Neighbour HATES my dog!

[Canecorsomummy]

Hi everyone!

I’ve lived in my house for over 9 years now, have owned a poodle cross for 8 of those years. April last year I got a Cane Corso puppy, spoke to this certain neighbour informing her, gave her my number and told her if there was any problems with barking etc, especially if I’m not home, then go please let me know so I can resolve it but she has done nothing but cause me problems ever since.

Last year I was taking rubbish to the bins and the CC followed me out and was being fussed over by my neighbour on the other side of my house. 24 hours later the other neighbour put a computer typed letter through my letterbox stating the car park is not a place to walk a dog, it is illegal for her not to be on a lead and if she sees it happening again she is going to report me for having a out of control dog and her being a dangerous breed!! I sent her a text message explaining the law very basically for her and explaining under no circumstances will she be putting notes through my letterbox over something which could be dealt with by an adult conversation.

Well, since April this year she has made numerous reports to RSPCA claiming I’m neglecting her, abusing her and now a report to Social Services claiming I’m not only neglecting my CC, but she is a dangerous breed and I have a young child in my home!

I have absolutely had enough now!! My back door is normally open 24 hours as I have an enclosed garden but I’m petrified to allow the dog to be able to go in and out at her free will because of this neighbour, petrified I’m going to be approached by rspca/police when I’m out walking her ….

I just don’t know what to do now.

The thing is, while your dog may well be impeccably behaved and good natured, other people don't know that and they can't be expected to just happily trust your judgement either.

You've chosen a large breed of dog that's been banned in multiple countries for being considered dangerous - it's totally understandable that people are scared of her.

Be honest with yourself - if your dog decided she was going to attack someone, could you hold her back?

It just blows my mind how dog owners believe that they have total control of their animals. They do not - any more than anyone has total control over the behaviour of another human being (who has socialization as an additional asset). People have off days, feel unwell and can be unpredictable, just as dogs can. Where that dog is large and potentially dangerous that matters - a lot. And it would matter to me if I was your neighbour.

If you keep a potentially dangerous animal in your home and garden, and especially if you walk outside with it not on a lead, you must expect your neighbour to be concerned.

You are not looking at this from her point of view as you are so sure you know best. I am sure that the "adult conversation" that you crave would consist of you putting her right on the subject of your dog, rather than listening to her concerns.

@Galoop I'm cringing for you. Well done for, by chance, not dating or being around abusive men. Most people have the good sense not to say such things.

@Galoop really?

I can’t believe you’ve mentioned the fox, chicken, grain puzzle as I was going to post exactly this 🤣

Not victim blaming at all. It's a dumb comparison now saying that because some men might harm you then a dangerous breed of dog is fine. Some innocent person bring attacked by a dog is not ok, have you not seen these children who have died. It's not something to joke about

I was with you regarding the poodle then saw the addition of a Cane Corsa.

I love dogs. I have one of my own (a friendly and mildly crazy spaniel) but I'm on your neighbour's side here.

Also what about your poor poodle? A cane corsa could easily kill it if it turned on it for any reason, never mind your children

As for having it off lead in a car park that's just irresponsible for any dog owner whatever hte breed

@PuddlesPityParty

You ask …..Why is it only ok for OP’s neighbour to be scared ?

I clearly said that both are scared. OP can be scared yes, of course she can, but I just want to understand why the OP is scared of letting her dog into her secure garden. It’s not unreasonable to ask that question when she has said she is petrified.

The neighbour is scared of the OP’s dog and has done something about it by reporting. We know that.
The OP has told us that she isn’t scared of the neighbour hurting her dogs or letting them out or stealing them. (You were scared yes…but OP isn’t and this is about the OP and trying to understand her fear, not about what happened to you, although I’m sure OP is glad to hear of your experience)

OP has also told us how well she has trained the dog. How obedient it is. How secure it is in her garden. And how she safeguards her child and the other dog and the public when she is walking the dog.
I have suggested that a welfare check is intrusive yes, -maybe not pleasant but if the dog isn’t a banned breed, and if, as she assures us, all is well with the welfare of the child and the dogs, and with the secure garden, then it begs the question ….what exactly is there to be petrified of in letting the dog into her garden ?
Surely the OP can be reassured that it’s ok to do that.

Fair call

In that case how are strangers supposed to know how this dog behaves just by looking? I'd say that the funny this is that it goes both ways.

