Hello. I have had some wonderful support on here following the death of my dear 18 year old cat Molly last Sunday. We are hoping to get her ashes back on Monday, have picked a lovely spot in the front garden to bury them and ordered a little memorial stone with her name on.
Today we took her leftover food to the cat rescue charity where we got her from 17 years ago. Lovely lady in there, immediately said 'Are you getting another one? Have you seen Lottie?' and showed us a picture of a beautiful 1yr old girl in the window. Likes older children - tick. Needs lots of space - tick. Needs a forever home - tick tick tick.
I explained, yes we miss having a cat, but we haven't even buried Molly yet, we've got two one week long holidays coming up (my mum and dad usually come up twice a day to feed the cat and would have done so this year as usual). 'Oh well have a think and come back when you're ready' said the lovely lady.
So now I cannot stop thinking about this cat! My boys were with me and started to get excited, I had to explain it might not be the right time, we can't replace one cat with another, we need to find the right cat etc.
BUT I do miss having a cat. My house feels a bit less like a home without one. Part of me wants to go and see her, but that would be worse if I fall in love wouldn't it? Wouldn't it?!!!! Talk sense to me please!
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Its too soon, isn't it? Talk me out of this....
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Thank you, squee indeed! 
Will update tomorrow.
DH has said 'she'll get fleas and moult her fur everywhere' but when I very reasonably said 'Shall we not go then, its got to be a whole family decision' his reply was 'I don't really mind'. That translates as 'I want her really, I just need to protest a bit first'
We lost our old boy on Saturday too. DH has work commitments in the time I have off this summer, so we won't be going away.
There is a huge cat-shaped hole here and I am already trawling rescue websites.
I just have to make DH think it's his idea
Please sorry for your loss
It almost took me by surprise how hard I found it when our old girl passed away. Everyone on this thread did a great job of persuading me that the right time was whenever we felt it to be right. I just miss having a puss under my feet!
We buried Molly's ashes on Tuesday so I feel she is at peace now.
Lynda yes I was almost waiting for it, she was slowing down but at the end just seemed to go downhill so quickly, and I didn't want her to suffer. I have a lot of love to give a new cat! 
I lost my precious cat three weeks ago. Totally out of the blue, he had cancer. I was heartbroken and didn't know if I wanted another cat, despite having had cats all my life (am in my 40s now).
I lasted a week. Went to see two rescue kittens, slightly older as I have a toddler. I fell in love pretty much instantly and they are currently both slobbing out on my bed.
Nobody will ever replace my precious boy, but two crazy, cuddly kittens sure make life more fun! And my DD adores them.
If she is meant for you, she will be yours
Oh and my DH was the same. 'Why do you want another cat, fur, dead things gutted on the carpet etc etc'
His face when he saw them (I went to go and see them first and said we'd have them, you don't go to see kittens in my experience, you go to get kittens! 
) was instant affection, despite him trying to hide it!
Toria another happy ending! All these cats just waiting for the right family! Fingers crossed its our turn tomorrow. Thanks so much for all your posts.
And sorry for your loss too Toria,** it must have been heartbreaking.
Thank you. You too, its so horrible losing them isn't it. He used to give such good cuddles, miss him loads.
I am firmly of the view that cats decide when to appear in our lives, and often for a good reason. I struggled after my lovely boy passed away not long ago and I gained valuable help and support on here. I desperately wanted to get another cat but I felt it might somehow be betraying his memory. I happened to come across a dear boy being reluctantly rehomed and he is bringing us so much joy and love. Instead of feeling guilty, I feel like our lovely boy would have got on well with our new cat and they would have been firm friends. What's meant to be will be and sorry for your loss
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