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Unpopular Opinion - William and Kate

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EdaYildiz · 13/10/2022 21:27

Don't come at me, I'm sharing my unpopular opinion because I want to know what you all think but just don't see a spark between William & Kate.

Loved them since the day they starting dating way back when they were undergrads at St Andrews but I just don't see their connection in pictures and it seems a little forced when she has her hand on his back or when they do hold hands.

I don't expect them to hold hands and snog because I know they're mostly photographed whilst they're working but he looks bored and she looks like she's trying her best.

Does anyone agree with me?

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jamdonut · 14/10/2022 07:19

I absolutely don’t agree with you.
I think the spark you say is missing is definitely there.
I think they operate brilliantly together when “at work”, but the more unguarded moments are totally natural for the time they’ve been together.
Why do we need to find a problem with them?
I can’t imagine that they don’t have words with each from time to time… that wouldn’t be natural. Let’s face it - we can all be tetchy and stressed occasionally.

What ISN'T natural is the way the Sussexes act. I don’t buy all the hand holding and gazing in each other’s eyes.

The clingy "we're holding hands" over stated hand holding is weird to me. It never just seems like a natural hand hold. But I guess they're feeling tense/stressed/judged or whatever.

You do you and all that.

LuluBlakey1 · 14/10/2022 07:27

We see them for about 2 mins maximum a week film footage and hundreds of split second still images from tens of thousands taken. It's all edited. Personally, I am happy to not see them 'slopping on in public' as my mam might have said. I think they get on well.

Samcro · 14/10/2022 07:46

for heavens sake they are human, someone posted a picture of her not smiling, maybe she was just deep in thought, had a headache or her feet hurt.
I think they look just fine together. they are like actors when they are at "work" just playing a role. I bet when they are in private they are totally different.

PatchworkElmer · 14/10/2022 07:48

They behave like DH and I do when we’re at work together. Nobody wants to see loads of hand holding and eye gazing, surely. They’re there to do a job and draw attention to the causes and issues they’re supporting.

OhmygodDont · 14/10/2022 07:51

A twinkle or sparkle? Do you mean that doe eyed teenager look.

couples who are all over each other and gushing about their love tend to be in the worst relationships. Couples who can happily just be with each other tend to be the ones who last.

Also it depends what photo of them you look at or what video but again, I’d rather a sneaky knowing smile or off guard look of love than clinging like limpets to each other.

JulietDorney · 14/10/2022 07:56

You are stirring @EdaYildiz

And your emotional radar is way off kilter if you can't see the signs of affection between them.

starrynight21 · 14/10/2022 07:58

DH and I have been together for 20 years. If you saw us in public you wouldn't see the requisite "spark" - but at home there is plenty of spark. I'm sure Kate and William are the same .

WilsonMilson · 14/10/2022 07:58

I don’t agree. When we see them, they are at work. They also adhere to a level of decorum and propriety that is fitting of their role.

Do you want them to be constantly hanging on to each other?

Who knows how they are at home, I imagine very different, but in a work setting they act professionally and think they seem very at ease and happy.

vera99 · 14/10/2022 08:01

This would be William's response to the OP.

MaulPerton · 14/10/2022 08:06

They are showing respect for their hosts, who, no doubt, are very grateful to know that they will not be confronted with a 'don't know where to look' moment when they get W & K. They are also demonstrating a sound working knowledge of the public-private domain when you live together and work together. These have been mangled in recent years in popular culture so that people have lost the ability to recognise these things when they see them.

augustusglupe · 14/10/2022 08:24

Why should they hold hands!? Christ I hate DH grabbing my hand. In public it must look like I hate him, but I adore him, I just can't bear any form of PDA.
Kate always looks so confident. She has a job to do and she does it well. I definitely see a spark between them, infact I think it positively smoulders.
Very unlike cling on for dear life M&H

smilesy · 14/10/2022 08:26

They seem comfortable with each other to me, and they know how to be professional and not draw attention away from the cause they are highlighting. If they were obviously “in to each other” when working, it would suggest to me that they think they are more important than their hosts and are not paying full attention to what is going on around them, which is unprofessional and bad manners. They know that PDA’s are inappropriate in this situation. It has nothing to do with not being affectionate or being too “stiff”. As pp have said, we have no idea what they are like in private.

