Over heard conversation in Asda today re: jars

[jmum6]

Was in Asda buying follow on milk when 2 women came looking at the baby food.

'Really can't be doing with cooking for him' says one woman.

'No' says the other 'what a waste of time.'

Didn't know whether to laugh or cry. :o

Olive oil, you are sure she was just stirring?
I re-iterate, that I would bring my child up on Jar food before I brought themn up to be so down right rude, unsympathetic and intollerant.
It is not funny, it does not make for good debate, and it hurts.
Am soo angry about her comment re:terminal cancer sufferers!

i've just read this whole conversation and i'm really disgusted that everyone can be so judgemental. i have a very busy life and i fed my daughter jars up until she was 12 month's. i still give her jars but try to give her fresh home cooked food as much as possible. for you guys to judge people like me is appauling, you probably think you have it bad being "stay at home parents" who have all the time in the world to cook for hours!

Good tamum? It's bloody amazing, never thought we'd see the day....And definitely thanks to school. Peachy- don't worry after doing Sainsbury's with help (direct payments person) I got cocky and did the bank without help. Oh dear! I can only apolgise if you were the person having a private meeting with the bank manager- I thought I had hold of ds1s harness strap as well as his hand but it was his PECS book.

Phew...

Go expat, loving your work!

student - i agree that jar - users have had a rough time on this thread and that imo the term 'abuse' was totally insulting to real abused people.

I am a sahm and would never judge working mums for their choices .....HOWEVER i am not sitting on my fat fanny conjuring up recipes. Being a sahm is not a vacation

sm1 what makes you think that all the people who fed their babies home cooked food are SAHMs? Enid is not. I am not.

Studentmum - I too was a full time working mum (in the city.... away from 7 to 7....though now I have changed career!) and I didn't give a jar.... I just didn't.... I do not think cooking for babies is a big job at all (though Annabel Karmel makes it a huge job!)

The implication that they are there 24/7 to provide 3+ square, home cooked, lentil filled, organic, full of love meals a day, Bozza.

Then again, there are alot of assumptions about people on this thread.

I dont agree with any assumptions made here.

"studentmum"

Not studying English then? Your spelling is awful

Well, you sahms will cook with all that dried peas, beans and lentils rubbish wont you lockets

It's actually easier being a single mother, working part time AND running a house

The free time I have, the amount of hobbies I have taken up, the hours I spend lovingly preparing amazing meals.

Sigh, Im so lucky

structured activity and heuristic play of course. along with handwashing your washable nappies, and arts and crafts.

dd had organic jars and home made pureed food. Of the two, she always ate the jar food and rarely ate the pureed food. Yes, they were expensive but alos convenient. She is a happy and healthy child with a varied taste in food which includes curries and other spicy foods. She also loves a good roast dinner, crispy duck and medium rare steak.

I also feed Waitrose kids meals to her now when I know we're going to be pushed for time . So go ahead and report me to Social Services for child abuse. Talk about a sanctimonious, up yourself statement - get real.

Enid did stress that she was talking about only ever using jars with no fresh food at all.

Well said Galaxy!!

(you're my favorite chocolate too!!)

Regardless, it isn't child abuse.

pmsl that this thread is still going strong.
I did actually read your post too StudentMum and thought it was a bit hypocritical.
You call people judgemental (which they are and i've agreed with that- this thread is appalingly smug) and then go on to judge all SAHM's. Including me btw and beleive me, i do not have hours to cook.

One thing that gets me - why is post natal depression used as a possible excuse on MN for otherwise 'good' mothers to do something perceived as 'naughty', like bottle feed or give your child jars or stick them in front of the TV or send them to a day nursery - all of which have been on here in the past few weeks with strong opinions expressed, only to be countered by "Don't judge her, she may have been suffering pnd."

Why can't you do these things and be of sound mind? Why would only a manic depressive feed their baby from jars? Or someone who didn't really love her child?

Isn't it more likely to be that people don't necessarily know how to cook? Surely the Jamie Oliver programme showed that is abundance. I was taught cooking at school in the 70's but it was still only chelsea buns and bread. I was well into my 20's before I had the confidence to cook meat and two veg. And I still can't make gravy. But I'm a pretty good cook - I think.

However with DS1 I did use quite a lot of jars, purely because I didn't have the self-confidence to believe that my home cooking was better. I was scared to add too much of this or that in case I poisoned my baby. He's now 6 and is a reasonably healthy eater but still quite fussy about trying new things.

With DS2 I hardly used any jars. I just mashed everything we had. He's now 2 and for the last 18 months has been eating my spaghetti bolognese which has salt and red wine in it. he also loves my risotto which is made with dry martini. (A Jamie Oliver recipe). I know I'm not poisioning him but there's no way I would have done it 6 years ago, I just wouldn't have had the confidence.

My point is, if you don't know how to cook and have the confidence to do it, you'll take what appears to be the easier option. Until kids - girls and boys - are taught proper cooking in schools it won't change.

Wordsmith I feel I strongly disagree.
Lets get something into perspective.
Bottle feeding and jars are not 'naughty'. They contain food that has a nutritional. It may be bland compaired to homecooked food. But it is homecooked fooed none the less.

If you look back this thread was pondering how people could afford to feed their babys purely jars. Not why they did it.

NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE EFFECTS OF POST NATAL DEPRESSION!

And telling potential sufferes they are using it as an excuse to give their baby naughty things is heading into very dangerous teritory.

CAn you find me any scientific evidence to suggest that jar food is not a nutritionally acceptable alternative to home cooked food and then perhaps I would consider some substance to your argument. Otherwise I find your observations on pnd offensive.

I want to scream.