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Struggling with idea of putting my dog down who snaps.

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Buxtonwater124 · 16/05/2026 09:05

I have a chihuahua/Jack Russell type dog that is known to snap. He's 10 and over the years, he's bitten my nieces and nephews face, my brother's face, other dogs in house. We did go to put him down after this but as he was a family dog, my dad disagreed and so did others saying "just keep him away from kids" which we did. It all came to a head last summer when my older nephew rang me (as I had moved out of my dads, but still owned him) saying he's snapping and he needs to go. So I booked him in to be put down, as hard as it was. My partner then stepped in and said no, we will take him in, we have no kids and no one in the house respects the dogs boundaries or listens to train him, which is true. People don't listen with him, and stroke him for example on his stomach which he hates. Over the years we have paid probably thousands on training, on muzzles etc. But because he wasn't in my house at the time, no one in the house implemented the training.

So we took him. Since then, we have kept a strict routine with him and the dog has settled in so well. I'm able to pick him up, walk him well etc. cuddle him and when we have visitors we keep him away. However in last few weeks, I've seen him snap at my friend, who bent down to stroke him in the area we kept him away, he's snapped at our other dog (who he grew up with) and last night I seen him bite my cat on his face.

My cat, has been having abcesseses on his face since we got the dog, and it hit me. Maybe the dog has been biting the cat. I'm heartbroken. I'm in tears writing this. I love the dog so much and he's such a good dog for me. But I know I need to put him down. It isn't safe. But my partner disagrees and says just keep him separate. Here's the hard part, I'm due to have a baby soon and my family keep saying you can't risk the dog around the baby but I just keep saying I'll keep them apart. But after seeing him bite the cat yesterday, I'm devastated it was a lightbulb moment he isn't safe. But its a hard decision to bare on my own and would like my partner to agree. As he's our dog now. He's a sweet dog and I'm looking at him now and feel heartbroken taking a healthy dog to be PTS. My partner is concerned for my mental health losing a dog I've had for years and then having a baby he is worried ill struggle a lot as he knows how precious my dogs are to me. He agrees if he was an XL Bully I would've put him down earlier but also believes that keeping him separatenwith visitors baby is best option as the dog is fine with me and him.

Any support appreciated - please be kind. Seeing it all in writing it is so obvious what I need to do. But im struggling with the mental load of it

  • [Note from MNHQ: Please see the OP's update at 16.06 on 20/5 before responding]
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TheGardenPond · 19/05/2026 20:39

This dog should have already been PTS a long time ago. I really hope you go through with the plans tomorrow, it is dragging out now and the stress is making you very upset. Get through tomorrow and take some space from judgemental unhelpful family members if needed. I also think you should take up your sister and/ or partner’s offers to take the dog to the vet. You’re pregnant and very upset already, you don’t need the stress. I hope you find lots more peace from tomorrow.

VividDeer · 19/05/2026 21:03

TheGardenPond · 19/05/2026 20:39

This dog should have already been PTS a long time ago. I really hope you go through with the plans tomorrow, it is dragging out now and the stress is making you very upset. Get through tomorrow and take some space from judgemental unhelpful family members if needed. I also think you should take up your sister and/ or partner’s offers to take the dog to the vet. You’re pregnant and very upset already, you don’t need the stress. I hope you find lots more peace from tomorrow.

Well said!

Balloonhearts · 19/05/2026 21:36

Stop engaging with your family. Tell them to keep their damn opinions to themselves and if they won't, block them for a few weeks.

They had the chance to take him and didn't. It's the typical 'I would have...' virtue signalling. You get it a lot on Facebook and the like. Oh, I wish they would have talked to me, I would have helped, bullshit. No they bloody wouldn't and didn't.

Blue Cross are right. Your dog is a liability. Just like mine was. I loved him. If love could have changed anything, he would have lived forever but sometimes they're just wired wrong. He was perfectly trained at all times until he was triggered. Then nothing could divert him and it was a case of me having to physically overpower him. I developed very impressive reflexes but it only takes once to lose control.

We had a near miss with a child holding a little dog on a lead and that was the moment I knew I couldn't keep him. He nearly pulled me over, I dropped everything to keep hold of him, my other dog got between them and was trying to protect the child. He was put down the following week. I cried for days but it was the right thing.

