Sentebale #5

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As I finished the last one.

It was horrendous but I do think they would have regretted it later if they hadn't done it?

On a massively smaller scale, obviously, my DCs then aged 9 and 7 attended their grandad's and grandma's funeral (my parents) in the space of five months. They wanted to be there. They were angry that I didn't share that my mother's illness was terminal for a bit, but they were so young I wanted to spare them that. Youngest was just 2/3 so out of the equation altogether.

Yes that was it!

Plus he's a lazy bastard.

I think the optics of the article photo explains a lot of why Harry has been babied for his entire adult life.

William had just turned 15 - he was exceptionally tall for his age and taller than his father and grandfather.

Harry was about to turn 13 (a week or so after the photo) but was much smaller and appeared much younger.

Somehow William was always considered "much older" and got lumped into being considered "one of the adults" whereas Harry was "the little boy" who everyone, including William, needed to take care of. There was only 2 years between them but the way they were treated was worlds' apart.

Still here and active.

I agree with this. The CC’s investigation will be evidence based. Has to be. The minutes will not support Dr C’s allegations especially if they have been formally agreed by the trustees.

There’s a lot of expectation on what the CC will do. I don’t think they will get involved in the dispute unless it touches on governance.
In fact, the ex trustees have somewhat cooked their goose by flouncing, because although they’ll be accountable for past actions they won’t have any role going forward unless reappointed.

I suppose the CC might consider that the outgoing trustees’ resignations were invalid at the point where it left the charity inquorate and refuse to accept them. In which case, depending on whether they outnumber the new trustees, the outgoing trustees could reset and invite the Founders back. That’s just my guess though.

edited for punctuation and because I always forget to preview!

@BigAnne

Plus he's a lazy bastard

I missed that one off my list so I've given you an 'agree' for that - it's certainly a frequent comment in other vaguely informed discussions in other places.

There’s a lot of expectation on what the CC will do. I don’t think they will get involved in the dispute unless it touches on governance.

Completely correct. The reasons why the personal relationship between Dr Chandauka and Harry broke down are irrelevant - you don’t have to like someone to work professionally with each other.

On that topic, I’ve been bemused by some of the recent postings by the Sussex Squad members recently. They regard video footage of Dr Chandauka being polite and friendly to Harry at public events after the polo tournament as some kind of “gotcha”. I suppose it says a bit about their own perspectives that they don’t recognise that as a professional, Dr Chandauka would be able to be perfectly polite to Sentabale’s founder and someone who was, self-evidently, a key stakeholder with a great deal of weight to throw around, even if personally she doesn’t like his behaviour. Newsflash: she may not have liked the behaviours of some of her clients when a private practice lawyer or her superiors at her other roles either! But given he senior roles she has held, she obviously has the professionalism to deal with that, as you have to do.

The same goes for the alleged “gotcha” that she sent Meghan a handwritten invitation to the Sentabale polo tournament. I imagine she probably did. As she said, having Meghan attend would be great for the event’s profile. Dr Chandauka’s account was however that Meghan had confirmed she would not be attending, so the event was planned on the basis that she would not be there. Then she turns up on the day, and with Serena Williams as well, which caused some organisational disarray. So sending an invitation in advance is not At all inconsistent with Dr Chandauka’s account of why things didn’t run smoothly on the day.

Between the different UK/US jurisdictions and whatever the family's advisers will have put in place to protect "royal money" that's not something I'd want to assume, though I could easily accept that Meghan would believe it to be so

Fortunately for the RF I very much doubt Harry has the least understanding of any of it - it's hard enough for even an average wit - so if it comes to this it'll probably be left to endless negotiations between the lawyers

