Really thought-provoking article—it actually explains a lot. I think Brits tend to see royalty as tradition, heritage, and duty, whereas Americans often view it more like a fairy tale. Harry and Meghan have really leaned into that fairy tale version. Meghan even described their story as a “modern fairy tale,” and pushed the “love wins” narrative.
But that view feels a bit naive. Fairy tales weren’t just about the girl getting the prince—they were about morals, lessons, and overcoming hardship. Meghan seems to have embraced the Hollywood version: all glitz, glamour, and happy endings, without the depth.
It’s hard to pull off being a modern fairy tale princess. Diana came close. She was graceful, kind, and genuinely humble. She came from a broken home and used that pain to connect with others. Her compassion felt real—not staged for a photo op or social media moment. There was a quiet strength in how she carried herself.
Catherine takes a more traditional route. She’s graceful, stoic, and clearly committed to her role. Some say she’s a bit “boring” or lacks glamour, but that persona seems to work for her and she rarely gets caught out with anything controversial. I actually think she’s probably more relaxed and down-to-earth in private—she just knows when to switch on the polished, professional version. She plays the long game, and it works.
Meghan, while very modern in style and attitude, doesn’t really reflect the virtues we associate with fairy tale heroines—old or new. She often comes across as lacking grace (sharing footage of herself twerking while pregnant, for example), and seems more driven by image, status, and personal success than by any sense of duty or service. She’s not especially family-oriented—she’s cut off most of her family, distanced herself from Harry’s, and fallen out with several long-time friends. Forgiveness and empathy don’t seem to be part of the picture.
Even her charitable work often feels packaged—high-production photos, slick PR, and always tied to some larger narrative or commercial move. There always seems to be an agenda behind it, and that makes it hard to take at face value.
It’s not that she can’t do good things—it’s just that it rarely feels like she’s doing them for the right reasons. And that’s the key difference!