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Checked her to refresh weaning DC3 and oh my goodness we are all up in arms, are people thinking too much these days?

141 replies

Roca · 08/03/2009 11:02

Surely it's baby seems ready for food, try them on this and that and before you know it they are joining in with your meals.

Oh and mine started on puree, then progessed to finger food then 'normal' meals. And now believe it or not they eat just like little human beings - curry and everything, never had to cook a different 'baby' meals for them.

And I weaned my first 2 from 17 weeks (the old guidelines) shock horror

Perlease, life is busy enough without 'my DC played with a bit of brocolli today he is doing so well on the feeding'

Just to clarify - am I now not supposed to give my DC a spoon or something for fear of hindering them in later life?

OP posts:
6inchnipples · 08/03/2009 21:14

i thought the op was funny not aggresive.

Lighten up you lot!

Alot changes in a few years, guidlines change all the time, we are all just doing our best for our little ones (but you do have more time on your hands with a pfb!)

I'm sure the op was written light heartedly!
No need to drag her to the dock!

NotAnOtter · 08/03/2009 21:17

i agree 6 inch and laughed with the op

blw is taken FAR too seriously

friends of mine with children as young as 3 laugh when i mention blw and how seriously folk take it

One said if she had blw her dc5 he would have been yanking turkey legs out of her hands at 5 weeks old!

6inchnipples · 08/03/2009 21:26

Funny enough notanotter when i was telling my friend about the blw chat she was like 'god they're really going for it eh??' clearly surprised at the amount of chat it can generate!!

I have 3 under 5 and with my pfb i was so careful to do it all 'right', all organic, everything sterilised etc etc , 2nd bit more chilled and 3rd ..well i've worried far less and enjoyed her far more.

There are alot of serious blw folk but then each to their own, as long as they remember that too

NotAnOtter · 08/03/2009 21:31
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NotAnOtter · 08/03/2009 21:32

Life's too short to get het up about finger food!

6inchnipples · 08/03/2009 21:35

Now quick, run

NotAnOtter · 08/03/2009 21:37

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cass66 · 09/03/2009 16:11

whispers - I agree with the OP - runs away and hides...

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 09/03/2009 17:59

i thought it was funny. there is a bit of a blw orthodoxy on mn it seems and I too think what's the big deal.....

Peachy · 09/03/2009 18:06

As long as your baby is safely ready for food and you're not going to buy one of those silly gadgets that look like scourers but are in fact dummies to isert banana in to stop baby chocking (fgs) then do it the way you want. Educate yourself and make your decisions.

That goes for most tings, really. Esp. the bit about buying the gadget..... whatever the dilemma, there's always a gadget

Ds4 waited until 6 months for food and is losng allergies whilst te ds's 1 and 3 are still developing some: works for me!

Peachy · 09/03/2009 18:10

'It was the 'perlease' bit that got me too - very belittling of the exciting experiences of a new mother and against the spirit of MN. '

In all reality the only way the OP differed from quite a lot of old MN (being a poster since 2001 I get to judge ) is that the OP spelled purlease wrong.

There's a note lately of sanctifying MN old: it was good, I loved it but heck it was hardline!

Not judging- now that really si against the point of MN. The message and idea no, but the reality.

Rocareturns · 09/03/2009 19:42

ok, here goes:

  1. I typed the message whilst breastfeeding and my mind was on the rest of the day so apologies for lack of serious thought of use of words and for the spelling of pur /perlease or whaterver - who cares?!
  1. Having looked at threads of those genuinely needing help on weaning and seeing the 'hawks' coming in and giving their 'advice' really got my goat - if someone needs help with weaning at 21 weeks they don't really need help being told that they shouldn't be weaning - a big horrah to those who do genuinely help
  1. The pattern mentioned above seems to be repeated time and time again on here and whilst you slag of a lot of HV advice at least they are not so judgemental as you
  1. Thanks for those who 'got' it
  1. I by no means belittle those experiencing things for the first time - motherhood is fantastic and all new experiences are to be shared and enjoyed. I second the position mentioned above that sometimes it can be a little too scientific and this can detract from the enjoyment of motherhood
  1. I think MN is fantastic for all sorts of resources and advice (I have used it for comfort through miscarriage and advice of my kids illnesses and behaviours! ) but this thread has confirmed how I feel about it with the do-gooders who don't actually do any good but are just bullies.
  1. I really couldn't give a flying you know what about any responses on here - I think it is sad how people get attacked.
  1. I'm off to go shag my husband - maybe you should try and do the same

I won't be responding again as have enough in life to deal with without a slanging match on here - thanks a lot ladies - well done

FairMidden · 09/03/2009 20:08

I hate this talk of "hawks" and "heavies", or worse, "bullies". This sort of accusation is always levelled at posters who don't automatically validate others people's decisions. It's shit.