Mamamia7962 · 14/10/2022 08:26

Vera99 - Why is that man even recording Prince William that's an invasion of privacy there.

Lalliella · 14/10/2022 08:27

She is over the top with her cheesy smiling and forced laughing. It looks a bit fake to me.

MargaretThursday · 14/10/2022 08:35

couples who are all over each other and gushing about their love tend to be in the worst relationships. Couples who can happily just be with each other tend to be the ones who last.

Totally agree with that. You do get couples that are all over each other all the time naturally, but the majority of times when I've known a couple that's like that the marriage hasn't lasted. It's almost like they have to prove to others that they have a Very Important Relationship because they themselves know they don't.

LuluBlakey1 · 14/10/2022 08:36

vera99 · 14/10/2022 08:01

This would be William's response to the OP.

Good on William.

AngelinaFibres · 14/10/2022 08:38

Livelovebehappy · 13/10/2022 23:08

I think when you feel so comfortable and content with each other, you don’t need to put on a display. I love my DH to bits but we don’t always hold hands and pack on the affection in public. I think they look very happy. I recall Charles and Diana looking very disconnected towards the end of their marriage, and William and Kate look nowhere near that.

This. DH and I are in a walking group. The majority of others are single. There are usually around 14 on the walk. We generally don't walk together as it's lovely to chat to new people. We certainly wouldn't hold hands and gaze lovingly at each other. We have been together for 21 years. He is fabulous, we are happy and I hope we will have many ,many years of growing old together. I don't need to prove that to anyone . Our lives are nothing like the weird goldfish bowl of royalty but would any of us be hand holding, gazing, schmoozing our other half during a big work event or a formal funeral etc. I find it a bit suspicious when people feel the need to shove their relationship and its total perfection in your face.

EarthSwallowMeWhole · 14/10/2022 08:39

Who knows, maybe they are still happy and going strong or maybe one or both of them are miserable.

How many threads on MN we have seen over the years where posters say that on the outside friends and family think they have the perfect marriage and perfect partner but behind closed doors the marriage is dead and they are miserable but feel stuck?
For all we know that's them too.

For what is worth they do look comfortable around each other and they play their role really well, but that could be because of years of experience and intense training to pretend that all is well.

ZenNudist · 14/10/2022 08:40

They are fine. Probably look closer than most of my friends and their partners in our 40s and 50s.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 14/10/2022 08:41

britneyisfree · 13/10/2022 21:36

Agree op

Me too!

Cosycover · 14/10/2022 08:42

Probably something to do with the pegging.

vera99 · 14/10/2022 08:42

Mamamia7962 · 14/10/2022 08:26

Vera99 - Why is that man even recording Prince William that's an invasion of privacy there.

He was on public land in Norfolk apparently and photographing in a public place is not an offence and to boot it was taken by a local out walking it would appear. Most paps know the score and no British outlets would touch the footage.

www.institute-of-photography.com/your-rights-as-a-photographer/

HaveYouSeenNancy · 14/10/2022 08:42

I watched the first minute of a body language 'expert' analyse their relationship a couple of weeks ago and he said he'd never seen a couple so in tune. There is a lot of eye contact between them and their mannerisms have become similar suggesting they spend a lot of time together (not just when working). I think they have a good marriage but keep the PDA out of their public life so that the focus is on the causes they support, not them as a couple.

Arbesque · 14/10/2022 08:47

OhmygodDont · 14/10/2022 07:51

A twinkle or sparkle? Do you mean that doe eyed teenager look.

couples who are all over each other and gushing about their love tend to be in the worst relationships. Couples who can happily just be with each other tend to be the ones who last.

Also it depends what photo of them you look at or what video but again, I’d rather a sneaky knowing smile or off guard look of love than clinging like limpets to each other.

I agree with this. Some of the most publicly lovey-dovey couples I know are the ones who eventually split up.

William and Kate look like a couple who are very happy and comfortable together. It was obviously a lovely match.

MarshaMelrose · 14/10/2022 08:48

He was on public land in Norfolk apparently and photographing in a public place is not an offence and to boot it was taken by a local out walking it would appear.

The guy had been hanging round their house trying to get photographs of them, hopefully breaking covid rules. William and Kate were out cycling with the children, saw him again and didn't want him following them around taking photos of the kids. Which seems reasonable.

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