Worried a puppy will be too much work for friend.

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I'm not sure of breed but I'm attaching a photo.
Poor little thing looks terrified.
Friend is sort of person who puts 120% of effort into everything she does .
Is late 60s with several health issues.
Do you really have to get up every hour during the night to let pup out to wee?
I just can't imagine how people cope with this and feel worried about how she'll cope with the lack of sleep.
There is no doubt in my mind that the pup will have the best of owners and a good home.
I guess it's the impact of them nights I'm worrying about and how long that period lasts .

In the nicest possible way, what does her decision have to do with yoú? Do you always worry about other people's life decisions? I hope you're not projecting your anxiety onto your friend and ruining her excitement about getting a new puppy.

No photo has shown up, anyway puppies are hard work but I am sure they know that i had a few weeks of getting up during the night with mine and then he slept through, your friend will be fine although I had forgotten how hard work puppies were.

It’s none of your business, are you always this anxious about things other people are doing? The puppy is supper cute 😍

This. Just let her get on with it, surely?

Puppies are hard work, but no, you’re not up every hour and the full on bit generally only lasts a few weeks

Aww cute looks like a cocker spaniel.

If she puts “120% into everything she does” then I’m not seeing the problem. That would mean she is the type that would do everything right. People with underlying illnesses are not written off to a life of nothingness, they are entitled to live how they choose. The dog doesn’t look scared, it just looks like a pup.

What do you think your friend will get wrong? Friends should be supportive, not throwing buckets of cold water onto your happiness.

No, you don't need to get up every hour.

But hopefully your friend has much more knowledge about what she does need to do than you do.

be prepared for her to have the puppy blues though, so many people di, just be there to listen & assure her it doesn't last. In a little while she'll be back to loving having got him!!

EDIT: on enlarging the photo & taking into account the way she's holding it, it does look like a cocker spaniel. Double envious now!! What has she called him?

Looks like a Cocker Spaniel.
Broken nights will pass little or no sleep for the first few days as pup will be distressed away from Mum and the litter.
A more long term worry would be the amount of exercise it will need once older and allowed proper walks and exercise.
Cockers are lovely friendly affectionate dogs and excellent company but active and need lots of play and exercise. Whilst tiny pup will sleep a lot and after vaccinations exercise is limited due to age.
Hopefully she has done her research and knows what is required. You recognise it will have a good home. Try to share the excitement. If you are close you will fall in love too.

Has your friend had a puppy before?

If she's someone that's always had dogs she'll probably be okay, but if this is a very first puppy it may end in tears.

Cute puppy.

Puppies are hard work and she will find it tough at times and probably will regret it at times. But they can also be very rewarding.

Do you think she will physically not be able to look after it?

Ok, thanks for replies.
Yes , well spotted I'm a terrible worrier!!
I assure you I'm convinced a dog will be just what my friend needs and that it will bring great joy.
I've said nothing but what a good idea it is ,friend lives some way away and I really don't think I've been throwing buckets of cold water around . We're not in contact that much!
I've never had a dog ( pretty sure they have) and I was shocked by the frequency of toilet breaks that seemed ( from my googling) necessary.

Then I think you are just projecting how you feel about dogs onto her!

Looks like a working cocker spaniel. I don't think it looks terrified in the photo. They are lovely dogs, but they can be very high energy.

I would be a little concerned, depending on what your friend's health issues are. Is she able to give the puppy the physical and mental stimulation it needs?
But I have never heard of anyone getting up every hour throughout the night to take the puppy out for wees. My puppy only woke up once on the first night home and has slept through the night ever since.

I think physically they will be able to look after a pup and a dog,I was just reading up on pups and thinking 'gosh that amount of sleep disruption would destroy me ' and wondering how people managed.

I think after the first night I was up.just once every night i slept near my pup so could hear him and let him do the toilet and back to bed.

@LeavesTrees I think you're right.

TBH I'm a bit surprised that my post ,asking for information ( and perhaps stupidly explaining why) ,has resulted in some rather harsh remarks..
Had to check whether I'd accidently posted on AIBU 🙂

But do you not think that if your friend sees this and recognises her pup, she might think you making a thread about her ability to cope is a bit harsh?

Yes this, op you were a bit harsh and dismissive about your friends ability to cope.

Puppies are hard work - similar to having a toddler. But they shouldn’t need to get up every hour even with an 8 week old puppy, every 3 hours is fine. By about 12 wees they can probably reduce to once a night then not at all by about 16 weeks.
Puppy looks like some kind of Labrador cross or spaniel so should be on the easy side to train.

ps does not look scared!

But that's you not them.

You don't seem to have much contact, you have a vague idea that they've had a dog before but clearly aren't even sure what their life situation is.

I'm in my early sixties and I got a giant breed puppy last year. I coped fine with the sleep disturbance, probably better than a younger person would have. Because I've done it all before.

I would have been furious if some vague acquaintance had put a picture of my puppy here saying they were worried how I'd cope😡

How strange - all my dogs have slept through the night! They sleep the same hours I do, last wee before bed and when I wake in the morning.
My youngest pup actually stays in bed when I get up!

We have a pup. He’s just over 4 months. We’ve never once got up in the night to let him out into the garden. I’m sure that’s potentially confusing for them. He had a couple of accidents in the first week or 2 (he was 9 weeks when we got him), but that was it.

It sounds like you’re a bit interfering, I hope your friend doesn’t find you a pita.