If a friend mocked you, would you want to continue the friendship?

[Snappythecrocodile1]

If they'd called you 'boring' 'granny' behind your back and said 'I've realised we're very different' 'stresshead' and because you'd said something innocuous such as 'you didn't like spending all day at the beach' they'd twisted this and said 'omg, she said she doesn't like going to the beach wtf!' Then mimicked your voice in front of you in a high-pitched way.

Would you feel comfortable with this person and be able to trust them? It's the way they've acted like this rather than just speaking to your face if there is an issue. Mocking behind your back and calling you names isn't great.

Who is reporting this stuff back to you?
Keep an eye on them too.

Your 'not a friend' sounds totally immature and needs to grow up. She sounds like a silly teenage girl mimicking your voice and calling you names.

A slow fade.. really? That's just being wet, the bitch needs dropping straight away, and not let down gently.
What is it with the be nice /kind door mat behaviour? She obviously doesn't give a shit about the OP feelings.

@Witnesses - this is a really good point. Be wary of the person who told you this stuff. What did she have to gain by passing on such distressing comments?

I’ve put up with one of these for over 40 years. I’m too old for that sort of shit in my life anymore. I’m withdrawing and she can pick the bones out of that. Nasty cunt.

stay away from this person OP. I had someone like this on my life for too long! Respect yourself and get out of this.. this person has issues x

They sound nasty, I avoid nasty people.

Another vote for Avoid!

Sounds like my ex! Would definitely distance myself!

You're obviously upset and you clearly don't like her (and it doesn't sound like she likes you very much either) so I'm not sure why you need Mumsnet's permission to ditch her. You can stop being friends with someone you don't like without seeking validation; you don't need to see 100 strangers all gleefully agreeing what a cow she is.

I have to say, this is certainly very much one where I'd like to hear the friend's side of the story too, because obviously it's a very selective account we're getting from you here.

It depends on context. Just like what gets written on a text can be taken out of context, similarly when someone recounts a tale, the context can be lost. But repeated comments by different people along the same lines could indicate it was truly mean.

If you were there and heard it said and knew the context, and there was not friendly "joking" or "ribbing" behind it, then walk away and do not look back.

No way. In the bin.

You can't 'continue' this friendship because you're not friends now. It sounds like she actively dislikes you. In my friendship group, we frequently disagree or think one person or the other is acting daft (we have all been friends for years) but we never mock or impersonate one another in this way. There's warm, affectionate banter and gentle humour between friends, sure, but that ain't this!

It doesn't really matter what their side is, I'm talking about their behaviour here, that's all that is relevant. And am I supposed to 'clearly like' someone who's done this to me?

That's @BauhausOfEliott 's point. She doesn't like you, and is quite upfront about it, so why do you need permission from the internet to stop befriending her?

These threads are so common on here. It's utterly bizarre to me that so many Mners seem to have friends they don't like, and who don't like them either, and to still appear to need permission to ditch them.

No, you're not 'supposed' to like them, whether they've done this or not.
Just be an adult, decide what you think is the right thing to do and do it.

They've upset you and that isn't on.

Speak to them about it or walk away.

This person isn't a friend. Don't see them again.

It's when people say 'you clearly don't like them' because you've described something they did to you? It's not like I've said 'I don't like the way she looks/smells' or something that she can't help.

I’m more concerned you have to ask mumsnet tbh OP. She’s clearly a shit friend. Get gone, and don’t second guess yourself next time, or you’ll be attracting more of these pathetic girl-child types.

I’m in a metaphoric mood. It sounds like you overheard a cow mooing, so leave her to wallow in her dung covered field.

Bollocks to that. They are no friend. Dump them.

That's not a friend.

She is just someone who uses you when convenient for her.

Get rid.

@Snappythecrocodile1
If that's a friend
I'd hate to see those you consider enemies
Get out of this now
Spirlteful and petty are no-nos

That is no friend. There is no friendship to continue. Delete/block, move on.