I am strongly thinking of returning my rescue cat to its foster owner. We’ve had her for eight months, she is an adult 2 year old who had two sets of kittens before being spayed and was offered to us by the rescue because they believed the kittens I really wanted to adopt instead wouldn’t do well in an adult home. I said yes because I really wanted a cat but I didn’t particularly warm to her.
She is definitely accustomed to being outside, and much prefers it to being indoors. If she had it her way, she’d be outside from morning to night with some interludes at home when we are not around and no humans are there to force interactions! It’s not like she goes outside and frolics about either, she is almost always in a crouched position in the corner of the garden. Vet gave all clear and said it was stress… suggested calming tablets. She wouldn’t take them.
I have to force her to stay inside and I’ve managed to get her to play at times, and accept pets. She is not vicious but for the first few months she did bite and scratch. My main issue is she wants to be alone pretty much all the time. I feel the bond with her is very… nonexistent! I do love her because she’s a vulnerable animal but I don’t love her for her. I find her disappointing, which im ashamed to admit but after eight months I am finding this to be really hard for our family.
what would you do in my position?