i weaned early and i cant rememebr when cos i haev a LIFE

[OrvilleRedenbacher]

all kids alive
no allergieshealth issues/skin cpmlaints

oh change the subject, this is very dull....

Seriously though, how is it that Hunker says "fuck off" and is rounded on somewhat, and CAM says "fuck off" but it is deemed she was being bullied?

Someone explain the difference?

Or is "Im being bullied" a new MN Trump Card?

I'm being bullied.

No I'm being bullied

Actually, to a certain extent, some posts on this thread, judging by some folks standards, are bullying hunker a little .

From what I understood from that thread, most of the problems came from people (wilfully or otherwise) misinterpreting the OP and continuing to do so when it was clarified. I didn't see anything more than the usual "robust" discussion.

The deleted thread was in a different vein altogether.

Hunker, Aitch and others are doing a sterling job in trying to raise awareness of issues that some mums might not be familiar with. I for one have learned loads since joining MN and believe me, I have had my disagreements with some people. Yes, the threads might be contraversial sometimes but they get noticed - job done.

I agree with Twinkle.

Weaning might be very boring to some, but for those of us with children with allergies (to pick one example), it's pretty scary to think that what you decide to do probably has a big impact on your child's health.

In that situation, it's brilliant to have people to chat to who are also trying to figure out the same things.

And when you've read a lot about this, you realise that in fact there's plenty of evidence that weaning could be important for more than just the allergic children - and it's frustrating to see people being dismissive of that.

Not putting words in Hunker's mouth, but I think this is where she's coming from. I feel that frustration too, even if I express it differently.

Anyone who thinks it's boring - please just go away and read something else. I mean this in the nicest possible way. Just accept that it is important to some people, and that lurkers may well be getting a lot of useful info from the discussions.

I really hope you don't think that I was bullying Hunker QV, or indeed that I upset her callously. Her reaction was ott and I just wanted to point that out to her, she was too wound up.

No, I dont think you were bullying her. But the thread in general is, and some folk have taken some glee in posting adversely about her.

My comment regarding what she said - and I havent said she was right to swear, was that plenty of other people were willing to tell her so, yet, when CAM told me to fuck off - four times the other night without me having done anything to provoke her on the thread, it was deemed "okay" because she was being bullied. Just an observation.

Whwn seeing people being sneery about discussions on milk, weaning and food, and semi-boasting about how they ignored all the research, I sometimes get a feeling of watching someone sauntering unawares towards a giant banana skin.

And since I really couldn't care less what other people do with their children generally, it takes a LOT for me to feel concern.

I say nothing because it's not my business what other people do, and I have no right to tell others hwo to raise their children.

But still..... I believe that banana skin is out there. It's not called a banana skin, it has other names such as "programming hypothesis", but it could trip us all up just as surely.

dd1 was weaned at 10 weeks

she is 15 tomorrow

ds2 was 6m tho, he is 6

how times change

And I got called a bully and I'm not.

If someone nice who hasn't screeched at me to FUck Off tells me I am a bully, I will take a longer, harder look at myself, but nobody has yet, despite being asked to.

No CAM had no right to swear at you. There is definitely something up with her, a complete and total over reaction imo.

I don't mind being sworn at much, actually, but she was so angry I was worried, I honestly was worried, and it came out as shock horror, and when she didn't calm down, I didn't know what to do.

Arrrrgh

No I know, sorry I was referring to QV but that is my point, she was ott with you too. It was very uncomfortable reading.

Sorry DS called

The reason I don't feel irritated is that I don't believe anyone is 'pontificating' on for the sake of it. I believe that people are giving good, well meant advice. It would just be nice if there was some recognition that leaving it until six months is not the norm and people need advice for pre-six month weaning.

I'm sorry - I'm fairly new and I hate to think that I've joined a thread to poke at Hunker because I've lurked on several things she's said and have a lot of respect for the lady.

Well indeed....and effectively, how we have arrived here, no?

You know what - Hunker has been doing a LOT of work on here over the last few weeks in particular. She is genuinely interested in women's points of view and reasons for doing things a certain way. Not that I want to put words in her mouth mind. But I wish people would stop slagging her off.

There are many people posting on the food/weaning/breastfeeding threads who are extremely entrenched and narrow-minded in their views and who have upset me a great deal in the past. Hunker (with one exception very early in my MN career) is very definitely not one of them.

[don't take a long break Hunker - please!]

I saw your posts colditz, and FWIW I thought you were spot on.

OMG has Hunker flounced, noooooooooooooooooo

I didn't realise (rather stupidly it now appears) that this was a dig at Hunker

I should have carried on lurking...

Nooo - I don't want to be responsible for spreading rumours. I just saw her post earlier this evening that she was stepping away for a while - she might just have meant until tomorrow. I don't know, but I'm sure flouncing wouldn't be her style.

MassiveBoobs....i really dont think you have anything to apologise or be embarrassed about. Tis one of those things i think.

Twinkle - thats absolutely spot on. Hunker has been working closely with a hospital wrt to b/feeding etc, and weaning of course is naturally the next step.

As a caring woman who is taking time out from her busy life to address the poor state of b/feeding support for hundreds of women, I dont think any of the comments made here have been very fair.

however, that is the problem with the internet, you can only take each post at face value and you dont always know the full story. Hey ho...im sure I am boring many folk now

what? See I missed all this, by not being present on the thread. hunker is gone>? Noooo

Noooo - forget I said anything. I have no idea!

She's not leaving. But she is very busy, and this whole daftness has taken up too much of her time over the last few days when she should be busy packing and organising for her house move.