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First Puppy Experience

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Hope202204 · 21/07/2026 18:06

Dear dog lovers!
I’m looking to hear real experiences and honest advice from people who’ve raised their first puppy while working full-time. I’m at a stage in my life where Im ready to get my first dog. I’m taking my time to do as much research as possible especially for real life situations.
About me - I work for a good company 4 days a week 9-5 in office with extra 15days a year given as WFH and 26days AL plus BHs. It's just me and my cat in good size end terrace house (I own my home) with secure garden at the back. My town is in a beautiful countryside so plenty of green spaces all around.
Unfortunately, I don't have my family close by for support so would love to hear what other options you used, especially crucial first 6 month. And is there anything you wish you'd known before getting your first puppy/dog?
Happy to answer any specific questions and thank you very much for sharing!

OP posts:
spriggit · 23/07/2026 00:43

She was trained as a family pet, not a gundog, and she's a Labrador xxx

Locationvshousevsgarden · 23/07/2026 00:51

Hope202204 · 21/07/2026 18:06

Dear dog lovers!
I’m looking to hear real experiences and honest advice from people who’ve raised their first puppy while working full-time. I’m at a stage in my life where Im ready to get my first dog. I’m taking my time to do as much research as possible especially for real life situations.
About me - I work for a good company 4 days a week 9-5 in office with extra 15days a year given as WFH and 26days AL plus BHs. It's just me and my cat in good size end terrace house (I own my home) with secure garden at the back. My town is in a beautiful countryside so plenty of green spaces all around.
Unfortunately, I don't have my family close by for support so would love to hear what other options you used, especially crucial first 6 month. And is there anything you wish you'd known before getting your first puppy/dog?
Happy to answer any specific questions and thank you very much for sharing!

Lovely that you ste thinking about it - but honestly your life isn't in the right place. I wfh full time and have 2 dogs. Even the first dog wfh full time I needed a ditter 2 days a week otherwise couldn't make it work. It's full on. I haven't read the full posts after but if you can throw money at it meaning have pup in daycare for half days while you work minimum... then you might be able to do it but it's like the saying why have a dog or kids if you won't be able to look after it. Wfh is the best. If you take 2 or 3 weeks off work initially to settle pup and you then have a loving small dog sitter for St least half days it might work. But it's hard and you will feel guilty. People that say we used to do it in olden days should not have had dogs ... my digs go to daycare when I ho to office snd it vost £80 for the day . It's more expensive having dogs than I ever imagined but I am able to make it work and love them to bits. Hope the info helps

Locationvshousevsgarden · 23/07/2026 00:51

Lovely that you ste thinking about it - but honestly your life isn't in the right place. I wfh full time and have 2 dogs. Even the first dog wfh full time I needed a ditter 2 days a week otherwise couldn't make it work. It's full on. I haven't read the full posts after but if you can throw money at it meaning have pup in daycare for half days while you work minimum... then you might be able to do it but it's like the saying why have a dog or kids if you won't be able to look after it. Wfh is the best. If you take 2 or 3 weeks off work initially to settle pup and you then have a loving small dog sitter for St least half days it might work. But it's hard and you will feel guilty. People that say we used to do it in olden days should not have had dogs ... my digs go to daycare when I ho to office snd it vost £80 for the day . It's more expensive having dogs than I ever imagined but I am able to make it work and love them to bits. Hope the info helps.

BitingtheSkirting · 23/07/2026 05:51

Dedicated support will simply continue the same balance during my working hours

Right, so who or what is this dedicated support? Do you already have someone lined up who will be there frequently throughout the day?

TheHungryHungryLandsharks · 23/07/2026 06:06

spriggit · 23/07/2026 00:43

She was trained as a family pet, not a gundog, and she's a Labrador xxx

Doesn’t matter. Any person who buys a dog and leaves it alone for that long is cruel and any breeder who seeks to someone in those circumstances is scum.

Dogs deserve better than someone who is only there and awake 5 hours a day during the week. OP should get a Goldfish or perhaps a stuffed toy, not a dog.

BiteSizedLife · 23/07/2026 07:45

I live alone, work full time and have a dog I got as a puppy. I don't have family nearby I could ask (I did up until recently though)

When I got her, the deal was my family who live opposite would be default carers on my office days (they very much also wanted me to get a dog and were very supportive) back then, in office requirements (2days a week) were very relaxed. I didnt go in for about three months. I think then I went in a only few times while pup was with family for the day. When she was six months she was accepted into day care who pick up and drop off with a key.

