Fucking parents

[CuckooCuckooClock]

Whose kids can do no wrong/never need to be sanctioned.
I’m so sick of parents telling me I’m unreasonable for telling off their precious little angel.
Driving me totally crazy!
Just had a really defensive mum on the phone who has decided to complain about me punishing her child.
Aaaarrrgghhh.
I’m sure she’s perfectly nice but I need a rant because the phone call really got my adrenaline going.
Sympathy needed please.

“Fucking parents” tbf that’s how they got to be parents.
I’m “teaching” basic English skills to a boy (15)currently. He’s nice enough, but I noticed a dip in attitude recently. His dad told him “not to worry about English, it’s not important.”I’m not trying to get him to analyse the later works of Eliot, or the historical context of Romeo and Juliet, it’s ks1 spelling and spag. Why isn’t it important? Because he’s going in the army to be a pilot. His dad said so.

My sister did a secondary PGCE in a school where the parents were nightmares like this. She decided to go and do TEFL/EFL instead.With adults.

The first term was not too bad for me. Was called a cunt by an 11 year old, and had a parent question the grades their child was consistently getting because, while not a teacher herself, she looked at the work and she thought it should be the grade higher because the child put in a lot of effort. Yes, but copying wikipedia does not an A grade make...

“Because he’s going in the army to be a pilot. His dad said so.”

Do the Army know this? Their days of simply wanting cannon fodder are over.

I’ve just finished up as an EFL teacher after eight years on the job. I’ve taught kids and teens - experienced a couple of unreasonable parents. Mostly though, my difficult students were predominantly adults; many expected me to be a mind-reader, capable of working miracles... all while they spent most of the lesson checking their phones. It was so demoralising.

Far happier in my new job, which is admin based and totally different!

I was a ta, one morning checking a home school diary the mother of the child that I was doing a 1-1 with wrote in it that I had made a spelling error.

Sympathy here too.
I’m dealing with a totally batshit mother at the moment who is taking up far too much of my own headspace.

Some children expect rewards for everything - what's in it for me? Mum bought me these earrings because I was upset I got into trouble for kicking someone really hard and she wants to cheer me up. (This one was a few years ago.)

I’m actually quite relieved that the eleventy-billion parents I’ve contacted so far this term about unacceptable behaviour in lessons (today- calling a teacher a fucking bitch because they were asked to share a book) have totally, without exception ignored my emails, because I feel I might have just downed tools and walked out. They are getting worse and I’ve resolved to retire before this current crop of teens start producing.

Recently, I had a not-long left student pitch up to me in Tesco to tell me her little one would be joining me soon and ‘can you remember what a nightmare I was? She’s worse’. I will not be working when and if she arrives.

A have a friend who micro-managed every aspect of her two DDs schooling, emailing teachers every day, expecting the highest marks and demanding explanations when this didn’t occur, threatening to leave the school over the most minor things (they never did) and demanding her children be prioritised over others. She also kept a close eye on every assessment task - when it was due, its weight, how it referred back to the curriculum. Her kids are now in tertiary level education, but this hasn’t stopped her. She does much of the same things, except the ‘emailing every day’ and ‘threatening to leave’ bits. Although I suspect she does threaten to withdraw the kids - who are now adults - and put them elsewhere.

I can see both arguments, was the punishment suitable? If so then fucking parents indeed, especially if it’s ongoing, some parents really are deluded.

I work in HR, I've had many a parent call up/come in regarding their precious little angel, who's now 18+,and should never have been sacked/disciplined because its not their fault that they can never turn up to work on time or do the job they were hired and paid to do.

It never ends.

Cuckoo! You have my sympathy? The one thing that really gets to me is poor parenting, lack of discipline, and control. I shout out the window of my car at mums with toddlers in the road, not holding mums’ hand. The Toy Shop I visited at Christmas said children were coming in with parents and running around the shop. In one case the kids were opening lego packs while mum was texting. I was at a cafe that was cordoned off from the rest of the venue with ropes, 4 ladies some of which were the mums were busy talking at the table, while the children were swinging on the rope, my thoughts were I hope the rope breaks, they would have come down with a nasty bump, but they were annoying the people still eating near-by. I often visit a friend who has a 4YO; Both mum and dad constantly berate him, saying do you want time out, with the odd swear-word also mixed in. But in this case its constant "don’t do that" "don’t be stupid" "What did I tell you" and despite this constant barrage the toddler sometimes gets man-handled to the time-out step. I don’t enjoy going there anymore. Teachers today are synonymous with an army being sent to war with no armour, no guns, and no strategy. I can't say anymore on here either, some people don’t like being told how it is.

