Meghan’s birthday video

[Greenlittle]

I like the idea and I like the video. (Not that keen on the big desk) And I though MM looked...alive!

Not sure who the other woman was. But there was good chemistry.

@JaniieJones

No idea why anyone would link all the dm articles. There's a load of similarly trashy gossip crap in the US, you do know its not just the UK media don't you?!

In the US, it's the extreme right wing media like Fox and NYP. Both have been tame by UK standards. The rest are not 'mainstream' in the sense that it's the 'hair saloon' type comic relief that everyone ridicules - even their readers tend to hide in shame. Have a quick laugh, then line the cat litter.

For any American mumsnetters, I think what’s creepy in the uk is the amount of power the tabloids have and how they create this “institution” which the government is afraid of.

It’s easy to dismiss as weird trivial gossip and tittle-tattle but when tabloid editors have hotlines to the PM, and enough information on politicians to destroy their lives that’s worrying

I remember when the female MPs wrote a letter of solidarity to Meghan and it was like they were “speaking for themselves too”.

I know decent well qualified intelligent mainstream women who just wouldn’t get involved in politics (despite being very capable) because they wouldn’t want to deal with the horror of our media trying to ruin their personal lives or get power over them every chance they get.

So we’re left with the thick skinned Eton types as wannabe leaders 🤷‍♀️

Moving back to the thread topic - I don’t think I’d find mentoring by ANYONE very helpful!

Me and my colleague were talking about our learning style and we both like dry efficient types writing things on blackboards. Someone being all jolly and cheerful would be like

I want Meghan to pledge that she will be giving up 40 minutes of her time to help someone because that is what she is asking of others because it’s supposedly important
Both @Rainy365 and I think @JaniieJones are hung up on this. Maybe they are stalking the website ready to pounce and grab 40 mins with MM if her name goes up. My bet is 40 mins (not in the literal sense) with MM has already been ring fenced.

I would also think there would be plenty of others pledging but who don't want their name made public.

@Itreallyistimetochangethings

I know it’s like Piers Morgan is still hanging around wanting his 40 min second meet!

(or first, not even sure if the first was an actual meet or him sniffing the toilet seat she’d been on then hiding behind a hedge to look at her)

@Roussette

I want Meghan to pledge that she will be giving up 40 minutes of her time to help someone because that is what she is asking of others because it’s supposedly important

So... if Rainy she does this? She's got a fantastic initative? Tell me.

I'm curious. Because you are really really really hung up on this.

I’m responding to people who are commenting on my posts Rousette. Nobody is yet to convince me she has already made a pledge or that it doesn’t matter if she hasn’t.

If she had done her pledge, I would be more inclined to think she at least believes her own message and is prepared to put in the effort she asks of others. That she is ‘linked not ranked’. It’s a character thing for me. Someone asking others to do something they haven’t done themselves comes across as if they are too important for it to apply to them. She is not showing to me she is genuinely compassionate and committed to this. And I think it’s too late now for her to announce something and change my opinion. She should have lead by example from the start. I have this view of anyone doing similar to get people to act.

I’ve given other reasons why I think this initiative isn’t great, so no I still wouldn’t call it fantastic even if she had pledged.

'think JaniieJones are hung up on this. Maybe they are stalking the website ready to pounce and grab 40 mins with MM if her name goes up'

I'm not 'hung up' on anything. It's a thread on a chat forum where we share opinions? My opinion is Melinda Mccarthy was cringeworthily unfunny and a better initiative would be practical support and funding not a 40min chat. HTH.

Lordy. You are too hung up on Meghan mentoring herself. Seriously. Maybe she has Maybe she hasn't.
It really really is not what this is about.in a

The fact she has (and hasn't said who she is mentoring) or the fact she hasn't is totally irrelevant to this whole thing.

Can you imagine if she posted who she mentored ?
It would be like piranhas in a pool of tiny fish.

I love Melissa (not Melinda) McCarthy and I am going to squeeze in one of her films on the weekend if I have time!

*This poster seems hung up on this paragraph where MM describes what the 40 friends will be doing and ignoring that she is including herself on the project overall.

The project was announced a couple of days ago, from what I know there have not been any publication of the who is being mentored by the 40. So not clear why MM not publishing her name is seen is singly not taking part in the project.*

In literally quoting meghans words. It’s clear as day. She has not said in her statement she will give her time to help someone. Not sure why people are making stuff up that she is or that she’s doing it in secret or that she will do. You’ve no idea. Until meghan herself says she is doing it, then I don’t believe she is.

Not one person has said she should identify an individual she would mentor. She can still announce she is making a pledge like others have done without identifying anyone. She’s not done this.

So Rainy if she'd pledged 40 minutes herself to someone but didn't want to say who...because of inevitable crap press.. it would still be an awful initiative?

There is so much positive press out there about this, it's good to see

Why does me responding to people commenting on my posts = I’m hung up on it? I’m no more hung up on it than those of you determined to defend it.