Two days has been mandated and the family thing is not an option anymore. LUCKILY she is great at day care and with a local walker/sitter but that was a total gamble and I have been lucky. What if she wasnt sociable/friendly to be accepted by these places?! Dogs have different personalities.

We have a set up now that works (and costs £££££) but as a single person it does feel precarious. No more precarious that a couple getting a dog i suppose (relationships break up every day after all) but it is a constant worry in the back of my mind "I need to make this work by myself for the next 15 years because I cannot bear to lose her and refuse to lose her"

It works because of my massive WFH - 2 days a week is still not a lot in office. If anything happened to this job I would look for another with remote/heavyWFH. If nothing was available I'd take what I could with whatever in-office requirements and then just carry on looking - never stopping making wfh the priority for my dog. Or another alternative- dog friendly office.

It's not impossible, but your current in office requirements of 4dpw are not right at the moment. If you want a dog you need a different job. That is the level of commitment we are talking with a dog... you'd move jobs for them.

Eyesopenwideawake · 23/07/2026 08:00

I will establish a routine for sleeping, toilet training, rest, and gradually becoming comfortable spending time alone.

This is a living creature, with a mind of it's own, not a work project. Having raised 10 puppies over the years I can only concur with every other post that says this is not workable.

I know you don't want to hear it (again) but get an older rescue dog. Good for you and great for the dog.

SpanielsGalore · 23/07/2026 08:47

spriggit · 23/07/2026 00:43

She was trained as a family pet, not a gundog, and she's a Labrador xxx

She's still a gundog, whether she is trained to work or not.

VanGoSunflowers · 23/07/2026 08:58

Another note about Doggy Daycare, I enquired about one once. I think I was in the throes of adolescent behaviour and had a thought one day that I could use a break! Anyway, the one I enquired about wouldn’t accept him as he is still intact. Do they have the same policy for females and if so, are people really neutering their dogs too young so they can make use of doggy daycare?

BitingtheSkirting · 23/07/2026 08:58

One more thought, OP, is your resident cat. An undersupervised and bored puppy could make your cat's life unpleasant or be a danger to it. Do you have a solid plan to avoid that?

BiteSizedLife · 23/07/2026 09:46

VanGoSunflowers · 23/07/2026 08:58

Another note about Doggy Daycare, I enquired about one once. I think I was in the throes of adolescent behaviour and had a thought one day that I could use a break! Anyway, the one I enquired about wouldn’t accept him as he is still intact. Do they have the same policy for females and if so, are people really neutering their dogs too young so they can make use of doggy daycare?

In the case of my one they accept intact females but not intact males!

ETA (They usually advise keeping a bitch in heat at home furing those times, because they just get hassled all day by the others). If that isnt possible they might keep that bitch in the main office away from her play-pack with the owner of the facility.

People i know locally had to make other arrangements until their boy dog was old enough to be neutered.

JulietteHasAGun · 23/07/2026 09:51

I got a puppy end of December and didn’t go back to work in the office for two months to help settle him in. Since March I’ve had occasional days in the office with a dog walker coming in. But probably less than 20 in the last 4 months or so. I couldn’t envisage leaving him 4 days a week. I think he’d be bored and destructive. I use a large puppy pen when he’s left so I know he’s safe.

Grandmistress991 · 23/07/2026 10:05

I have had dogs before. We had a dog as a child, ( im older so it ran free) .. i then lived with my sibling for a few years . He had a big dog so we shared looking after it.
I then rescued another dog who was going to be put down because it was destructive. The family couldn't cope with the young dog of 9 months) but I couldn't hear of it being put down so on impulse i said I would take it. My brother was thankfully understanding so the 2 of us looked after both dogs. When i eventually moved out to live with my boyfriend we both had full time jobs but I in particular had a very long commute. It only worked out as we had a family member delighted to walk him for me 2 or 3 times per day. When we split and I moved out and closer to my job it was very challenging because I was living somewhere I didn't really know anyone who could walk my dog and i was not financially in a place to get a dog walker which weren't really a thing at the time. I worked full time in a job that wasnt very forgiving. So I had to get up at 6 am walk the dog , race home at lunchtime , and race home after work. Traffic jams were the worst as I was so anxious for the dog. The poor dog wasnt used to this and on occasion had ripped up newspapers and his bedding . By this stage he was elderly and eventually had to be put down as he had cancer. The guilt was terrible. This was about 25 years ago.

