So- would you let someone borrow your lipgloss?

[OhMonDieux]

Princess of Wales (Catherine) was evidently not over-happy about M asking to borrow her. She did give it to her but supposedly made a 'disgusted face' as M wiped some on her finger than on her lips.

I think I am in the PofW camp here.

Years ago a work colleague who I barely new, came to work late and asked me if I had any mascara she could borrow. It happened that I did have and I gave it her (a bit reluctantly) as I felt it wasn't hygienic to share.

I'd never ask anyone if I could use their make up where it touches your skin.

Me too

I wouldn't ask as I wouldn't like using something that had been on someone else's mouth. Kate did lend it so I'm not sure what the fuss is about. A "look of disgust" is subject to interpretation.

I would but I'm not to fussy about sharing things like some people 🤷‍♀️
I often share a bottle of water ect

This is one of the 'meh' anecdotes included that are either to fill up room in the book or because the examples of how mean Kate was to Meghan are thin on the ground

It's one of those each to your own things - I can't stand sharing drinks (sharing from the same can/bottle) but some people wouldn't care less about that. Lipgloss isn't a big deal to me.

It was showing how she felt that's the issue right? But who knows maybe she had an unguarded moment (bit surprising given her public role) or maybe she had a wave of nausea at that moment?

Due to pregnancy

This is exactly what I was going to say.
Meghan asked for the lip gloss.; Kate handed it over. Those are objective facts - presumably Harry didn't invent the whole episode.
Harry then subjectively interpreted Kate's expression.

I wish Kate had said NO and stuck to it.

I might think it but I'd still probably do it! I've been using my mum's lip balm because I didn't have mine.

I wish I had said no, too! The one time someone, who as I said above really should have known better, asked me, I was so taken aback that I actually lent it to her! I'm very assertive and don't usually have any problem politely declining unreasonable expectations but it was just so odd and awkward a request that I momentarily forgot that I could just say, oh no sorry, I don't share personal items.

That cost me a BRAND NEW Bobbi Brown lipstick pot! No one to blame but myself.

I think Prince Harry was an idiot for putting this in his book.

if Meghan had forgotten her lipgloss ahead of a television appearance- of course she needed lipgloss, she was probably quite nervous.

Kate probably realised this and lent her the lipgloss - but being pregnant especially didn’t really feel comfortable with it (just the initial reaction). I have cold sores which only flares up very infrequently. I wouldn’t want to give that to anyone- and if I didn’t have cold sores, I would be paranoid to get them, especially when pregnant.

This is all natural actions and reactions. The only stupid thing in my mind is someone trying to interpret this into some “power play” or some “distaste / meanness”. Prince Harry did the latter in his book, of course people who dislike Meghan will try to spin it in the first way.

Prince Harry is not doing his wife any favours, I feel sorry for her.

No, not to my mum, sister, best friend, no one

think Prince Harry was an idiot for putting this in his book

Yes, to remember something so trivial (slightly wrong facial expression while doing a favour) years after the event makes him look incredibly petty.

If every friend or family member took a “look” so personally I would not have a person left in my life. It’s easy to say in hindsight but if someone is caught off guard for a request that for them is gross then the look would happen before the brain engaged. I’m sure Meghan, Harry and everybody else in the royal family has given the look.

on the train from brighton, a stranger let my dd borrow her lip gloss - i think dd was late teens and had sore lips.
i have never forgotten
quite grim.
i reminded her of this recently .

Err no even as teenagers we knew you didn't share/borrow make up . It's just not done .

@Whenharrymetsmelly

accuse me of being an unhygienic mare if you like, I'm not bothered, I know I'm not & your opinion if me isn't remotely important 💁🏻‍♀️

It doesn't matter if any of us would be happy to share our lipgloss though does it?

Kate wasn't happy and is allowed to have that boundary.

Either give it graciously or not at all. I suspect that was one of many disapproving looks Meghan received from Kate over that time.. I do wonder how much she was welcomed in reality.

I'd probably have a face, albeit hopefully very briefly. Doesn't mean I might not 'give graciously', whatever that means in this context. I'd hand it over politely but I'm not going to go OTT effusive about it.

I don't have to approve of everything my new SIL does, either. Someone in Kate's position undoubtedly has to keep her cards very close to her chest for a good long while. I certainly would in her place, I wouldn't be playing 'besties forever' on any level tbh.

I once handed over my car keys to someone who asked to borrow my car. I was so shocked by the cheek of it, I was rendered speechless. Yeh, I fucking bitched about it - until you encounter a CF in the wild you really have no idea how you’ll react.

im sure YOU would’ve said no along with some witty and scathing reply - but I don’t tend to mix in the kind of circles where people are so brazen.

No and I'd never ask to share someone else's apart from immediate family such as DH and DC (lip balm, that is, not gloss!)

I would never ask this of someone outside my immediate family. If someone outside my family asked me, and I had a cheapish one, I'd let them keep it - I would not want to use it after they had, whether direct to lips or with fingers. Just yuk. If it was a new and expensive one - nope.

I have done with my best friend but not just anyone.