Haven’t read the whole thread, but, you seem like you take care of the dog, and I’m sure the dog is very happy.

CC are huge, powerful, muscular dogs, I would never have a dog the a child could not push off in an attack. It’s a livestock guard dog, also used for hunting large game.

If your dog turned, which can happen for various reasons, illness, brain tumour, being injured, the child accidentally hurting the dog, by the time you got to the dog it could inflict huge amounts of damage on your child/neighbour.

I think your wrong to have such a powerful dog around children, you should rehome the dog to an adult only rural home. It’s makes more sense for the dog, and for you.

Your neighbour, whilst overzealous is likely terrified of the dog, and it’s not difficult to see why. Im sure your dog is lovely, but it’s just a dog, you would never forgive yourself if it injured your child.

I’m not talking about the comparison the other person made, I’m talking about your disgusting comment that very clearly infers that those who end up in abusive relationships are some how at fault, because those who haven’t ended up in that situation have ‘good sense’. Your comments are really abhorrent. You think you haven’t ended up in an abusive relationship because you’re special? You’re lucky. That’s all. Not more superior or intelligent.

How dare you.

@Repetative I was kind of with you on the contradictory statements until this one

My neighbour was talking to the dog in our cul de sac' so presumably you live in a small house with a small garden?

Why does a cul de sac equal a small house and garden? My parents live on a cul de sac, I live on a "drive" which backs onto a nature reserve. Their house is three times the size of mine. Their garden is a similar size, just laid out differently, and both have more than enough space for a large dog (I have a collie and she loves both. Seeing her in it, I know a bigger dog would also be fine).

Gorgeous 😍 my Dobermans well behaved, my spaniel on the other hand.. 🤣

being harassed by the neighbour is enough to feel scared - why can’t you understand that? You seem intent on it all being the OPs and her dogs fault, however, so I doubt you’re even bothered.

Wow just seen op has been arguing her case all night long!! My opinion doesn’t change
But have you get any sleep op you must be exhausted!
I’m not sure you will have gotten the responses you had hoped for here, but maybe it’s time to take a break and then give it some more consideration after a rest ,as your defensiveness doesn’t seem to be getting you anywhere.

Ok I would be nervous seeing you and your dog. CCs look frightening. They just do because of their size.

But as a dog owner myself I know it's about the owners. And you couldn't sound a more reasonable and considerate owner. In fact you also spend your day walking dogs.

The problem is this woman isn't a dog owner and her guard is up. She's harassing you.

Log these all these visits.

At the very least you wil be alerting all the local " authorities" to how responsible you are in this situation. They will become familiar with fact that you are safe and reasonable owner in what could be ( and I'm sure you acknowledge this ) an irresponsible situation.

Ultimately you have to communicate with this woman or report HER to the police for harassing you.

OP did clarify that she and the neighbour live in terraced houses and the neighbour can see the (unsupervised) dog in OP’s back garden from her upstairs window.

It was the word "presumably" in that post. In a cul de sac so presumably small.

@PuddlesPityParty
No I haven’t placed blame with anybody and I certainly haven’t said it’s the dog’s fault. That would be daft. I have said the risk of owning a large breed scary looking dog should be properly considered at the point of agreeing to take it in especially in a terraced house close to a neighbour who you already know is scared (and maybe difficult because of that fear)
I have simply asked questions to understand the OP’s fear of letting her dog into her garden which I think is sad. I very much am bothered about that.
I get you were scared when your neighbours threw stuff into your garden and I’m sorry for that but you are projecting because the OP has clearly stated she isn’t scared of that. Neither has she said that has happened at any time.

My next but one neighbour had 3 of these dogs (with cropped ears!! 😡) and they were not nice dogs. They were very careful not to let anyone touch them or go near them.
They jumped the next door neighbour's fence to chase her cats, they used to bark and growl if anyone went near the fence.
My next but one neighbour bred them and had 16 at one point....
Fortunately they left...

Not having a dog does not make a person weird or anti-social, nor does not liking dogs.

Look OP, I don’t mind your dogs whatsoever, but I love dogs of all shapes and sizes. I would have been very upset if anyone ever criticised my dog, so I get it in a way.

But Some people are frightened. They’re frightened of lots of dogs, in particularly large dogs. This thread is full of them.

You need to find a way to make peace here. You don’t have to get rid of your dog and your neighbour needs to stop calling authorities on you. You need to go and talk, no aggression, and find a way to both live peacefully.