Friend needs some advice

[muckyducks]

My friend needs some advice.

Parents have private contact arrangement.
Parent A - 4 nights per week
Parent B - 3 nights per week - does school drop off and pick ups to accommodate parent A’s work.
Parent B receives children’s benefits. Not currently working.

Parent B has received bad news a family member has taken ill and needs serious operation which means they have to go to the other side of the country for at least 7 weeks as family member has no one else to care for them.

Parent B cannot travel back and leave family member. Children will not be able to travel to parent B due to school and infectiok risk

Parent A and parent B dont have a good relationship.

Parent A cant leave their job.
Parent B cant leave their family member or transfer benefits as they will lose their house .

How old are the school aged children? Could they go with Parent B? Although I guess they then run the risk of being roped in as Gran’s carers.

is the patients other parent on the scene? Can they help at all?

the only other alternative is for the patient to transfer to a hospital local to Parent B and stay there for their recuperation while carers look after Gran.

from the info given OP, I don’t hold a very high opinion of Parent B.

Adult child move in with parent b and has operation locally.

Oh (if this is true…) there’ll be some high level victim focused poor parent b post with how they’ve had “ really hard life” therefore everyone else needs to run around after them ..

Why so much vitriol towards the female parent of the 16-year old child? What about the male parent - does he bear no responsibility to his child at all?

Why would you have sympathy for parent B when they can’t be bothered to parent their own children? They didn’t get custody back of their eldest and just went on to have more, and then palmed them off too.

The 16 year old moves to mums where she should’ve been in the first place. Obviously.

My understanding is parent b fell pregnant very young. Father not in the scene. Parent b raised child living in grandmothers house. Parent b met parent A and had a long distance relationship for some time. Fell pregnant and the plan was parent B and eldest child relocate together to parent A hometown . Grandmother was not happy about this as very close to eldest child and eldest child also didnt want to leave grandmother or hometown .

Sounds like Parent B has never really behaved like a responsible adult or prioritised the needs of their children.

We know B is the mother, so the AB thing is a bit redundant, but yeah, there's no justifying discarding a child. Certainly not to live with a new boyfriend.

Parent B moved that far away from their (presumably) very early teens child to set up home with a new man? Yikes.

How many children does Parent B have with Parent A?

So parent A just fucked off with her new boyfriend and set up home away from her child? And had another child?

They sound very unpleasant

So regardless the mum then fucked off and left her teen for a man who eventually left her anyway? You reap what you sow.

Parent B, not parent A.