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Is it normal to feel this way?

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floydfan81 · 31/07/2023 21:32

I have wanted a British Blue all my life, I never wanted to rush out and get one, I wanted the time to be right, It just so happens that its taken over 30 years to get there lol

I'm single, no kids and work from home, that will not change, I rarely go on holiday and generally only really go out to get my shopping etc so I have the time.

I have everything ready, I have toys, a bed, scratching post, bowls etc etc and a local vet that is five minutes away, I also have the money put aside for the kitten, I have been looking for a long time and today I found him, I'm going to view him on wednesday. I have pics if anyone wants to see!

I'm suddenly panicking thinking I am about to make a big mistake and I genuinely don't know why I feel this way, This is something I have always wanted. Is it normal to feel this way or is it a sign I shouldn't do this?

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TheShellBeach · 31/07/2023 21:33

I'd love to see him!
What's his name?

AnxiousShep · 31/07/2023 21:36

I would love to see pics.
I would say accept the panic. It’s a big change. Go and meet the kitten anyway. You will either fall in love or not.

AnxiousShep · 31/07/2023 21:39

Your message actually reminded me of when I had my first child. I always knew I wanted one. Got pregnant when the time was right. Got through the pregnancy. Everything ready. Had a complete panic the week before he was due. Absolutely convinced I’d made the wrong decision. Was a bit late by then 🤣

RosesAndHellebores · 31/07/2023 21:40

@floydfan81 that's exactly how I felt when I gave up work at 35 weeks pg. DS arrived about 10 days later. Loved him from the minute he was born more than I could have imagined. He's 28 now. Never looked back.

These two, on the other hand are my adored rescues. The tabby was possibly semi-feral and very very anxious five months ago. It was a big step taking them and uncertain they would settle. She comes for strokes now, and purrs.

All will be well. Good luck.

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NobodyWantsToHearThat · 31/07/2023 21:42

Have you had ats before? No? Then it's a bit like having a baby - you want one, may have read some books or heard from other people, and are then anxious about whether you'll be a good parent. Cats live 12 - 20 years, by the way.

TheShellBeach · 31/07/2023 21:42

Here's one of my many rescues, OP.

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ResponsibleWalrus · 31/07/2023 21:44

My British shorthair is exactly as the websites describe. She's incredibly nosey and wants to follow me so she knows what's I'm doing at all times. At the same time, she is stand-offish and will hide in a corner sulking if I dare to touch her when not invited.I love her but if I had my time again, I'd go for a Maine Coon like our newest cat. It took him a year but he's super cuddly and wants hugs from whoever is free.

RosesAndHellebores · 31/07/2023 21:46

She's (of course might be a he) adorable @TheShellBeach

TheShellBeach · 31/07/2023 21:46

I think, because this is your first cat, and you've done so much planning, you're just having a wobble.

What's the worst that can happen? Well, you can decide it was a mistake and give him to a rescue centre.

But as cats choose their owners and not vice versa, I think he'll be in your life for a very long time.

TheShellBeach · 31/07/2023 21:48

RosesAndHellebores · 31/07/2023 21:46

She's (of course might be a he) adorable @TheShellBeach

Thank you! He is actually a boy. His name is Linney.

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floydfan81 · 31/07/2023 21:49

No name yet but here he is!

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TheShellBeach · 31/07/2023 21:50

@RosesAndHellebores your two are gorgeous too.
C'mon OP - show us the kitten.

TheShellBeach · 31/07/2023 21:51

X post with Mr. Kitten pix.

He's a smart fella!

RosesAndHellebores · 31/07/2023 21:55

He's beautiful.

I think he will bring magic to your life, so Merlin, or Gandalf (Gandalf the Grey).

AnxiousShep · 31/07/2023 22:30

He is gorgeous. Very similar to one of my girls I had a few years back.

catscalledbeanz · 01/08/2023 01:33

I think it's healthy to have misgivings. Its representative that you understand exactly the responsibility of what being a good pet owner is. Too many leap into a 20 (+) year commitment without really thinking about it. You've done your proper research, have chosen your perfect puss, but of course in doing that you have also researched the downsides etc. I think you'll be a great owner.

Change of tone- that little boy is just the cutest little floof!

AllSewnUp · 01/08/2023 01:40

Oh he's gorgeous!

From what you've said, it sounds as though you're feeling like this because you're taking the role of cat mama seriously - you'll be absolutely fine 🙂

HerAvatar · 01/08/2023 02:19

The fact that you feel like this means (ime at least) that you are a most suitable slave for your (very beautiful) furry overlord, he has chosen well Grin I've felt like this every time I've got a new pet, it's just because I take the responsibility seriously and (I hope) means I'm a good servant owner. It is a big commitment but you sound really well prepared and ready to give him an amazing home. It will be chaos for the first few weeks and you'll probably wonder what the hell you've done but you'll also laugh a lot and fall head over heels in love all at the same time, I'm so jealous Envy Honestly it will be fine, a few weeks from now you won't remember what life was like without him Smile

Cascais · 01/08/2023 03:10

Gorgeous

TheShellBeach · 01/08/2023 12:59

So what is on your shortlist of names?

helpfulperson · 01/08/2023 13:45

Just be aware you may have misgivings for a bit. Kittens are hard work, then they become teenagers. I've had many rescue cats but they've all been 6years plus. Then I got a 7 month old and 2 year old. Honesty by then end of week 2 I was wondering what the hell I'd done. They were so full on. But now they are older and calmer I remember why I love having cats.

DontBeBitterGlitter2023 · 01/08/2023 13:48

floydfan81 · 31/07/2023 21:49

No name yet but here he is!

I've died and gone to kitty heaven 😍

Always wanted a British blue too... I have three common moggies right now though and wouldn't change them for all the world...

Pics because I think everyone else needs to see them too 🤣

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TheShellBeach · 01/08/2023 15:13

Another gratuitous cat pic.

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PinkSparklyPussyCat · 01/08/2023 20:27

I'm in a similar situation. I really want a BSH but we lost our cat Harry nearly 4 months ago and I don't know if we're ready. I've been doing my research and the temperament of the breed sounds similar to Harry which is one off the attractions.

Your boy is gorgeous! Seeing the pictures make me think we should go for it. I'm already coming up with a list of names but I don't think DH is keen on them!

I'm loving the cat pics on here, keep 'em coming!

RosesAndHellebores · 01/08/2023 22:01

@PinkSparklyPussyCat we lost our darling old boy at the beginning of January. Has half BSH. I have no regrets and we about getting the girls within six weeks. They don't replace him but they are good to have around and are themselves. I have made a little rose garden where he used to sit "on watch". His ashes are there and I had a little plaque made for him.

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