Feeling down about neighbour 'stealing' my cat

[MokunMokun]

I took my cat in as a stray about three years ago. He is a much loved family pet.

A few months ago we went away for a few days and arranged with a neighbour to feed him.

It turns out a different neighbour took him in and fed him. Now he won't come home and spends his time in that neighbour's house.

I know I can confront her and ask her to stop feeding him and letting him in but I suspect he will just pester her and cry at her door all the time.

I feel so sad that he won't come home. I'm going to pack up the kitty litter and food bowls as there is no point in having them out anymore. I know I can look into adopting another cat but I just feel so down about the whole thing.

I just don't understand her mentality. She knows he's our cat. She knows he won't come home anymore. I'm just so angry towards her.

I know this is a very self indulgent and whiny post but I guess I needed to just let it out so I can let it go.

Feel free to give me a good kick up the butt as I think I need it.

Pleased your cat is back OP!

A few years back my mum's neighbour had a tabby cat befriend them... they made enquiries and couldn't find the owner or the owner didn't mind too much about the cat wandering apparently... anyway he moved in and was happy with a SAHM and her young DD.

Some cats (my mum again) you see wandering around clearly lost, uncared for - there have been 2 so far and photos were put up of them but no responses. One cat was so sad, he had mites,vet said he'd been hit by a car and he was just wandering from garden to garden lost. I think in those cases people either get cats and get bored/can't afford to feed them or move away. But that's not your case at all. Glad you have him back!