I love dogs, but I only recently got another dog as a retiree. I joke that I felt like a single parent...sometimes not getting washed or dressed until midday. 😆

He is a terrier and I invested alot of time toileting and training him. That effort meant I didnt have a destructive dog so bar a few bits of clothing, a table leg, remote control and a pair of trainers they were the only things that suffered from his shark teeth. When he was 18 months old i used doggy day care twice a week thinking I was doing the right thing, i really wasn't. He loved it but as someone else has said it meant he thought meeting every dog was mandatory which caused issues on walks.

As a pup in the winter months I got up several times in the night to toilet him. His bladder had the capacity of a teaspoon initially. I crated him at night and through the day, periodically letting him out for play exercise training and stimulation. ( It isnt just about walking the dog) . Crating was something I wasnt used to and initially thought wasnt 'nice' but reading around and researching it realised it was a good thing for my dog to rest between periods of exercise etc.

I used a dog trainer and took him to some training as a pup but while it was beneficial I didnt pursue it as my pup was so easily distracted by, and distracting to the other dogs.

I watched alot of online dog trainers , learnt ways of bonding with my dog and played with him alot which also helped with obedience.

I am saying all this because it demonstrates that I had a fair amount of previous experience with dogs, and the effort involved in having a dig. Life throws curveballs and as much as I would have loved to have a dog sooner over the last 25 years but i didnt because they are a huge time commitment especially when you are on your own, It really isnt fair to leave a dog for long hours on their own they're social beings and dependent on breed will have their own foibles . As a terrier mine needs to have his high prey drive needs met with games suited for sniffing out things, using a flirt pole and walking on and off lead as appropriate. He has good recall but by no means is he perfect. He still steals things with great glee, and digs up my garden when bored, barks a fair bit rolls in poo and dead animals. My whole world rotates around my dog he is never left for more than 3 to 4 hours and is walked before and after this. On inclement stormy days he is played with and given hunting games ..eg i hide bits of biscuits in the furniture and he has to find them. Despite how good he is ive had episodes of vomiting and the odd random poo, from him ...not me. 😀

I fell and chipped a bone some months ago, meaning I couldn't walk for about 4 weeks . Had to wear a boot, which thankfully healed quickly. I am very lucky though and I had family who could take him for some of it and the rest I got a dog walker in daily to walk him.

There is a saying when we make plans god laughs. So as much as you may think your dog will fit neatly into those plans and timelines for now then be prepared to have them upended.

My honest advice is dont do it, it wouldnt be fair to leave the pup or young dog for long periods every day. You wouldnt invite someone to your house and leave them there all day until you got back from work.

Grandmistress991 · 23/07/2026 10:16

BiteSizedLife · 23/07/2026 09:46

In the case of my one they accept intact females but not intact males!

ETA (They usually advise keeping a bitch in heat at home furing those times, because they just get hassled all day by the others). If that isnt possible they might keep that bitch in the main office away from her play-pack with the owner of the facility.

People i know locally had to make other arrangements until their boy dog was old enough to be neutered.

Edited

My local day care insisted my dog be neutered. Thankfully by the time they insisted on this he was 2 years old which is when I was going to do it anyway. On the research I looked at it advised to not neuter male dogs before 2 years of age. I stopped going to dog day care soon after though for different reasons, but one was that another dog was tormenting my dog.

shoesandshipsandsealingwax · 23/07/2026 12:03

VanGoSunflowers · 23/07/2026 08:58

Another note about Doggy Daycare, I enquired about one once. I think I was in the throes of adolescent behaviour and had a thought one day that I could use a break! Anyway, the one I enquired about wouldn’t accept him as he is still intact. Do they have the same policy for females and if so, are people really neutering their dogs too young so they can make use of doggy daycare?

Females are different as they can just be kept home while in season. They also don’t have the same tendency to mark which is a massive problem in daycares.

In terms of neutering too young, many daycares will accept entire males if they’ve been attending regularly from puppyhood as long as they get neutered by a certain age.

VanGoSunflowers · 23/07/2026 12:22

@shoesandshipsandsealingwax ah thank you, I was possibly being a bit dim 😂

JulietteHasAGun · 23/07/2026 14:02

Well many vets are now saying not to neuter male dogs unless you have a reason to do so. I’m certainly not planning on neutering my boy.

shoesandshipsandsealingwax · 23/07/2026 14:08

JulietteHasAGun · 23/07/2026 14:02

Well many vets are now saying not to neuter male dogs unless you have a reason to do so. I’m certainly not planning on neutering my boy.