Our behaviour system, positive and negative comments, goes home to parents as a live text, if we choose- which is great.
Asked my bottom set of naughties today if their parents has been receiving the texts as I wasn't seeing much improvement in their behaviour. They told me they parents had 'got rid of the app as it was annoying',
'My mum said she doesn't want to know if I'm getting Warnings as they don't count', 'my mum said as long as you don't get expelled it's ok'

I have a friend who micro-managed every aspect of her two DDs schooling...

I'm amazed at how (over) involved some parents seem to be in the minute detail of their children's schooling, especially at secondary level. I rarely told my parents if I'd been told off for anything. Partly because I knew the first question would be 'what were you doing to get told off'. But also, when I was at secondary school, I quite liked having a life that was my own and quite separate from my parents, with things they didn't know about. It's part of growing up and learning to be independent, isn't it?

My parents thought education was important, they took an interest, read my reports, went to parents' evening. But they didn't need to know every time I was told off for talking in class, or not paying attention, or not handing in my maths homework. (None of those very often, I hasten to add.)

Can't see things improving. A percentage of the current crop of DCs will become the next generation of parents and teachers.

And the beat goes on.

I once told a child off for punching another in the classroom. The parents wrote me a letter saying that while they did not believe this could have happened (I saw it with my own eyes) then were "willing to accept the punishment". Very good of them...

I got called a disgrace to the profession by one parent. When I told my colleagues what (minor) sanction I’d given to earn that title, they all said that they must be disgraces to the profession too.

MarySidney You won’t be surprised to learn, then, that these kids have very little practical, real-world skills (like shopping, washing, cleaning, cooking, socialising, speaking with adults/superiors/bosses, writing their own essays, planning their own schedules ...

Gosh, guys, I’m sorry :(

My own DD walked out of an end of year test because her dad told her the subject was not important. I was mortified and beyond angry and came down on her like a tonne of bricks. I could not believe the teachers actually gave her a second chance and rescheduled the test for her.
Her shitty dad then told her we’re all exaggerating and not to bother going (it was in her lunch our). I then get an email from the school saying she hasn’t shown up and they are rescheduling, again. This time I promised to come to school and drag her to her class to sit the test. DD knows I’m not joking and she did go. I had her and her dad yelling at me about being so controlling and needing my head checked.

Sometimes, some parents are just plain and simple idiots.
But what I can’t believe is just how much the teachers try and try and don’t give up on those kids, in spite of every ounce of common sense screaming: just bloody leave them to it.

I am grateful those teachers didn’t give up on my DD. I am fighting a horrendous battle and they were the only ones in my corner.

Her dad and I divorced, btw.

I work in a university and it's exactly the same. Except we are not legally allowed to discuss their precious offspring with them as they are over 18 and it's against data protection. I had one mum demand today speak to the vice chancellor because her (21) year old son hadn't been picked for the football team.

I was talking about this with friends at work the other day. The way some parents kick off when told their child did something is insane. If I had spoken to my teacher the way some children speak to me (very rarely more than once though) or behaved the way they do, my mum and dad would have killed me.

My mum only ever complained once about a detention I had. I wasn’t meant to be joining in PE because of an injury but I was really bored at the side. My teacher said I could walk the route instead of running so I did. The head of PE then pulled me into a detention for walking with a group of others. I told my teacher who said she’d speak to him. She did but he still made me stay for the detention. My mum kicked off at that. That’s it though.

I feel for you guys. I’m not a teacher but there’s a parent of a boy in my ds’s class who has a list of complaints for the teacher every single day. She starts on the parents at first ‘can you believe they’re expecting them to still do PE in this weather? I’m not having it’, ‘there’s no way that I’m getting Tom to the bus stop after school for the free trip to the panto that a local charity has paid for all the kids to go to, I don’t see why the teachers can’t take them there instead.’, ‘I’m doing everything I can to get the forest school that was donated to the school by a local farmer who also pays all the associated costs shut as Tom got a splinter last week so it’s clearly not fit for purpose.’ Bloody arsehole.

Can I just say that I think all you teachers are amazing, it’s not a job I could do. I’m 100% behind my dcs teachers. I’ve seen the way other parents treat the school staff both teaching and office and it’s appalling. Thank you

I was a teacher for nearly 40 years. I have been retired for many years now but still keep one letter from a parent. It was sent to the Head of the Secondary school where I taught and complained that I had allowed her son access to a’ deeply offensive’ publication. The item in question was a horoscope page in a a magazine! We were talking about items which could be regular features in magazines.