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Weaning

Find weaning advice from other Mumsnetters on our Weaning forum. Use our child development calendar for more information.

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Original poster

so without getting thrown off the very friendly site how do I tell her not to do it?

51 replies

whatANOTHERparentingsite · 21/05/2008 13:39

weaning at 12 weeks

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jingleyjen · 21/05/2008 13:44

do people really do that?

BeauLocks · 21/05/2008 13:46

lol @ comment from another poster "I didn't wean mine til 17 weeks..."

onepieceoflollipop · 21/05/2008 13:47

I think you can say most things on the other site as long as you a) don't mention mnet. b) put lots of kisses etc after your name, and some very personal info about your love life/menstrual cycle or similar
c) don't swear.

I would tend to just ignore it, sorry no constructive advice.

DaddyJ · 21/05/2008 13:48

Here is a similar thread from another nice forum.
(courtesy of TinkerbellesMum)

Might give you inspiration!

learningallthetime · 21/05/2008 13:49

whats the other site?

I know someone who was giving baby rice at 12 weeks

Tutter · 21/05/2008 13:49

yikes @ "moderator"

policywonk · 21/05/2008 13:51

It sounds as though she's already made up her mind, doesn't it? Not sure you'll be able to say anything to convince her.

onepieceoflollipop · 21/05/2008 13:51

p.s. I really hope she doesn't mean oat porridge. Imo that is even worse. (it has very similar components to gluten and not a good idea imo)

mummypig · 21/05/2008 13:51

oh dear no advice really as it seems like you will be the lone voice amongst all the people telling her it's fine.

However I 'waited' until about 4 months to introduce solids to ds1 and he has had various food sensitivities and now I wish I'd waited longer - could you tell her a story like that or do you think they'd all think you were scaremongering?

The early weaning certainly never helped his sleeping either; he was always a terrible sleeper. But then so often people see what they are looking for, and ignore things that don't back up their pet theories.

learningallthetime · 21/05/2008 13:52

doh! just followed the link to the other site - ignore me!

nickytwotimes · 21/05/2008 13:52

Agree with pw, she's not going to change her mind unfortunately.

God, I've a headache at these colourful sites!

Meandmyjoe · 21/05/2008 13:53

I think it's too late I'm afraid, sounds like she's made up her mind and is already doing it! It's her baby though and I guess if he's miserable and hungry then it's her choice. I would have definitely waited longer though. My ds was very very hungry and was drinking around 60 oz of first stage milk a day. I felt like he was constantly feeding but it kept him happy so I carried on til he was nearly 6 months. It is a personal decision. All I would do is point out the scientific evidence of the damage it can do and then leave her to make her own mind up.

prettybird · 21/05/2008 13:59

I had a recent incidient when w work colelgaue came in with her 14 week old baby (who was 5 weeks premature) and she was going on about "only two weeks before I can wean him" with great glee.

I had to use so much self restraint not to say anything, as she was not that clsoe a friend - and also her MIL is a midwife and has been "advising" her.

But inside I was and

ShowOfHands · 21/05/2008 14:03

Yikes that's a horrid site. Tickers are extremely offensive to the likes of me. I'm clearly a bad mother as I have no idea how many seconds old my darling cutie pie is.

My sil has just started weaning at 13 weeks as dn is "looking interested". My dd is very interested in flames, should I give her a lit match?

And the perpetuation of this big baby/early weaning rubbish is galling. DD was 24lb when she had her first solids.

policywonk · 21/05/2008 14:10

CantSleepWontSleep · 21/05/2008 14:16

Ooh - do you use that site a lot? I used to be a regular on the site that they all came from, but didn't move across because of both the tickers and the fact that my parenting style is much more 'MN' than 'BB'. There's no way you'll change anyone's mind over there I'm afraid.

jingleyjen · 21/05/2008 14:22

what do you mean the site they all came from?? sounds cryptic

CantSleepWontSleep · 21/05/2008 14:26

There was (and still is, though deserted these days) another forum, but there was no registration system, and they suffered a lot from trolls. The moderators were never around, and everyone got pissed off with it, so one of the regulars went off and set up BB, and most people moved across. Nothing cryptic!

FruitynNutty · 21/05/2008 14:28

I gave my DS baby rice at 10 weeks. He was so hungry I couldn't physically get any more "hungry" milk down him! This is why I wasn't so by the link. I think all babies are different. Some like to be weaned earlier than others. However, DS was almost 10lbs when born (c-section thank goodness). Being a larger baby, I think he needed more He's a sprightly nearly 3 year old now and very healthy

CantSleepWontSleep · 21/05/2008 14:36

FruitynNutty · 21/05/2008 14:45

Thanks Cantsleepwontsleep I'll copy and paste to that thread

JustGetOnWithIt · 21/05/2008 15:01

As an academic researcher in parenting practices, I am very curious to know how people balance 'instinct' against 'expert' advice. Can people tell me more about this?

Also, for those going down the BLW/later weaning route, what harm are you aiming to avoid/what outcomes for your baby are you trying to achieve?

What evidence do you see that previous methods of feeding and weaning have caused problems for the adults those babies became?

SHEENA1 · 22/05/2008 13:15

Dont be worried I have just started giving my ds baby rice he has just turned 13 weeks and loving it i only give him 3 wee spoonfuls around 10 am that seams to help him for rest of day he is a big baby and the hungry baby milk just wasn't satisfieing him I think its up to the parent to make decisions as to whats best for there kids friends and family can advise . aslo my dd is 2 and she was on baby rice from 12 weeks not done her any harm shes a happy intlegent little girl x

Christiania · 22/05/2008 13:19

I think it must be because bottle feeding is so incredibly dull and difficult and I would be dying to wean onto other stuff if I was bottle feeding.

Flame · 22/05/2008 13:21

"been on hungry baby milk since he was 1 week old and was drinking so much to fill him that it was making him sick."

Aren't lots of babies sick ?

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