020, it's plenty of time to prepare.

I'm not sure on school timings but I bet anyone who can will book the 2nd and 3rd off anyway in that year as it falls weirdly.

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user1487519954 · 03/02/2018 18:54

Planning dec 2018 or jan 2019

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Bridechilla · 03/02/2018 18:57

Ah, the 5th not the 4th - sorry. Misread that and gave an entirely unhelpful response Blush

UnimaginativeUsername · 03/02/2018 19:04

I went to a wedding between Christmas and new year once. I didn’t think anything of the date really. The weather was utterly atrocious though: torrential rain all day. That could happen on any date in this country though!

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user1487519954 · 03/02/2018 23:02

Thanks everyone! You've made me feel much better about it!
DP prefers the 29th, but he doesn't seem to have a particular reason for it. If we did that we could squeeze in a little honeymoon too though... I go back on Monday the 7th (University)...

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user1487519954 · 03/02/2018 23:04

@UnimaginativeUsername my very sensible friend pointed out that you can get bad weather in August too - at least if you plan for it to be bad it won't ruin your plans!
(I really hope it snows)

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whiteroseredrose · 03/02/2018 23:16

My sister's wedding was on 27th December (teachers) and was lovely. Everyone came and it fitted in well with the festive season.

fleaflyflo · 04/02/2018 09:14

Of course, especially if the wedding was a close relative

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user1487519954 · 12/02/2018 20:43

Well we've booked the church! 29th December here we come! (reception venue tomorrow!)
I've very much come round to it! and if anyone doesn't really want to come then tbh I'd rather they didn't!

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BackforGood · 12/02/2018 21:10

...... you must seek out the thread from a few weeks ago, where there was MUCH anger about a couple getting married in a Church over the Christmas period, and them moving the Church's Christmas flowers !!! Wink..... I mean, I'm sure you wouldn't, but just a heads up Grin

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user1487519954 · 12/02/2018 21:18

Haha yes I saw that! Thankfully I'm an ex-chorister, so even though I don't know the people at this particular church, I know better than to even risk offending the church ladies (bless them)!

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BackforGood · 12/02/2018 21:20
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SavageBeauty73 · 12/02/2018 21:21

I'd do either Dates. I love a wedding

HundredMilesAnHour · 12/02/2018 21:22

It depends how much notice you give. Some people will have plans to be away for New Year so 29th Jan won't work for them unless they know well in advance. I've had to miss weddings for this reason. I'd go with 5th Jan as almost all people will be available then.

Justabadwife · 12/02/2018 21:22

29th december sounds lovely.
I love a good wedding. If there's a decent hotel nearby i will PM you my address and you can pop an invitation in the post. 😂😂
Happy wedding planning ⛪

HundredMilesAnHour · 12/02/2018 21:24

Just saw you've gone for 29th Jan. Hope you have a lovely time. That date wouldn't work for us as we already have flights booked for the New Year (BA had some great sale prices) but hopefully your guests are more local.

Elderpond · 12/02/2018 21:27

Mine was 29th December. We only had 3 declines and 1 no show.

Maatsuyker · 12/02/2018 21:34

29th of december is fine. Not so keen on January, by that time I'm fed up with all of the family and eating etc. And on a new diet.

P1nkSparkles · 12/02/2018 21:36

We got married on 29th December too!! Every single person we invited came and it turned the whole festive period into like a week long party as then most people were around for Christmas and New Year too.

It was awesome!! Good luck OP - it'll be fab!!

jkl0311 · 12/02/2018 21:38

@user1487519954 29th dec everyone is cheery and in the "crimbo limbo"

Elderpond · 13/02/2018 08:23

It also gives people a bloody good excuse to get away with family they are bored with. Unfortunately mine were at the wedding.

thecatsthecats · 13/02/2018 09:12

I would go to either but I would be slightly irked by the 29th, as I enjoy schlepping around for the early part of Christmas, but like to slob around the last few days. That's just me though, and there are other factors like location.

Quick point - went to a wedding on Jan 6th this year, and would say don't judge any dodgy dresses too harshly. My dress was mostly black, but it was the only damn thing I felt comfy in after Christmas indulgence.

NataliaOsipova · 13/02/2018 09:16

It also gives people a bloody good excuse to get away with family they are bored with. Unfortunately mine were at the wedding.

😂😂😂

sugarycerealfan · 13/02/2018 11:00

29th would be better for most people I think Smile like a PP said there's always a lull between Christmas and NY.
I'm at a wedding on Boxing Day this and really not looking forward to it!!!

Eliza9917 · 20/02/2018 13:45

If you explain why, i'm sure no one would have a problem, just give them plenty of notice.

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