I will start by saying I'm really suffering with this and I'm not sure what I'm looking for. Perhaps just a listening ear.
I will try to keep what is a very long story, concise.
Mum died recently. Dad was absolutely devastated. Before and after her death, I had to a large extent put my own life on hold to support them. She had been ill, requiring care, but it wasn't a terminal illness, so her death came as a huge shock. She was only in her late 60s. Her mother is still alive, in fact.
Dad asked if he could live with us, and he said he felt so much happier when he was with us (me, dh, and DC). I told him of course, but don't rush into a decision fuelled purely by grief.
Fast forward a couple of months and he has announced he has a new girlfriend, and has pretty much moved in with her, hundreds of miles away. I haven't seen him in weeks.
He assumed I would welcome this woman into our lives with open arms, but I said I needed time as I am still very much grieving my mother. He took this as hostility, describing me as hostile to my sibling. He has also somehow decided that my primary motivation is money.
I mean, to my mind I could say that about her - she seems quite happy to have this man in her life buying champagne and roses for her, and going on holiday with her.
Obviously he's a grown up and can do what he wants, and I am acutely aware that parents who are divorcing present their kids with a new step parent and the kids are expected to accept that.
But this feels really hard for me, and I don't know how to move past this. Mum seems all but forgotten.