Give me back my cat!!

[ConnieHeart]

Our ginger girl cat is an absolute sweetheart but doesn't have much loyalty to us. Many times over the years she's disappeared for days on end, occasionally popping back home for a snooze then she's off again.

For the past week or so she's repeated this pattern & we suspect someone else is feeding her as she's not eating when she does bother to grace us with her presence. Last year when she disappeared I put notes through all the houses near us & a lady rang me to say she sees her frequently in her garden & she tries to come in her house but apparently she doesn't let her.

After missing since Saturday, dd2 & I popped round to the lady's house to ask if she'd seen her. No reply at the house but lo and behold, who should peek out through the blinds at the window but our little monkey!!

So I'm going to go round again tomorrow and have a gentle word with the lady or leave her a note if she's not in. Our cat has no doubt made herself at home but she should not be encouraging her!

Heh heh! sounds like my visitor! 😂

When cats roam you take these risks. There are risks of them being run over, deliberately hurt or as in this case, catnapped. Obviously it’s not ok but the only real solution is to keep them indoors. Personally I don’t think that’s fair either, cats are meant to be outside but it does open you up to these dangers.

The lady probably thinks you are neglecting the cat or something. Go and talk to her, if she’s difficult tell her you’ll contact the police.

The fact that she wasn't eating her food makes me pretty sure someone is feeding her

I'm not sure why you're getting so many combative responses op. I would be really upset too if someone was feeding my cat and letting them in their house. It just isn't on. I hope you spoke to the neighbour and asked them not to do it again.

She definitely doesn't think this. I've chatted to her a couple of times & she knows the cat is well looked after

If a cat doesn't like their staff they will find new ones. Not saying you are bad staff or there is anything wrong with your home but cats are notoriously fussy. My MiL acquired a cat this way, cat was living with four young children, a dog and kitten, she decided an older couple with no children and no other pets would be quieter. My MiL told the owner that the cat was visiting them, she wasn't bothered, so cat moved in.

I'm pretty sure next doors cat wants to move in with us. He is always lounging on our deck or garden furniture, always comes over for a cuddle, we don't let him in or feed him, but we have a giggle about it with our neighbour. Our cat would not like a little brother.

What she says and what she thinks could be two different things. She has probably justified it in her mind that the cat wouldn’t keep coming to her if it was happy and looked after at home.