Needspaceforlego · 20/05/2026 07:17

Hope you are ok today. Thinking about you x

IrrationallyAngry · 20/05/2026 08:31

@Buxtonwater124
Thinking about you today. Please don't forget you are doing the right thing. 💐

OrlandointheWilderness · 20/05/2026 08:52

Hope you are okay. Xxx

PointyNoseDog · 20/05/2026 09:38

Buxtonwater124 · 19/05/2026 11:27

Sobbing again this morning. My sister has said I over reacted with my uncles response and that he didn't say it how he made out and that I've now caused a massive family fall out over it. I wish I never told anyone now.
I rang blue cross charity helpline and they said no this dog is an accident waiting to happen and I've made the right choice. But I just feel so shit about it and cannot stop crying and now with this big fallout with my uncle my sister said I was out of order and my partner said kindly he didn't say it how I said it. But I don't get why you would say he could've had nice walks in country instead of being killed. But they said he was just saying his thoughts as he was devastated too. It's all escalated now anyway.
I have chest and stomach pain from all of this and I'm so stressed about the stress on the baby. I feel so guilty and horrible all round. I'm so ill from it all as I've been crying none stop.

I’m thinking of you today. It’s not easy even when it’s the right choice.

Wizzywoo18 · 20/05/2026 15:42

Sending you strength on this incredibly difficult day OP.
Be kind to yourself, cry as much as you need to and put some space between you and your contrary relatives.

Buxtonwater124 · 20/05/2026 16:06

My dog crossed the rainbow bridge today. Thank you for all your kind words and support x ❤️

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VickyEadie · 20/05/2026 16:20

Buxtonwater124 · 20/05/2026 16:06

My dog crossed the rainbow bridge today. Thank you for all your kind words and support x ❤️

I've been right where you are now with a bite-risk dog. You did exactly the right thing and don't allow anyone to persuade you otherwise. xxx

Needspaceforlego · 20/05/2026 16:45

Buxtonwater124 · 20/05/2026 16:06

My dog crossed the rainbow bridge today. Thank you for all your kind words and support x ❤️

Sending big hugs 🫂
You did the right thing have no doubt in your mind.
I hope the Vet was supportive too.

QuestionableMouse · 20/05/2026 16:50

Buxtonwater124 · 20/05/2026 16:06

My dog crossed the rainbow bridge today. Thank you for all your kind words and support x ❤️

I'm so sorry. I know it's so hard but you absolutely did the right thing. 🫂🫂🫂

Marvellousmeadows · 20/05/2026 16:57

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Needspaceforlego · 20/05/2026 17:03

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Read the thread please.
A dog charity wouldn't take it either because it's a liability.
Its bitten adults as well as pets and children.
There is no suitable home for such a unpredictable dog, and no guarantee it wouldn't go for someone out and about.

Op 100% made the right decision for the dog, rather than passing it on, which isn't fair to the dog, for someone else to deal with.

Luckypoppy · 20/05/2026 17:13

Sending you love and support. You did the right thing for your fur baby.

EdgeofaRevolution · 20/05/2026 17:40

You absolutely 100% did the right thing.

Ignore all of the twattish responses you’ve had on here and also from some awful members of your family.

yes it’s sad, of course it is. But you gave the dog a chance and it was a liability. Please try not to torture yourself over this and try and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

FoxHedgehogBadger · 20/05/2026 17:41

Sending love and hugs 🩵 You made the right choice. Take your time grieving, be kind to yourself.

MrSchubertWhiskers · 20/05/2026 17:48

I'm so sorry @Buxtonwater124
It's not unusual to see posts here where people wrestle with the idea of PTS their dog for biting but this is the first time I've ever thought it was the only reasonable option. You've done the right thing.

I'm really really sorry FlowersFlowers

Kingdomofsleep · 20/05/2026 17:52

I'm sorry this had to happen op... you did the right thing for your baby.

PointyNoseDog · 20/05/2026 18:05

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@Marvellousmeadows RTFT, he’s gone.

DisappearingGirl · 20/05/2026 20:45

Ah OP I also think you did the right thing.

It's so sad because you loved him and he loved you. But it wouldn't have been fair to try to re-home a 10 year old dog who has already bitten several people. This option was kinder for your dog, and the only safe option for the humans in his life and any little children he may have come into contact with in the future.

Well done for doing the difficult but right thing.

Sunisgettinganewhaton · 20/05/2026 21:37

Take some pride in being the only person in your family to have a sense of decency
.. Imagine they had found a Great New Home and he had badly bitten a dc...
Your ddog is free from whatever anxieties he had...
Don't be too hard on yourself op.

FairyBatman · 22/05/2026 12:59

@Buxtonwater124 so sorry, but you did the right thing. There was no other reasonable choice and he would not have suffered. Take some space away from your family and some time to grieve, and then I hope you can enjoy the end of your pregnancy without this hanging over you.

nocoolnamesleft · 22/05/2026 17:06

You did the right thing. I know you feel pretty shit right now, but honestly it was the best choice you could make in a very difficult situation.

TheGardenPond · 25/05/2026 10:48

Well done OP, you have done the brave and kindest thing. Big hug

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