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Do I have to get my mum some sort of flower thing??

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HeirToTheIronThrone · 12/04/2013 14:24

So I was having a discussion with DM last night about a dress she has bought to wear to my wedding, and she said she'd decided against it as the fabric is quite thin 'and so she wouldn't be able to attach a corsage'.

Is this something I'm expected to get???? I have never heard of women having one, we have buttonholes for the groom and best men, but for mother of the bride too?

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RhinestoneCowgirl · 12/04/2013 14:27

We had corsages for my mum, MIL and my sort of bridesmaid, but they're not obligatory (any more than buttonholes for men).

IIRC they were lighterweight than the men's buttonholes.

willyoulistentome · 12/04/2013 14:27

Yes. Its quite traditional for the couple to buy close family, best man, ushers etc s corsage. It makes sure everyone matches. My mum had one.. but then she did TELL me to get her one.

springlamb · 12/04/2013 14:30

We had traditional buttonholes for the male wedding-party and orchids for the ladies.
By wedding party I mean those in direct line of the bride/groom, ie parents and grandparents, siblings and of course children from previous relationships if any, although did not include bridesmaids as they 'stood out' anyway.

salcz · 12/04/2013 14:35

I had them for mum, mil and gm. Sisters were both bm so had their own flowers.

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HeirToTheIronThrone · 12/04/2013 16:24

Hmm, so it seems I do need to get her something. Will add it to my ever-growing list!

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MummyPig24 · 13/04/2013 06:24

My mum died when I was 15 so I got one for my grandma (she is taking mums place on the top table) and mil. Feeling guilty that I maybe should have got my aunt one too?

AGreenie · 13/04/2013 06:47

I got my mum one which had a magnet to attach it rather than a pin, so it didn't put a hole in her jacket. I also got my sil a wrist corsage, as she was taking the place of the best man, and my daughter got a flower wand.....

RhinestoneCowgirl · 13/04/2013 10:41

We had the magnetic ones too, was v clever. Lovely orchids I think (was over 10 yrs ago now!)

LippiPongstocking · 22/04/2013 15:56

Mums love flowers - if you're getting the groom's party buttonholes, I suspect your mum will be upset if there's no corsage.

memphis83 · 24/04/2013 23:30

Our florist can do corsages for the mothers that go on the jacket, wrist or handbag. They are traditionally a bit larger than the mens buttonholes.

SquigglePigs · 29/04/2013 11:20

The groom, father of the bride and father of the groom had buttonholes. The mothers didn't and nobody mentioned it (and they would have if they thought it was important!). We bought the mums flowers as gifts that we gave later, but not to wear. If it's important to her then it's probably worth you getting her something, but I don't think it's a requirement.

watchingout · 07/05/2013 16:25

I organised lovely corsages for DM and MIL that coordinated with my bouquet and the men's buttonholes. Then MIL don't you bother about me dear "lost" hers

TobyLerone · 08/05/2013 14:55

She obviously wants one. It's quite traditional. MIL wanted one, my mum didn't.

Pandemoniaa · 09/05/2013 15:18

If she's mentioned wearing a corsage, I'd be inclined to get her one. It's a tradition you can choose to ignore but if it'd hurt her feelings then I wouldn't ignore it.

EuroShaggleton · 09/05/2013 15:19

We had them for my mother and MIL.

nappyaddict · 22/07/2013 14:28

At the weddings I've been to it's the groom, best man, ushers, fathers of bride and groom that wear button holes but no corsages for mothers of bride and groom.

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