Its been an interesting year, and we have learned at a rate of knots. But overall, dpony is happy and healthy, ds is deeply in love with him (as are dh and I), and we've got to grips with what is and isn't necessary. And at the one year anniversary, ds has been promoted to not having a 'walker by' in lessons - which he is v proud of.
Thank you all sooo much for all your help in getting us this far !