William and Harry don't want their kids calling Camilla their grandmother!

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I read that both Harry and William have made that very clear, that is not their grandmother, step or otherwise. She is only their father's wife.

I bet they’ve all also taken into account the absolute press furore that would ensue if any of the royal children were heard in public referring to Camilla as “Granny”.

They get their PR wrong sometimes but they know how that would go down

This.
I wonder what they call her.

I agree actually. I do not think it is appropriate to encourage children to do this. It is obviously just for PR.

And would your dad have loved her less if he’d called her by a different name? Would the memories be less happy? Would her recipes taste like stewed shit?

To him, she was his Grandmother. She didn’t need a different name.

But that’s my point. You’re saying you think it’s sad that the Cambridge children won’t call Camilla “Granny”, pointing to the fact that your husband loved his (step)grandmother. But he didn’t love her any more because he called her Grandma. And he wouldn’t have loved her any less if he’d called her by her first name.

Step parents come into children and grandchildren’s lives at different points and for different reasons. I feel very lucky that while my stepchildren call me by my first name, to others they always introduce me and their mother’s new husband as their parents too.

When grandchildren come along we will therefore all be playing a grandparent role in their lives.

Of course it doesn’t matter what the particular ‘name’ is but we will definitely be grandparents in the eyes of everyone in our immediate family.

Welll why not just get rid of names anyway? Why I am Mum? Why is DH Daddy?

The titles carry connotations and expectations - if the shoe fits it’s a term of endearment. Children like to be able to identify where adults who are special to them fit in in their family. It’s also recognition for the person of the role they play if they want to play it. Maybe my dads Grandma liked being Granny and being called that melted her heart. Who knows. But it worked for them.

I doubt H&M’s children will be all that close to Camilla. But it’s just the parents forcing their own narrative onto the kids.

I read that Kate and Camilla are not as close since Camilla became Queen and that Camilla says Kate is a 'lightweight'.

She isn't their Grandmother. End of. There isn't anything to discuss further.

I find it quite insulting as a woman, that I can do all the hard yards bringing up my DC, be involved in their adult lives, have my blood running through my GC's veins, and someone can just come along and be called Grandmother just because the man decided to marry them.

Yes I suppose thats the otherside of it. Every circumstance is different.

In the scenario I gave above my bio Grandmother passed away (cancer) and the step Mum brought up the children. It was actually a bit awkward as the SDGM was the maid so she had been involved with the children their whole lives (a long time ago as you can tell!).

Your friend saying her stepdad isn't her dad is right. But you saying your stepdad is your dad is also right. I don't consider the title I give to my grandfather to be "honourary" anyway. I have an aunt who is not related by blood or marriage, but she birthed my blood cousin... I consider her my aunt, not an honourary aunt. I had an honourary aunt but she was just a neighbour.

I just think it's a bit odd to tell the children what to call someone. Maybe Camilla didn't want it and that's fine. But what if the children would have naturally called her grandma? I just don't think it's up to the parents personally to dictate, but oh well

2 of my DSC have children & they asked me what I wanted to go by, I said I think just by my name would be best. That's what DSC call me so makes sense. I've been with their father for 22 years & love them & their DC, loads.

I didn't want to overstep boundaries & also my own DC are still young (teen/tweens) & I felt like that title of grandparent should he reserved for their DC.

I still have a great relationship with my DSC & DSGC even though they call me by my name!

Maybe they loathe her, maybe not.

But whichever it is, what possible difference does it make to you OP?

Does your grief for Diana feel more bearable if the Princes loathe Camilla??

If you read that they quite like her would you regard it as a betrayal of their mother?

I find it hard to believe that there is a genuine source for this sort of comment. Camilla knows that Charles needs the help and support of William and Kate, and from what I can see, they're giving it! Why would she try and shit stir with that sort of comment - particularly in front of someone who would (presumably) going running to the press.

I just think it's a bit odd to tell the children what to call someone. Maybe Camilla didn't want it and that's fine. But what if the children would have naturally called her grandma? I just don't think it's up to the parents personally to dictate, but oh well

But don’t most, if not all, parents “dictate” what their children call their relatives? My mom is Nanny to my niece rather than Grandma or Gran(ny), because we always called her mother Nanny or Nan and she liked the idea of carrying that on. My niece has grown up thinking of her as Nanny and her paternal grandmother as Grandma - she’s never “naturally” decided to call either of them anything else.

My children refer to my mother's husband by his name. He has no interest in them and would not be alright with being called 'grandfather'. It would also be weird.

I have noticed a lot more anti Camilla news stories since she became Queen Consort. I think this is another one designed to show her in a negative light. She already has grandchildren via her children Tom Parker Bowles and Laura Lopes. I doubt they call Charles grandfather. I am sure she is far too sensible to have requested William and Harry's children call her their grandmother when she knows only too well how they feel about Diana.

Camilla has her own grandchildren. I doubt that she would expect William’s or Harry’s children to call her granny particularly given the circumstances in which Charles and Camilla got together

Me too. The circumstances weren’t good but I feel sorry for Camilla. It’s done now, many, many years have passed and hers and Charles’ marriage has stood the test of time. 🎶 let it gooo….

I totally get understand their attitude towards Camilla
Its only expected that they are like this to her,

She is definitely not their children's grandmother,

Especially after the way Princess Diana was treated, !
It's more respectful and right thing to do so Prince Harry and Prince William don't confuse their children,

Princess Diana wasn't exactly a Saint was she, cripes the heroes and villains narrative is boring- they're all just people, some flaws and some good.

Well, she's right on that point, hence William's nickname for her Dolittle. They seem to have upped their game recently Kate was out cosplaying the army yesterday on a well reported photo-op.

Wouldn't catch Meghan on a photo op would we 😆

It is a bit odd.