Checked her to refresh weaning DC3 and oh my goodness we are all up in arms, are people thinking too much these days?

[Roca]

Surely it's baby seems ready for food, try them on this and that and before you know it they are joining in with your meals.

Oh and mine started on puree, then progessed to finger food then 'normal' meals. And now believe it or not they eat just like little human beings - curry and everything, never had to cook a different 'baby' meals for them.

And I weaned my first 2 from 17 weeks (the old guidelines) shock horror

Perlease, life is busy enough without 'my DC played with a bit of brocolli today he is doing so well on the feeding'

Just to clarify - am I now not supposed to give my DC a spoon or something for fear of hindering them in later life?

I'm glad your children turned out all right, but there's no need to take the piss.
If you're going to criticise, at least know what you're talking about first.

Oh lighten up. And I do not what I'm talking about. I'm the perfect mum.

not perfect typer though! Meant know - brain to busy thinking about weaning

what an odd, mildly aggressive op.

my thoughts exactly, jooseyfruit - not sure what the point was apart from to taunt people.

That post was fairly spectacularly outwith Mumsnet's general philosophy of mutual support and shared experience.

It seemed to me to be a rather scathing attack on those who are trying to do their best for their children by adhering to modern, scientifically substantiated guidelines.

Maybe the DoH, WHO and UNICEF are wrong - maybe we should all be listening to the real expert here, huh Roca?

Most unpleasant.

3/10

well as a little anecdote - I also weaned my first 2 at 17 weeks on purees. I was still feeding DS1 from a fork or spoon when he was 3yrs old, DS2 marginally better at 2yrs old.

I BLW'ed DS3 last year and OMG what a blesssed relief, SO bloody easy. No faffing with puréeing things, he was feeding himself with a spoon at just over 1yr old - and if I so much dare to not give him cutler (because it can be eaten with fingers) he marches off to the cutlery drawer and gets his own (he's 21 months).

It was meant merely as an observation of all the confusion that seems to be out there and was not meant to offend.

Blimey

some children do really well with progressing onto solids, some don;t, regardless of BLW or puree or a mix of finger foods and puree

give your child a spoon or not, let them use their fingers or not, but it is silly to pretend the more recent guidelines are a load of tosh.

no need to be so sarky about it

your first sentence is basically the essence of BLW, by the way. a baby showing physical signs of maturity and readiness for food.. ie. sitting unaided, grabbing for food, loss of tongue thrust reflex, pincer grip, ability to pick up, chew and swallow food.... leaving bits of food on the highchair tray to try is surely easier than mashing/pureeing. whihc is not that much effort really anyway.

the onyl thing is to know which are the reliable signs of readiness for food.. night waking and taking more milk are not reliable signs of physical gut maturity

you don't sound all that confused tbh.
you sound like you know your thoughts on the subject, and are having a bit of a go!

you wean your dcs exactly as you see fit.

I'm confused. Who did you check? And are they now refreshed? Could someone please clarify?

your tone was certainly not neutral or asking for clarification

parents do get sensitive about feeding. nutrition is more than food going into a child, and lots of parents make a big emotional investment in how they feed and wean.

the NHS and DoH leaflets and info are really quite clear about weaning.

if you choose to wean how you weaned a few years ago, and that is your informed choice, based on what you know now, then go for it

don;t expect everyone to be so laidback, some parents do read/research/think deeply about how they will wean their baby onto solid food, and i don;t think that is a bad thing

Yes, I'm confused too.

ok ok I'm so sorry - now can you please leave me alone

Lol at starting a shit stirring thread and then telling people to leave you alone because they did exactly what you wanted them to!

Roca - you should have donned a tin helmet nefore posting!

FWIW I too think that treating weaning like a scientific experiment rather than a "suck it and see" is rather OTT.

But there seems to be a constant search to do things the "RIGHT" way - and "suck it and see" is not directive enough for many.

I mean IMO

weaning at 6 months months is the correct time to aim for - BUT there is prob no difference between 5 months 3 weeks and 6 months...

no cows milk until one year has been interpreted as giving a 9 month old baby half a cup of cows milk to swig may well damage them - though the same volume on cereal is ok

etc etc

Just chill

I think the thing that's really unpleasant is the disdainful "Perlease, life is busy enough without 'my DC played with a bit of brocolli today he is doing so well on the feeding'". The whole tone is deriding of people who are just excited by their children's new experiences. Whether you meant it or not Roca, surely you can see how inflammatory your wording is.

On the whole I think the complaints about MNers sneering at PFB mums are unjustified but I felt this really was a dig at excited and conscientious new mums from someone who's been there done that and evidently thinks that because it's no longer new for her it shouldn't matter anymore. To anyone.

It made me really actually.

Well, the irony is that Roca came here to refresh her knowledge on weaning for her dc3. So it can't be that bloody intuitive, can it?

oh nice observation, habbibu. It was the 'perlease' bit that got me too - very belittling of the exciting experiences of a new mother and against the spirit of MN.

Personally I think this was just a shit troll.

FWIW I didn't find the OP at all offensive, but quite funny !

She does have a point. Guidelines are what we all aspire to but are not always achievable for a whole host of reasons. And the puree v BLW comes down to personal preference, neither will cause major, lasting psycological damage.

It seems to me that there are alot of 'heavies' around that can't wait to pile in if anyone should raise their head above the parapit, and express a different view to their own.

Isn't the way to a harmonious existence to respect other peoples opinions, whilst being free to offer your own, in a non judgemental, non accusatory manner ?

Oh, and maintaining a sense of humour also helps !

I'm sure I will now be shot down, but it needed to be said...

Hi I am pretty new so don't kill me!

Well said Beaufies. Agree about the "heavies". Anyone who posts anything on here that isn't about baby led weaning are usually advised to BLW (even though they haven't asked to) or pointed in the direction of the puree thread. Which I personally think is rather unwelcoming to new posters/mothers and not very much in the ideology of Mumsnet.

Head above parapet - v. scared!

Oh BTW I thought that the OP was v funny too....