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Said goodbye to my sweet boy today and I'm not OK

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Motherofvoid · 16/04/2026 21:37

Just needed to share with some other cat lovers. My beautiful boy was put to sleep today. He was 13 (so not really that old in the grand scheme of things) and rapidly declined with kidney disease resulting in kidney and liver failure over the space of 2 months. He hated the renal food and I must have tried every one and every other supplement available.

Please be kind. I'm already overcome with guilt that I didn't make the decision sooner, he was still eating, drinking and very affectionate, jumping up in the window and onto the bed until yesterday which is why I didn't.

Yesterday, he wouldn't eat at all, and he was very lethargic, I slept on the bathroom floor with him overnight. This morning he seemed quite unsteady and I knew it was time. It wasn't until he was on that vet table I realised how much weight he had lost. I feel so broken, this is my first experience of pet loss. The vets were great and tried to reassure me but I can't help but feel I could have done more. My poor boy, I am so so sorry 😢..

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NotDarkGothicMama · 16/04/2026 21:39

I'm sorry OP 💐

You did a hard, selfless thing to help your boy. There's no need to feel guilty. You did everything you could to make him comfortable and made the call when it was time.

Would you like to share a photo?

Crazycatlady202020 · 16/04/2026 21:40

I am so sorry for your loss. You have nothing to be sorry about, it sounds like you gave him a very loving life and have done all you could for him x

Motherofvoid · 16/04/2026 21:42

@NotDarkGothicMama This is my beautiful boy, this photo was only taken a week ago. I can't believe he is gone

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Threetoedsloth · 16/04/2026 21:46

What a lovely, lovely boy. When they leave us they take a piece of our hearts with them. You clearly loved your precious boy dearly and at the end you did the kindest possible thing for him .

changednameagain1234 · 16/04/2026 21:48

I am so sorry for your loss xxx.

Try and take comfort in the lovely life you gave him and how loved he was which he will certainly of known

catlovingdoctor · 16/04/2026 21:49

So very sorry xx

MariaMagdalenaa · 16/04/2026 21:50

My condolences OP.
My boy died of kidney failure 2 years ago.i still
miss him.

AnotherExpatKiwi · 16/04/2026 21:51

Massive hugs. He’s beautiful.

You did the right thing. It’s so hard to know the right time but with my old boys, they were fine, until they weren’t. You didn’t let him suffer. Pets are a joy and also a massive loss when they go. Take care of yourself and time to grieve.

TheyGrewUp · 16/04/2026 21:52

He were loved he was. He let you know the right time. He knew you loved him. It was loving and noble to sleep on the bathroom floor with him. He would have liked it.

Rest in peace lad. Live at ease @Motherofvoid.

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ItsPickleRick · 16/04/2026 21:53

What a beautiful boy.

You did the kindest thing you could for him after giving him a lifetime of love. Be kind to yourself OP xx

DiscoBeat · 16/04/2026 21:55

Oh bless you, you sound like such a lovely cat mum. He was very lucky to have you and sounds well loved. RIP 🐾

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 16/04/2026 21:56

He's beautiful. What a gorgeous boy.

I'm so sorry he's died @Motherofvoid
It's such a wrench when they go.
I've had quite a few put to sleep over the years and it's just awful.

What was his name?

Motherofvoid · 16/04/2026 21:57

Thank you all for all your kind comments, I can't reply to them all individually at the moment. After years of miscarriages, infidelity and just everyday life rubbish he was my reason to get up. My home feels empty.

Here is a happier photo of my babies first day. He was such a handsome fluffy little bean.

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Pasta4Dinner · 16/04/2026 21:59

18 months I lost my 14 year old cat. I was broken for weeks. Couldn’t think about him/speak about him without crying.
I could still cry now thinking about him. A month after o saw a photo of a rescue cat and we picked him up the day after. He’s a pain in the arse buy lovely with it. He’s definitely helped.

500mileslong · 16/04/2026 22:01

What a beautiful boy, I’m so sorry, it’s incredibly hard 💙

anon12345anon · 16/04/2026 22:01

Grief, the price of true love ❤️ xx

He would have known you adored him x

HighburyHope · 16/04/2026 22:02

I’m so sorry. Please don’t feel guilty. He was obviously deeply and tenderly loved and has left his pawprints on your heart.

NotDarkGothicMama · 16/04/2026 22:08

What a gorgeous, shiny boy. He looks very happy and loved OP. You did well by him.

We lost our sweet girl last year in very distressing circumstances. I still cry for her some days. We decided to get a pair of kittens and then took on an unexpected rescue so we have our hands full, but she has a special place in my heart.

ChaToilLeam · 16/04/2026 22:10

I'm so sorry, what a beautiful boy. How much he was loved. ❤️ He looks so much like my black kitty, who also went downhill so rapidly at the end. Still miss him all the time. 🐈‍⬛

Pudmyboy · 16/04/2026 22:12

@AnotherExpatKiwi makes a very good point: he was fine until he wasn't. You stayed all night with him and let him go with love. Hurts like hell though, so be kind to yourself and know you will love him forever.💐💐💐

Motherofvoid · 16/04/2026 22:52

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne his name was Milo, he was a rescue and that's the name he came with. I rarely used that name though unless he was naughty, he was always my Mee the Moo or my Moomoo.

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Breadcat24 · 16/04/2026 22:54

@Motherofvoid What a beautiful cat he was, and you can tell by the way he is looking at you in the pictures he loved you as much as you loved him. I am sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself

Motherofvoid · 16/04/2026 22:57

@Breadcat24 thank you. I really needed to hear that x

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HighburyHope · 16/04/2026 22:59

Oh @Motherofvoid - my lovebug is also a rescued Milo - all black with beautiful green eyes, just like yours 🐈‍⬛ ❤️

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Motherofvoid · 16/04/2026 23:01

@HighburyHope perfection x

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