@Rainy365 you signing up for your 40minutes then?

Because you have talked about her not doing her 40 minutes throughout the whole of this thread.
Continually
She is co-ordinating it, organising it, got the people on board, pushing it forward but hey.... she hasn't said who she is mentoring so it's not worthwhile.

So a CEO talks about a new initiative within his company... like where one of my DC works.. they do a lot for the particular area they are based in, my DC and others go into the community and spend a day helping others. (My DC spent a day painting and gardening) The CEO doesn't. It's not the slightest bit odd at all.

As I say... perhaps she is, but given the crap media I don't blame her for not going into the detail

@Roussette

Lordy. You are too hung up on Meghan mentoring herself. Seriously. Maybe she has Maybe she hasn't. It really really is not what this is about.in a

The fact she has (and hasn't said who she is mentoring) or the fact she hasn't is totally irrelevant to this whole thing.

Can you imagine if she posted who she mentored ?
It would be like piranhas in a pool of tiny fish.

Of course its relevant whether she is publicly going to pledge her own time or not for own initiative. She lacks integrity if she doesn’t.

NOTE I am not talking about that she should be making public who she is mentoring and what it’s about. Not sure why people are hung up on that point giving nobody has actually mentioned it.

It could be like “ I’m mentoring x and y. It seems to make a difference. Hey girlfriends instead of a birthday prezzie, can you mentor for 40 minutes of your time?”

Yes? Ok, initiative sorted

She lacks integrity if she doesn’t

😂😂😂

I am not talking about that she should be making public who she is mentoring and what it’s about. Not sure why people are hung up on that point giving nobody has actually mentioned it

Ahhh OK

I'm sure Meghan pledges herself but she isn't going to say exactly what and with whom. Anyway she has not long had a baby and that alone is time consuming.

people.com/royals/meghan-markle-prince-harry-surprise-teen-zoom-mentoring-session/?amp=true

Interesting topic

Seems she has already mentored… probably not good enough though for some

@Roussette

Because you have talked about her not doing her 40 minutes throughout the whole of this thread. Continually She is co-ordinating it, organising it, got the people on board, pushing it forward but hey.... she hasn't said who she is mentoring so it's not worthwhile.

So a CEO talks about a new initiative within his company... like where one of my DC works.. they do a lot for the particular area they are based in, my DC and others go into the community and spend a day helping others. (My DC spent a day painting and gardening) The CEO doesn't. It's not the slightest bit odd at all.

As I say... perhaps she is, but given the crap media I don't blame her for not going into the detail

Because people continually respond to my posts. why is it ok to comment on my posts but I can’t comment in response? I’m allowed to reply if people comment to me, even if it means repeating myself.

I’ve also made a number of other comments and responses on the initiative and things that have come up. It’s not like it’s the only thing I’ve said.

If a CEO of a company asked all of his employees on his birthday to do something specific for a good cause because he believes its important and would make a difference, but didn’t do it himself, then yeah I would think that would be pretty questionable too. I don’t have respect for people like that.

That's a lovely article @Penji678

I liked this comment

'Harry encouraged others to "unleash a groundswell of real acts of compassion,"

Yeah Haz would know all about that. He can't stop unleashing his compassion at his family can he.

Ok fair enough. Your opinion.
But the Co my DC works for sent out ... over a week..a lot of employees doing this good ... it was well thought of, loved and appreciated within the Community but the CEO in this case did not go out and paint an elderly person's flat like my DC did.

They raised to the ground a common area in a group of flats, the residents loved it, and it carried on through for a few years as an initiative that went forward.
No one in the Company thought... oh why didn't the boss do it. That was totally irrelevant.

I don't think anywhere have I said you can't comment?

@Roussette

Ok fair enough. Your opinion. But the Co my DC works for sent out ... over a week..a lot of employees doing this good ... it was well thought of, loved and appreciated within the Community but the CEO in this case did not go out and paint an elderly person's flat like my DC did. They raised to the ground a common area in a group of flats, the residents loved it, and it carried on through for a few years as an initiative that went forward. No one in the Company thought... oh why didn't the boss do it. That was totally irrelevant.

I don't think anywhere have I said you can't comment?

Sounds great. It’s good a company gave people time to do something like that.

Did the CEO do anything at all? It’s hard to
compare directly because it depends on how these things are delivered but i really would still question why a CEO didn’t muck in at all (if he didn’t) but encouraging others to do something. In Meghan’s case 40 minutes is nothing but painting a flat would take all day (or was the time split). That’s a lot to expect of anyone, CEO or not, and I wouldn’t think much about it if someone didn’t want to do that. Unless they asked 40 friends to do it but didn’t do it themselves of course. I’m really not just sticking this on Meghan for the sake of it.

Sorry I know you didn’t say I can’t comment. But saying I’m hung up on something when all I’m doing is responding back to others makes me feel like I can’t comment.