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My boy is being PTS this morning and I am not coping

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BabyMoonPie · 08/09/2020 09:30

We've had him since we brought him home from a rescue as a kitten and he is now 14. Mostly in good health apart from being overweight as he's always been a greedy boy. He started being unwell in May and we found out he had serious kidney disease. Thought it was under control but he had another episode and there's nothing that the vet can do for him. We brought him home after his consultation yesterday so we could say goodbye but I am really struggling. 3.7 yo DD was upset yesterday but that might have been because I was upset. It's the right thing to do but I am going to miss him so much.

My boy is being PTS this morning and I am not coping

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JorisBonson · 08/09/2020 09:42

So sorry for your loss

Bargebill19 · 08/09/2020 09:44

I’m so sorry. 💐💐

Itsrainingnotmen · 08/09/2020 09:44

Sorry for your loss. We lost our boy in April..
Such a hole.

CarrieFour · 08/09/2020 09:46

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Have been in almost you exact situation recently and I won't lie. It was one of the saddest times of my life.

But I promise the worst part is the night before and the lead up to the appointment.

Once they have been PTS you are incredibly sad for yourself but all of the worry about your wonderful pet goes away. And to know they aren't suffering brings a stillness that helps the grief.

It's been a couple of months for me and I still miss my girl every day. But the aching sadness passed.

We opted for a private cremation which I did think helped a lot. Got a special urn with a candle next to it.

Huge love to you today. Xxxxx Thank you for being his family.

Toddlerteaplease · 08/09/2020 10:19

Yes. The worse part is the lead up. My girl had a beautiful and peaceful death. Cuddled in my arms with her sister by her side. I also opted for private cremation. If you can get nice pictures of his paw pads you can get jewellery/key rings made.

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BabyMoonPie · 08/09/2020 10:22

Thanks all for your kind words. The appointment is 11 so we're nearly there. I'm going to go and have a cuddle on the sofa before we put him in his travel crate

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BabyMoonPie · 08/09/2020 14:26

He's gone. I am in pieces but it was his time. We're getting pawprints but his ashes will be scattered in the crematorium's garden of remembrance. He went to the vet on his bed and will be cremated with it so he was comfortable and it really was like going to sleep. I'm trying to pull myself together for when DD comes back from nursery

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JorisBonson · 08/09/2020 14:45

So sorry @BabyMoonPie. At least he was comfortable at the end xxx

Tavannach · 08/09/2020 16:45

I'm so sorry. It's terribly dofficult.

CarrieFour · 08/09/2020 17:51

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Be kind to yourself the next few days.

How lucky your are to have had something that makes saying goodbye so hard.

chocolatespiders · 08/09/2020 18:31

So sorry for your loss. What a gorgeous cat.

DrDetriment · 08/09/2020 18:35

I'm so sorry. What a lovely cat and my heart goes out to you.

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BabyMoonPie · 09/09/2020 07:44

Thanks again for the kind words. He was such a character and a big softy. I keep going into rooms and expecting to see him

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Roselilly36 · 09/09/2020 07:47

It’s awful, so sorry OP. I know how I felt when my lovely cat was PTS, just terrible, be kind to yourself, it’s very early days take it easy

Chickydoo · 09/09/2020 08:01

so sorry for your loss.

Trailing1 · 09/09/2020 08:03

I'm so sorry OP. sleep tight your amazing companion. X I hope you and your family are coping ok.

clanger71 · 09/09/2020 08:06

I just wanted to pass on my condolences. What a lovely picture in your first post, he looks like such a handsome and obviously well loved little fella in his dapper bow tie. Our pets really do become part of the family. Take care of yourself.

giletrouge · 09/09/2020 17:40

Oh gosh what a smart looking boy.
Deeply sorry OP.
I'm wondering how you and your DD are doing, but no obligation to answer, only if you'd like to.

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BabyMoonPie · 09/09/2020 19:53

@giletrouge thanks. DD is mostly OK. She has mentioned him a couple of times but there have been no more tears. I'm still crying a lot. I keep expecting to see him and hear the cat flap and his bell. I just miss him so much

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BabyMoonPie · 09/09/2020 19:56

That bowtie was his Christmas outfit last year. He was getting mellower in his dotage and let me put it on (I'd tried when he was younger and been met with refusal!)

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thebear1 · 09/09/2020 20:00

So sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy. Mine was pts for similar reasons in March last year. I got comfort from knowing he had a nice life.

giletrouge · 09/09/2020 20:18

I remember when one of ours went, I was much more upset than my little dd. She was a similar age to your dd I think, about 3. This was over 30 years ago. Was such a sweet cat - I'm not going to name her here because she was dd's cat and she's 35 now if she saw it she'd prob know this was me. (And be embarrassed).
I do hope you feel better soon.

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