So- would you let someone borrow your lipgloss?

[OhMonDieux]

Princess of Wales (Catherine) was evidently not over-happy about M asking to borrow her. She did give it to her but supposedly made a 'disgusted face' as M wiped some on her finger than on her lips.

I think I am in the PofW camp here.

Years ago a work colleague who I barely new, came to work late and asked me if I had any mascara she could borrow. It happened that I did have and I gave it her (a bit reluctantly) as I felt it wasn't hygienic to share.

I'd never ask anyone if I could use their make up where it touches your skin.

Yes. It's fucking weird but predictable that so many people are pretending it's an awful thing to ask.

Poor old Kate, all that extra expense of a new lipgloss, and the hassle of nipping to Boots on the way home from work.

Oh.

I would like to see the disgusted face though.

I’d say yes if asked but it’s a really weird thing to ask.

That said, at school we all used to share those little body shop pots and I suspect t that’s a lot more germy- fingers are filthy.

Wouldn't bother me to be honest

I’d think it a bit odd to be asked. Haven’t swapped lipgloss since I was 14. But would out of “Too British For My Own Good” politeness.

When pregnant ? Oh hell no. I didn’t give up prosciutto crudo for nine months just to risk catching something viral and attracted to mucus membranes that might put any aspect of The BreakDancing Bump at risk. I don’t know if that is cos I was particularly paranoid when pregnant, or it’s just a biological response. I do remember being scared at the sheer number of things I was being warned to steer clear of cos it felt like there were armies of lurgies, bacteria, virus, substances out to get my baby.

I think I'd be a bit nonplussed. Lipgloss seems quite intimate, for some reason.

I think most people would lend it (finances permitting) and then throw it away and buy a new one. I'm not so convinced that American women are sharing their lip glosses. Maybe in middle school when money is an issue but not adults.

I wouldn’t ask to borrow it in the first place.

I don’t like it, I find it unhygienic. So I just tell people that if I’m ever asked, I say “Sorry, I don’t share makeup or personal hygiene items.” It seems silly for folks to lend it anyway and then throw it away…so wasteful.

It’s such an odd request - seems like a faux way to “create a bond”.

I probably would hand mine over though - being so shocked at the request I comply - then bin it.

I’d share it with my kids if their mouth was sore but if anyone else asked I would discard it afterwards

I think you either hand it over and pretend to not be bother or you say no. You don’t hand it over then act all grossed out.

Only with someone I'd kiss on the lips. My best friend asked me for my new tinted lip balm once which she applied with her finger. I love her but I binned it after that. It's not something I'd ask for.

I think it's fine if applied using fingers which Megan did. I also think if someone was getting compared to me in the papers and we were about to go on TV then I'd be inclined to help them out if they were caught short and going to be in the public eye.

Asking this question on this board is likely to get a skewed response. The vibe here is very much Princess Kate can do no wrong. Some people are more or less squeamish about such things. I wouldn't like it, but I would be at pains not to let my dislike show. And surely applying with her finger was the correct thing to do in the circumstances?

My answer isn't skewed. I have absolutely no investment in the Kate/Meghan thing.

I've had someone ask me who really should have known better (known risk) IRL and I was a bit taken aback tbh. Who actually does that?

Know someone who got cold sores that way so… no. Also had this at weddings where other guests are short on supplies… bring your own stuff! Was always fine with it but it now happens EVERY time, like you’re an adult so come prepared. Lip balm and tissues, powder.. that’s all super standard stuff and lip gloss is too. Usual disclaimer… not a royalist just loving this batshit crazy book!

I'd probably hand it over, and say 'no, no, keep it' when it was offered back, and buy myself some more.

I was out with a friend once and she wanted some lip balm. I happened to have a spare, new one in my bag, so gave it to her to save her going to Boots. I wouldn't have offered her the one I was using - and she probably wouldn't have wanted it.

I wouldn't, but then several of my friends have herpes.

No I wouldn't. And I've never been asked by a friend in nearly 30 years in the US. If asked, I'd give it and either say "keep it" or never use it again.

By which I mean they had a serious transmissable condition!

The situation was more probably Kate feeling Meghan felt close enough to go about it - it is Meghan's way of taking over the world isn't it? Lots of love to everyone and making sure they all work for her. Even the Queen lent her her blanket 😅 who knows how that one came about.

I'd be reluctant unless it was someone I knew for quite a long time. Also, I wonder whether there's an element of irritation about meghan not being properly prepared with her own kit. It's all very well to say she could nip to boots for a replacement, but not mid engagement. I imagine wanting to refresh your lip gloss but knowing your irritating SiL dipped her mitts in it would be irritating.

I wonder whether Meghan did it as an attempt to heal a rift and make common cause, whereas it would have the opposite effect for Kate?

It’s all power play with Markle. She should have had her own lip gloss, and possibly did, but making Kate feel obliged to let Meghan use use hers puts Meghan in a more powerful position - subconsciously (or otherwise) it‘s ‘I can make you do things for me, therefore I am more powerful.’ This behaviour is repeated in the reported interactions with staff, deliberately ruining their evenings off by constantly phoning with demands etc, just because she can.

She’s a one.

No and I wouldn't expect anyone else to either.