So the cat is in the bath (not normal behaviour)

[KatyMac]

Poor Flynn is feeling poorly: but sitting in the bath is very new!!

Quite concerned really

I am so very sorry to hear this. you did your best for him and know he must have felt very loved and secure with you there to look after him. The hardest part of loving them is going through this bit.

I have had a really bad day too. My dd dislocated my finger in a fit of temper and I have go back and a special;ist in the morning which is why I've only just seen this.

Fly high beautiful Flynn! Take care

Our family is lost

We lost our much loved boy last year, he wasn't old but had a kidney problem the vet had failed to pick up until it was too late. It is devastating and although we knew we did everything we could, we're still pretty upset. You have my sympathies.

i am sure you're all feeling horrendous.be kind to yourselves.

Horrendous is the word

I’m so sorry to read this. Your beautiful boy will know how much he was loved, he looked so content in the last picture. Be kind to yourself, losing a much loved member of the family is devastating x

KatyMac - it all happened so very fast. i know it will be devastating. i remember still thinking i saw my cat out the corner of my eye for weeks - he was such a big part of our lives and he left a very big cat shaped hole in life. as i say - take it gently. you were there caring and giving him a lovely life right until the end and he clearly felt loved and adored you back. Love hurts.such a crapulous year.

I’m so sorry you’ve lost him.

We had our girl put down last year and I’ve never sobbed as hard or for so long.

It helped me to find photos of her on my phone and send them off to be printed. It broke my heart but it helps me remember her in her prime.

Take care

Our’s sleeps in the wash basin, when it’s hot. He also bounds up for a drink of running water from the tap, every time I go in the bathroom.

So sorry, I also lost mine at the end of July. I come on here mainly to read about other people who have recently lost theirs as it makes me feel less alone. Hang in there. It has gotten a little better for me slowly, day by day.

I found out today my mums cats, Mr and Mrs Bumble went into long term foster care today

I feel a bit bereft about that too - we could never have them as they are very fluffy and DH only just copes with Siamese/Oriental fur - but I still felt bad

Oh dear, I’m sure they’ll be loved by the foster mum.

I hadn’t rtft. I am sorry to read of your loss! 😨

Don't worry @DarkMintChocolate

It will get easier...

KatyMac, how old was your boy? I have three Siamese and they are all 17.

He was 10, but had been 'rescued' twicea - we got him at 3
My mums Siameae lived to 16 despite a horrid accident that left him 3 legged

Flynn away my 4th, Pinto had a car accident, his sister Mallow got a brain abscess/tumour and Romeo....I think Romeo was mid teens and just got really poorly (it's awful - I can't remember)

Big family row right now; as DH and DD say no more cats as they just die as soon as you love them

maybe give them some time? my vet who is lovely made me see that we are a great home for cats and we have given them love and care and they've given us so much joy. you can't legislate for everything that happens -that is life sadly.

we can't have another cat at the moment as my dd is allergic. she wasn't so allergic to my last cat. Trouble is she's 9 and she really misses having a cat but is still struggling with the allergies and so if we got another one she'd want it to be hers and then if it didn't work out it would be so heartbreaking. so, after 20 years of birmans i am catless.

I would say you all need to grieve. i think that is so important. they may feel different in time.

Aw that's sad - DH & DD are both horribly allergic to fluffy ones (Dh is worse) but both are fine with oriental/Siamese

I know time.....

I think once you've had orientals, the house feels so much emptier and quieter without at least one...
Our two youngest cats are short haired orientals and they seem to be everywhere, all the time. I don't think I could be without a cat for long.
Take some time out to grieve but hopefully your family will come round.

It was the same with our Bengal, people would ask if we had two because their just everywhere all at once.

This is the price we pay for loving them and it would be worse if we’d never had them.

They can’t cut themselves off from pain that easily.

Time helps but it won’t feel like it right now.

Yes, they are people with personalities aren't they?

The number of "i dont like cats" people that ended up with him in their arms saying well he isn't really a cat in a silly baby voice while stroking under his chin....