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My lovely boy died tonight

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ShutYerYapAndGetOnWithIt · 30/10/2022 23:40

I hope it's ok to post this. I need to tell someone about my lovely old boy. His name was Mr Cooper, a tabby boy who was feral until he wandered into our garden 11 1/2 years ago - we already had 2 female cats at the time. It's a log story, but he became the most gentle, affectionate, special cat I've ever known (we had several over the past 42 years, all rescues). Tonight, he went outside at about 8, as usual (he used to sit on the step, our house is high up from the pavement). A knock came at the door, some very nice lady asked if I was Mrs so-and-so, and told me my boy was dead. He'd been hit by a car outside our house, and someone had taken him to this lady's house, on my street, because she's got a microchip scanner. He'd been killed outright. I went with her to her house, picked him up in a towel, stroked his little face and paws then buried him in a hole my husband dug. I'll miss him SO much.

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plinkypots · 30/10/2022 23:45

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so heartbreaking when they go. You'd think an outdoor cat that made it that long would be fine too which must make it even harder. 💐

ThisMustBeMyDream · 30/10/2022 23:47

I'm so so sorry to hear this, I've tears just thinking about it. Poor Mr Cooper, and poor you. He obviously lived a long and happy life with you.
I lost a rescue moggy in the same circumstances almost 2 years ago to the day. I'm still as gutted even now, but I am able to reminisce at the happy years she spent with us and feel glad we gave her a loving and happy home for as long as we did. In time you will be able to look back with happiness and not in tears xx

PriamFarrl · 30/10/2022 23:49

Oh I’m so sorry for your loss. Your poor baby boy.

Katthecatlover · 30/10/2022 23:49

Oh bless that little darling. I’m so sorry xx

Ehupflower · 30/10/2022 23:51

Sending love. xx

ShutYerYapAndGetOnWithIt · 30/10/2022 23:53

Thank you all. He was about 18, so he'd had a long life. I absolutely adored him. He only started sitting on my lap about 3 years ago (preferring my husband) but for the past few months, he used to like to be cuddled up to my chest, really close. Some people will say "It was only a cat" but he was like a little person to me. I'm glad he didn't suffer, and glad that he had been so spoilt by us.

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AlwaysLatte · 30/10/2022 23:53

Sorry to hear this. He sounds much loved. Do you have a photo of your lovely boy?

Tallisimo · 30/10/2022 23:54

Oh no, so sorry x

userxx · 30/10/2022 23:55

That's so sad. Time is a healer 💐

ShutYerYapAndGetOnWithIt · 30/10/2022 23:56

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kittenkipping · 30/10/2022 23:56

He was not "like" a person- he was a person. And he was no "it". He was him and yours and his death is a tragedy. The saving grace is that he had love, and learned to love. And developed that bond with you. Ever closer. From feral to as close as he could be- he was yours and you his. Mourning pets is acute and real. I wish more people would understand how deep it is.

userxx · 30/10/2022 23:58

What a handsome chap.

TheMadGardener · 30/10/2022 23:59

I'm so sorry. 💐

Sakura7 · 31/10/2022 00:02

I'm so sorry, he sounds like a lovely cat.

We lost our old girl last year at 19. It felt so raw at the beginning but over time you'll think of the happy memories, not the shock and pain you're feeling right now. We still talk about her and joke about her every day, they become a member of the family.

He had a long life and was loved, and in the end he didn't suffer. Try to take some comfort from that. 💐

WishIWasACavewoman · 31/10/2022 00:04

I'm so sorry to hear about Mr Cooper's loss. It sounds like he had a wonderful time with you and didn't know a thing about the car, so at least there's that. But awful for you to lose a member of your family like that.

FoxyLadyBOOtique · 31/10/2022 00:20

Gorgeous boy. I’m so sorry for your loss.

ifIwerenotanandroid · 31/10/2022 00:47

Aw, he looks like a very fine cat, & he obviously had a wonderful life with you.

caringcarer · 31/10/2022 00:52

My son lost his special Mr Stripy a lovely tabby cat a little over a year ago and we still miss him so much. I bought a photo frame with the cut outs in and put 6 photos of him in it, one as a little kitten just after we got him, one lying in sunshine in his prime years, one playing in an old shoe box, he really loved boxes, a couple with my children, one when he was an old man of 17 looking straight at camera. My son put it in his room. We buried Mr Stripey, in a box, in his favourite spot in the garden and planted some forget me knots on the top. They came up this year reminding us what a lovely cat he was. He actually looked very similar to your cat. You never forget your kitty friends. Sorry you have lost you lovely cat.

Findingmypurposeinlife · 31/10/2022 01:25

Such adorable photos. Sorry for your loss. What a lucky boy to have found an amazing family who showered him with love and provided him with a safe home. ❤️
Have no doubt he will still be around in spirit. Stay strong.

VollywoodHampires · 31/10/2022 01:26

What a beautiful boy, so sorry 💐

ShutYerYapAndGetOnWithIt · 31/10/2022 07:29

Thank you all for your kind words. I dreamt about him last night (during the 5 hours I slept). This morning, everywhere is so quiet - he was very talkative. My eldest son, who moved back in with us almost 3 years ago, moves out today, to his own place, so I'll be busy helping with some packing. I know you all understand how I feel. x

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Motnight · 31/10/2022 07:31

Mr Cooper looks and sounds like a very special boy. Op. I am so sorry for your loss.

SanFranBear · 31/10/2022 07:36

Oh, OP - you speak of him with such love, love that he will definitely have known given he had such a lovely life with you and your family.

Cats are, in my opinion, never just an animal as they creep by stealth into your heart and then never leave. Having lost a soul cat myself, it's so so hard but kittenkipping's post is so lovely and sums it all up perfectly!

So sorry for your loss Flowers

LemongrassLollipop · 31/10/2022 07:43

So sorry to hear about Mr Cooper.💔 I've only just lost our boy unexpectedly too so I share and understand your grief. Our cats are part of the family and are dearly missed.

IsFuzzyBeagMise · 31/10/2022 09:45

I'm so sorry Op. Mr. Cooper was a beautiful boy. One of my cats has started to sit on my lap and he has been her for just over two years. Sympathy to you and to LemongrassLollipop 💐