Children chalking over our land

[Charliec12]

Hi all, am I over reacting? My neighbours brought their children some chalks at the weekend. The children are chalking everywhere with them including on my driveway which we half share with them. My OH said to one of the children tonight that the area looked a mess. Said child started crying and then the Mum came out and was confrontational and annoyed with me that I don’t agree with it looking nice in the area. I also have 2 young children and I get they want to have fun.

God my neighbour bought my daughter chalk one summer and asked her to colour her wall in kept her busy for hours stop being a miserable shit 🙄

I live a very enjoyable life thanks as do my dc.

It's just having those thoughts in your head that I don't understand. That unhappy bitterness.

Wow. That's for your ableist comments that conclude my sister with her chronic and debilitating OCD and anxiety over chaos and mess who would find mindless colourful scribbling done without her control on her property unbearable to the point that she would possibly need more medication is just a shit.

We cannot shut down every activity that “might” trigger someone with OCD, seriously. It’s your sister’s responsibility to manage her condition as she sees fit.

This. Don’t nitpick about neighbors unless you are prepared to get just as much pettiness in return. What goes around comes around.

Children chalking on your driveway is absolutely not, in any way, the same as them screaming and running around in a restaurant, or any of the other whatabouts mentioned on this thread.

When you have to use false equivalence fallacy to back your position, you have an untenable position.

So, your husband made a child cry for no reason, and there's not much that can be done about that. Don't do it again and try to be better neighbours and nicer people in future. You may need their help someday.

We cannot shut down every activity that “might” trigger someone with OCD, seriously. It’s your sister’s responsibility to manage her condition as she sees fit

Well said. The sister should steer clear of houses with shared driveways like the OPs house.

It's not 'unhappy bitterness' it's expecting people to parent their kids. Not much of it goes on sadly, they are allowed to do as they like and God forbid someone tells them no and makes poor bubz cry.

Keep their mess, toys, noise and chalk off neighbour's shared areas. It isn't rocket science, it's called showing a teensy bit of consideration.

Bet Op has name changed and come back on to comment

It's not 'unhappy bitterness' it's expecting people to parent their kids.

It is, having those thoughts in your head makes you a certain type of person.

When most people see the young children of their next door neighbour drawing with chalk they think things like 'oh, there's Samantha drawing a cat' but you would get the hose out and your thoughts are "They were lucky they didn't get backed onto by a car. Now that would have given them something to cry about."

100%.
I am not normally petty, and would go out of my way to help a neighbour out.
But if the OP was my neighbour I would not do a thing for her. Sorry, nope.

@GreenTeaLikesMe

We cannot shut down every activity that “might” trigger someone with OCD, seriously. It’s your sister’s responsibility to manage her condition as she sees fit.
Which she does Einstein. IN HER OWN HOME
perhaps instead of demanding she finds some way of 'managing her condition' in her own property, people like you should consider keeping your feral kids off her land?
Just a suggestion hey.

@RoastLambs

Well said. The sister should steer clear of houses with shared driveways like the OPs house.
Or just a thought, people should respect other peoples property and not let their feral kids loose on other peoples land.

It's not "other people's land." It's a SHARED driveway, which means they both have access to it and the kids can be as feral as they like provided they are not blocking OP's access. It's OP who needs to go back to kindergarten and learn to SHARE.

"kids can be as feral as they like". This attitude is why we are in this position now. Adults not parenting children.

Glad I'm not your neighbour.