Children chalking over our land

[Charliec12]

Hi all, am I over reacting? My neighbours brought their children some chalks at the weekend. The children are chalking everywhere with them including on my driveway which we half share with them. My OH said to one of the children tonight that the area looked a mess. Said child started crying and then the Mum came out and was confrontational and annoyed with me that I don’t agree with it looking nice in the area. I also have 2 young children and I get they want to have fun.

Enemy ok 😂🤣 I am not trying to win just replying to posts. Many agree with me on here and in real life.

I am fine with things just replying to posters :)

This thread has become absolutely ridiculous, from both OP and other PP.

At the end of the day I think the general consensus is:

Did the children do this with malicious intent?: NO

Did the children purposefully cross an obvious barrier/divide to access your half of the drive? NO

Are you wrong for being annoyed about them drawing on your half of the drive: NO

Did you overreact about your drive? YES

Did your neighbour become defensive because DH made her child cry: YES

Did you overreact to the children drawing with chalk in a park: ABSOLUTLEY YES

Have the parents taken note by drawing a line on the driveway so the children now have a clear understanding of where they can draw? YES

Jesus is this still going on. Move on OP.

I have moved on as explained several times I am replying to the posts :)

I agree with most of that and it is good to talk :)

It is getting a bit ridiculous now I agree.

So just from this I am thinking that one of these may apply:

1. OP is just loving the attention, good or bad
2. OP has form for not letting things go, i.e. the incident and this thread
3. OP has to show outrage as her DH was so reactive, so she feel she has to be in support of his feelings.

I think if any do apply, the reasons need to be considered.

I'd have told my children to keep to our side of the drive to start with but kids get over enthusiastic and if they did encroach on your land I'd apologise.

However, the apology would be through gritted teeth and I'd be thinking you're a pair of horrible pricks for making a child cry. Coming and having a polite word with me would be fine, making a young child cry is a whole different matter.

I'd also never do anything to help you at all. Come even an inch over onto 'my' side and I'd be Having words. Your kids ball rolls across 'my' side or their bike wheel crossed the imaginary boundary - nope. Any deliveries while you're out? Nope.

If you would be petty enough to make a child cry over a bit of chalk, I would be 10x pettier in return. Especially as being a lowly renter I don't have to worry about declaring neighbour disputes if I want to move.

I'd also not be shy in telling other neighbours what you did.

Absolutely spot on @FalderalderaldoSittingintheWater

I have mentioned several times my husband apologised to the family. I am not worried to be honest what others think of me. I wasn’t in the wrong intially

Ummmm it is people like you who keep posting so it goes on and on 😂🤣 I am just replying to the posts as stated several times.

I think we are wasting our time in this thread . OP asked a question , ' am I over reacting ?' And the majority of replies, say yes , but OP is adamant she has done the right thing and defending own land etc. I think everyone's just going round in circles now!

I have taken the feedback on board though :)

Well not really OP.

You've endlessly repeated your position that you're right rather than recognising you've been a bit of a misery

Ah now you are really trolling us, your attitude shows that you haven’t taken any feedback on

There has never been a more unreasonable person on here for something so trivial

Your husband may have apologised but he still did it in the first place

Trilll

Trolling for replying to comments ok 🤣 think what you want 😁

Well think what you want :)

So are you saying he shouldn’t of apologised?

Why would I be lying over that? Get a grip of yourself
🤣 it was like that for ages. It was on a wall side of a flat building. I don't know if the roof partition stopped it getting wet as much but the rain didn't do much to get rid of it.

I aren't a child hater either. Sooo much assumptions.

What I am is someone respectful of other people and I was brought up like it too. I wouldn't have yelled at the kids that's true.
But so many people think their kids should be allowed to be brats because they are kids. And then wonder why zero boundaries or respect for anyone else as they grow up.

If you think teaching kids right from wrong, politeness and having an awareness of their surroundings is a bad thing then goodness help you. And no I don't by being nasty or physical before you start. It's not wrong to have a conversation with them.

The kid's mother shouldn't have come out yelling at the guy, she could have said sorry I'll clean it up, I'll try make sure they keep on our side. That's all you can do in life but just to scream at him for being upset someone is daubing on their drive is just plain stupid. That said, the man could have said it to the mother and not the child.

What I think is respect your neighbours and people around you. We all have to live together. Again, I wouldn't have screamed at the kids not at all. Guess what didn't even say anyway to the kids who drew all over our walls because I realise they are kids. However, maybe their parents should be teaching them not to chalk all over someone's place to live. BECAUSE MANNERS. I don't believe that is a bad place to be coming from.

I have zero issues with kids playing. That's what kid's do. But let them chalk on their own walls and garden then everyone is happy.

*have

Are you the OP, or the OP's husband or someone else because this is a bit baffling? Also, I believe @ForestForever was defending the OPand suggesting that most people on the thread were being over-zealous in their criticism of @Charliec12

Well done 👏👏👏

Is this still going? How many people do you need to tell you that you're over reacting. You can quote 'my area' and 'my land', all you like. Its CHALK.