William and Harry don't want their kids calling Camilla their grandmother!

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I read that both Harry and William have made that very clear, that is not their grandmother, step or otherwise. She is only their father's wife.

Why would you classify someone as a “controlling numpty” because their children don’t call someone who isn’t their grandmother their grandmother?

Bit of an over reaction. Hardly makes people controlling numpties, although I do think H&M are controlling numpties but for entirely different reasons 😁

So? Who cares what they call her? Does she want to be called grandma by them? She has grandchildren doesn't she - do they call Charles grandad?
My MIL has divorced parents who remarried when she was an adult, before DH was born. He calls his step-grandparents by their names, but emotionally he's just as close to them as his grandparents because they've been in his life since he was born, looked after him, played with him, acted as grandparents. My DD views her step great grandparents the same as her great grandparents - she refers to them as "great John" and "great Diane" rather than great grandad/grandma. The name isn't really relevant or reflective of the relationship.

Same. My husband’s grandchildren call me Granny. I was around for 20 years before the eldest was born, they’ve never known him married to anyone else.

Why would you classify someone as a “controlling numpty” because their children don’t call someone who isn’t their grandmother their grandmother?

Why would you deprive your child from a loving grandparent - biologically or otherwise?

So what? I do not care what they call her.

Don't post on the thread then. The title was pretty clear and it's posted in The Royal Family.

I will post on any thread I like. Thank you very much.

Depriving them of the person is not remotely the same as choice of names

I was brought up knowing one set as Grandpa X and Auntie Y. It's not a biggie, and nor is it particularly uncommon.

And it doesn't mean you don't see/have a relationship with the person

But they haven’t. No one is being deprived of anything. Obviously we don’t know the full details, but deciding your child isn’t going to call someone “grandmother” isn’t depriving them of a relationship with that person. If you can’t love a child because they call you Auntie Camilla (for example) instead of Granny, I wouldn’t be worried about “depriving” my child of that relationship.

I guess I just think that children develop a closer relationship with a grandma than a Camilla, but I may be projecting

But there's no reason to think they do call her Camilla. In fact there's articles from a few years ago where she says Williams children call her 'Ga-ga' So it sounds as if they do have some nickname for her

No I did acknowledge that earlier @Redglitter - that this is probably just a clickbait news story and they don't call her 'grandmother' but something else affectionate with the same or a similar meaning

I was going to say that I’m sure I’ve read before that both Camilla and William have said they call her Ga-Ga.

My kids don’t call DH’s step dad Grandad, they have a pet name for him. They’ve still had a loving relationship with him growing up.

They don’t call DH’s Dad grandad either though, they call him by his name - they’ve only met him twice (my kids are 17 and 21)

There was a new article about it.

Must be true then

Fairly normal I'd say. We grandkids all called my mums stepmum by her first name and she was happy with that.

Why would they?
And why would anyone care?

Why do you care though?

My granddad was widowed and remarried while we were children - we called his new wife by her first name. I don't think it occurred to anyone to do otherwise. Like Camilla, she had grandchildren of her own.

How on earth is this trivial tittle-tattle ‘news’?

She says her own five grandchildren call her GaGa - so it's possible they call her that. They are said to call Charles - Grandpa Wales (the Queen called her grandfather King George V - Grandpa England)

It's clear from the way they interact with Camilla in public they have a grandparent-style relationship with her, so I don't suppose it really matters what they call her.

It's a bit of a non story. Many blended families call the second wife/husband something other than gran etc. no one expects the step children to call their stepmother mum.

Tbh I find the over the top way they behave with their kids re. Diana really odd (William getting his kids to write her letters, Harry having his baby talking to a shrine on Netflix program). Especially given how young they were when Diana died.

My Dad lost both parents as a child and I’ve never given my paternal GPs much of a thought; they’ve simply never existed to me in any real way. My DHs Mum died when DH was a child (slightly younger than Harry when Diana died). My DSD calls his stepmum Granny. Why wouldn’t she? She’s the only paternal side Granny that has ever existed to her. To adults these parents are much missed real people but to children who never met them they are an idea and not much more; by all means show the odd photo and tell stories etc but forcing your grief on them seems ghoulish to me.

What they call Camilla is a non-story really.

It shows that William and Henry still don't like Camilla. They tolerate her because she's their father's wife. But they are not allowing her to cross the grandmother line with their children. And I don't blame them.