I'm dealing with a situation at work involving race, and it really feels almost impossible at times, because we all have different attachments to different phrases, and different social expectations layered on top.
E.g., white colleagues being considered offensive when asking "how was your weekend?" when there had been some racist demonstrations. Whereas to me, depending on tone, that could be an invitation to start a conversation. I hardly follow the news at the weekend because I'm running around after a toddler and frankly the news isn't something to decompress to in the evening.
I'm part Jewish and my degree specialism was genocide, and to be frank I keep my mouth firmly shut most of the time - but I have strong family links to the Manchester synagogue that was attacked. Nobody knew or asked if I was ok about that attack, because why would they? When I told someone I was upset, they were kind. That's the most I'd expect of a colleague.
My area of work touches on a lot of legal and HR issues, and my biggest takeaway is that most people aren't thinking about you, your race, your hair, anything. That's really rare.