The Mail on Sunday is at it again, Meghan bashing.<a class="break-all" href="https://archive.ph/2025.04.06-081609/www.dailymail.co.uk/news/royals/article-14575425/Harrys-Sentebale-crisis-started-Meghan-Insiders-believe-never-liked-charity-chief-tell-time-astonishing-unknown-snub-changed-everything.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://archive.ph/2025.04.06-081609/www.dailymail.co.uk/news/royals/article-14575425/Harrys-Sentebale-crisis-started-Meghan-Insiders-believe-never-liked-charity-chief-tell-time-astonishing-unknown-snub-changed-everything.html The story in a nutmeg is that Meghan and her Archewell entourage turned up at the Miami polo match last April. Meghan was greeted warmly by SC, who wanted to introduce her to people. Meghan said a curt 'hi', effectively snubbing her, and swanned off with Serena Williams to the hospitality tent to drink champagne. Archewell staff were dismissive to Sentebale staff so Sentebale staff were unhappy. Meghan has never liked Dr Sophie, apparently. Meghan texted SC asking her to issue a press statement to counter the negative press coverage. SC refused. Harry got involved, supporting Meghan. This is all people were talking about at some gathering in Lesotho last week. All quite predictable and hardly a scoop. Still, It's yet another example of the negative affect Meghan has had on Harry since they met.

He just can’t seem to see her rudeness and entitlement.

Because he's so similar.

When I read the Sussex Squad's (presumably) response, I was incredulous at the flawed logic they display. It suggests they have never held the kind of job that requires you to put on a professional face in public.

As for the CC, SC has already cited multiple examples that touch on governance (no action by trustees to address funding gap, trustees staying on the board beyond the recommended two terms, whistleblowing inquiry into bullying etc of SC led to her dismissal so due process not observe, Harry as patron having inappropriate involvement in the way the charity team spend their time) and they've already found enough to start an enquiry.

Remember the relatively modest financial settlement Sarah received.

I saw a report on this event as well where Meghan is on stage when Dr Sophie is there holding hands with Delfina. It looks so childish. Why would you do that on stage ? or at all? 😬

I remember it only too well, Mylovelygreendress, and though she'd certainly hung herself out to dry the family played a bliinder on that one

Pity they can't act as rigorously with Andrew, but then he's been around a lot longer and will know a lot more

I think holding hands with other women can be a sisterly thing to do so I would. Not sure why I double-posted the article link!

Really? I can't think of any public situation where this is appropriate. You don't see Trump and Keir Starmer holding hands 😂 remember the furore when Camilla avoided holding hands? It smacks to me of " little woman type " thing. "Ah it's ok , they're women". Margaret Thatcher didn't go about holding hands 😂

But we did see Trump and May holding hands 😄 On hand-holding, perhaps we've hit upon a previously unnoticed issue that divides women into two camps. I thought Camilla should have taken Brigitte Macron's hand when it was offered. I used to live in Italy so perhaps I've been influenced!

@IdaGlossop it all depends on how you want to be publicly perceived. I have lived in countries where it is not appropriate to be familiar in this sense woman to woman or woman to man. Trump is a misogynist so we all know what that was about. I've never been that level important but I have managed to negotiate many public situations where I would have looked like a dick holding hands 😂

Believe it or not, I am quite careful about physical contact with people as it goes down badly with me if people touch me when I don't think we have that kind of relationship. I really felt for Theresa May she Trump held her hand. I would have wanted to have soaked in a bath of disinfectant afterwards.

I thought it was really inappropriate that Brigette offered Camilla her hand. Just different cultures I suppose. I don't hold hands with anyone but my DH and younger children so I would feel quite awkward in Camilla's position. And thats without being Queen! Brigette was not following protocol.

Brigitte shouldn't have put Camilla in the position of feeling uncomfortable, true. In the UK, there's been a big change in attitudes to touching in my lifetime. In the 1960s and '70s, when I was a child, there was a lot of formality. By the 1980s, some people had started kissing on the cheek and it was seen as a 'continental' import. Now, with so many cultures living side by side, it's become quite complex. I probably shouldn't be continuing this discussion as it's derailing so I'll bring it back to Meghan, who famously says of herself 'I'm a hugger' and makes clear she thinks the British are stiff and formal.

Didn't Theresa May famously hold hands with Trump (because he doesn't like going down steps) and was much derided for it?

It’s a mean girl thing? Look at us, we’re so close. The rest of you plebs wouldn’t understand.