If you post for advice, and then you don't like the advice you get, then ignore it. Don't start slagging off those who took the time to respond with suggestions. That goes for those asking for help with early weaning, planning a birth, deciding how to feed, and even just what shoes to wear with an outfit.

If someone posts asking about early weaning, I will give them my opinion (that it is not the right thing to do given that we have evidence to show that it may harm some babies). They can ignore that if they like, it's their choice, but they can fuck off with calling me a "bully".

Roca, you only got attacked because your post had such a deriding tone. You may not care but for other mums it is important.

SnowlightMcKenzie · 09/03/2009 20:09

Thank for you advice Roca. I'll leave some of it, but might try no.8!

smallorange · 09/03/2009 20:15

Sorry but - there is a seperate thread for people who feed their babies purees? Are you kidding?

You are joking...

AitchTwoOh · 09/03/2009 20:18

'hawks'?

oh dear.

what about aggressive OPs designed to cause a fight? how are we supposed to feel about them, Roca, do tell...

AitchTwoOh · 09/03/2009 20:19

yeah, there is, smallorange. some people set it up because they wanted to be able to talk about how to dismantle the annabel karmel food grinder without some well-meaning mner saying 'you know you don't have to do that, don't you?'

fair enough, surely?

Pinkglow · 09/03/2009 20:25

well im a new mother and I found the original post funny (as it was entended to be)

After looking through the posts on here I wont be posting for advice unless my baby is ready to be weaned at 6 months and I go for BLW otherwise I can see what kind of response Id get. I think thats sad as I love MN and have gotten loads of great advice from it.

Pinkglow · 09/03/2009 20:33

ooops I mean 'intended'

AitchTwoOh · 09/03/2009 20:33

oh bloody hell...

this is sad, really sad.

if you asked about weaning before six months and on purees, then yes, some people would ask why you were thinking of weaning early. and others would say, do you know you don't have to do purees? fgs, is everyone so thin-skinned that they can't tolerate people doing things differently? cos i'll tell you what, anyone who's done BLW has weaned their children in the real world, they KNOW that they're in the minority, they're trying to HELP.

and if you don't want their help, then there is the entire rest of the internet, every health professional, friend, parent and book, as well as a substantial amount of parents many of whom congregate on one self-styled puree-lovers thread who can advise.

what a bloody BORE this is.

Deanna1977 · 09/03/2009 20:35

Well I am glad that there is a seperate BLW thread now so that the lovely Mums can talk about how to cook porridge to the right consistency for finger food without some well meaning mner saying "you know you don't have to do that, don't you? Use a spoon!"

fair enough surely?

smallorange · 09/03/2009 20:36

Oh Pinkglow I am sure there are loads of sensible people who will give great advice on ideas for food, etc when the time comes.

I got fantastic advice for my DD1 years ago from a sympathetic mumsnetter - I still remeber her name, Traceyk!

It's a shame it's all got so political as good advice and ideas are really helpful at this stage.

Deanna1977 · 09/03/2009 20:37

Joke BTW........

AitchTwoOh · 09/03/2009 20:42

there's no need for it to be political, this is a total embarrassment.

you want to know why there are so many people doing BLW on MN? because MN is so highly indexed on google.

type in BLW and MN comes up, so people join MN post on weaning threads and lo, a community develops. that's all. that's why it seems so disproportionate. but in fact the whole rest of the world is doing something else, so you can see why there's a bit of huddling together.

what i don't understand, truly, is how someone can be doing the same thing as everyone else, all HCPs, all books etc and still be so prickly about it. live and let live, eh?

giantkatestacks · 09/03/2009 20:44

Come on Aitch - thats a bit unfair - about the AK grinder thing - I have never opened one of those books in my life, we're not all as mad as a box of frogs on the puree thread you know

[whispers] I didnt feed my baby any mush at all today. Ahem apart from porridge that is...

And I disagree that we cant tell people that weaning at 21 weeks is against the guidelines - I think people should be encouraged to wait until their baby is ready and dont feel in any way apologetic for having that opinion.

As for the OP it got the reaction it wanted didnt it - its all so tedious this blw v purees stuff.

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