My MIL is obsessive over her own weight as well as everyone else’s and it’s really getting me down as every conversation seems to be about weight. Either she’s started some new diet that will never work long term or she’s commenting on someone else’s. This has been going on for quite a few years but has seemed worse more recently. She also seems obsessed with what everyone is eating - or what they are not eating.
I am a couple stone overweight and I know this, I’m not in denial and know it help me health and confidence wise but it’s not at the point I’m obsessive. Going back a few years ago, after the first lockdown she told me that most people admitted to ICU with Covid are obese young females, looking me up and down. I bit my tongue at the time but it really upset me, not because she commented on my weight but because she knew I had significant health anxiety at the time after losing a relative of mine. I wasn’t in a good place, her comment which I know was inaccurate, made me think I was going to die of Covid. FYI, I’ve since got help and had therapy and on medication to help my anxiety levels. I’ve also got an under active thyroid which doesn’t help me situation regarding weight. She’s constantly asking me when I’m starting slimming world again / for context I went about 10 years ago, did lose weight but didn’t find the plan sustainable long term.
as for dp, he’s always been very slim, she used to call him ‘too skinny’ a few years ago, in more recent years he’s gained a couple stone - but still well within a healthy range and hasn’t gone up a clothes size - he just fills them up a bit more but she taps his stomach saying how he’s gained weight. He literally cannot win!
as for, teenage ds , not her bio grandchild as I already had ds when I met dp, he’s autistic and has suffered from poor MH, which lead to comfort eating and weight gain which we are working on without making him feel bad about himself, things are in a better place now and we’ve done everything to help him. But every time she visits she brings up his weight. A professional told us it wasn’t all about losing weight, but making sure he doesn’t gain anymore and ‘flattening the curve’ but mil thinks she knows better.
as for dd she’s a pre teen, she went through a little belly stage and now she’s had a growth spurt she looks more leaner but mil kept saying oh don’t you look like you’ve lost weight compared to what you used to be. We’ve never put much focus on her weight here, but she made us feel bad when dd needed clothes bigger than her actual age - but this is more to do with her height, she is pretty tall!
this is just a few examples. She also told her own daughter not to eat any bad food during pregnancy so she’d only gain baby weight!
she just seems to have so many opinions!
also mil is far from slim herself, and her partner is quite overweight - not that is my business but honestly it’s so frustrating!