Which is absolutely fair enough, but then you do need to accept that that choice comes with limitations in terms of dog care.

VanGoSunflowers · 23/07/2026 14:35

I’m not planning on neutering mine either. He’s 15 months old now and his temperament is so spot on that I don’t want to risk losing that. He also doesn’t show any problem behaviours that I believe neutering would solve (we have just had the normal adolescent issue with impulse control)

I understand that will limit my choices for care but I am ok with that.

PoochMama · 23/07/2026 15:15

I'm afraid that I'm another one that's going to say it's not a good idea. Puppies demand a lot from you during puppyhood - it is an infant dog, after all. And like human babies, they need to learn things from someone who can show them - and be consistent and patient. You need to be physically there for those early weeks, months and onwards. You might be in a position to throw money at it but... it's unlikely to be in the dog's best interests. Puppies need consistency and proper training/socialisation. Plus, doggy daycare isn't always possible, due to being in season (if female) or due to being incompatible.

Newpeep · 23/07/2026 17:39

My dog was 2 before she could be left reliably for more than an hour. We’ve now built up to four very slowly and carefully. That took about a year. Shes an independent breed. We’ve had a dog before. I’m a trainer. I knew what I was doing.

we work full time but DH WFH and I work a few minutes walk away. We had to pull in multiple favours and help and lots and lots of good will from employers to raise her properly as even with one WFH is still such hard work. Worth it for us but a real slog.

Full time work out of the house is not compatible with dog ownership let alone a puppy.

Newpeep · 23/07/2026 18:48

One of my neighbours got a puppy the same time we did. Dreamt of long walks in the countryside, pub lunches etc etc. She worked out of the house 6 days a week from 8-5. Short pop in for lunch. Pup howled his little heart out all day every day from the crate he was confined to. Eventually he stopped. At 18 months old she had a dog that couldn’t leave the house as he was so fearful of the world. His brain had been damaged by cortisol during development as he was so stressed. Lots of studies. Look them up. She doesn’t have him now. I’m not sure what happened to him.

Sleeping and toilet training are child’s play compared to confidence building and socialising and more nuanced behaviour management to avoid an absolute disaster.

JulietteHasAGun · 23/07/2026 19:38

shoesandshipsandsealingwax · 23/07/2026 14:08

Which is absolutely fair enough, but then you do need to accept that that choice comes with limitations in terms of dog care.

Which is fine. I wouldn’t want to use doggy daycare.

Locationvshousevsgarden · 25/07/2026 11:44

Newpeep · 23/07/2026 18:48

One of my neighbours got a puppy the same time we did. Dreamt of long walks in the countryside, pub lunches etc etc. She worked out of the house 6 days a week from 8-5. Short pop in for lunch. Pup howled his little heart out all day every day from the crate he was confined to. Eventually he stopped. At 18 months old she had a dog that couldn’t leave the house as he was so fearful of the world. His brain had been damaged by cortisol during development as he was so stressed. Lots of studies. Look them up. She doesn’t have him now. I’m not sure what happened to him.

Sleeping and toilet training are child’s play compared to confidence building and socialising and more nuanced behaviour management to avoid an absolute disaster.

Jesus like pup i hate people that do this ! Absolutely idiocy ! Hope the poor dog found a more loving home

ejsmith99 · Today 00:17

Hope202204 · 21/07/2026 20:34

Thank you all! Just to be very clear I never mentioned leaving anyone alone at home for long periods. I specifically said as I don’t have family for support im researching many other professional options that available for both puppies and dogs in general and asked who had experience with them.
Millions of individuals are successfully balancing dog ownership and full time jobs including starting with a puppies, it is about careful strategic planning, using resources and support systems specifically designed for it. I’m simply researching what would work best in my situation, hence me asking for similar experiences.

"Millions of individuals" AREN'T successfully raising puppies whilst they are at work. I know because I get them in tears on the phone asking me how to solve separation anxiety because they have environmental health on their backs. Puppies you can healthily build up, over several months, to leaving them for two hours. They might sleep a lot but it is polyphasic and they have tiny bladders. They need you around and to be safely discovering the world, not squeezing it in in a couple of hours between work and bed. Some things cannot be solved by strategic planning and you have to put the needs of the animal first. The other referrals I get most are from people who thought daycare was the solution, but the puppy didn't agree.

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