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Dog bit DP :(

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Dogbitdp · 16/09/2023 09:04

Am upset but DP seems to be overreacting. PTS not going to happen so just wanted a bit of advice from anyone who's been in a similar situation.

Dog was in the garden last night pissing about probably trying to eat cat shit etc. He said she wouldn't come in, so he went to grab her from behind and she turned and snapped/bit him on the hand 😔 skin broken, about 3 puncture wounds but its not as bad as it could have been.

I was a bit shocked when he told me this morning but not hugely surprised- she sometimes hurts her leg as she loves to run, and she was moping a bit yesterday, but the main issue she has currently is a cyst type thing that keeps filling up and swelling, then it will go. It must be painful when it does that as she does have a go at it, and I noticed yesterday it had flared up again. Vet keeps saying that he wouldn't recommend removing it until it really causes problems (think we're there now!)

He said hes not sure about her now but his main concern seems to be that "I've never been bit by one of MY dogs before". He is generally arrogant anyway tbh so im certain his pride is hurt more.

I get it, I'd be upset, but I don't think he's considering that there were about 4 factors at play- it was dark, he approached her from behind so surprised her, and her leg and/or this cyst was probably hurting (cyst is right where your hand would be if you were to grab her from behind).

Hes now said if she does it again she's dead. Doesnt care if there's a reason for it. When I said ill get her checked out and push now to have this thing removed he just shrugged.

Hes also a bit of a drama queen anyway and does exaggerate, but as I say he is very much "im right everyone else is wrong". I'm actually really worried now the next time she so much as barks he might exaggerate....I'm not even sure hes not exaggerating now about how it happened 😔

Shes never done this before or showed any signs of aggression at all. We do have two teen DC, one of whom has a real strong bond with her. She's so gentle and loving, I feel really bad for her tbh.

So vet next week but in the meantime I'll be on edge whenever dp is left alone with her. He loves her but tbh not as much as our last dog. Suspect this is because our last dog was very much 'his', whereas our current dog is definitely more aligned to me (used to be funny but inside I do think that gets to him).

OP posts:
ZebraD · 16/09/2023 19:13

Would you all say the same if the dog bit a child?!

andrainwillmaketheflowersgrow · 16/09/2023 19:20

ZebraD · 16/09/2023 19:13

Would you all say the same if the dog bit a child?!

A child shouldn't be left alone with a dog for long enough to grab it like that.

ZebraD · 16/09/2023 19:23

Oh give over will you!

twistyizzy · 16/09/2023 19:28

@andrainwillmaketheflowersgrow agree. Plus children should be taught how to behave around dogs.

ZebraD · 16/09/2023 19:32

And dogs should be taught how to behave around humans!

Frogger8395 · 16/09/2023 19:33

He said he grabbed her and pulled her back and she growled, he didn't let go and carried on pulling (wtf!!), so she bit him

I would be very concerned that he’s done more than grabbed her. And I wouldn’t leave them alone again. He sounds severely lacking in empathy.

Do you have cctv you could check?

WetBandits · 16/09/2023 19:37

ZebraD · 16/09/2023 19:13

Would you all say the same if the dog bit a child?!

But she didn’t. She bit a grown man who was being deliberately cruel to her. She can’t speak so couldn’t tell him to fuck off, so she did what she could so he would let go and stop hurting her. Or do you think this ‘man’ should just be allowed to abuse animals with zero repercussions?

twistyizzy · 16/09/2023 19:40

@ZebraD and no-one should be grabbing a dog somewhere where there is a spot of pain as in this case.
You can not blame the dog for this. As humans we have a responsibility to understand how dogs communicate. My DD was always told not to approach any dog on their bed, stroke dog while it asleep, take anything off a dog and never grab a dog. This is common sense.
Dogs aren't robots and we shouldn't expect them to accept anything that we throw at them.
There is no room for unprovoked aggression but this was not unprovoked.

Balloonhearts · 16/09/2023 19:41

So she hurt him and he thinks that if she hurts him again she deserves to die but when he hurt her she was wrong to snap and he is happy to hurt her again because his convenience is more important than not causing her pain. Do I have that right? He could fuck right off and be an ex DickheadP.

ZebraD · 16/09/2023 19:44

You only know what the OP is telling you not what happened. She clearly doesn’t like her DP so is not being particularly empathetic to what happened. So of course she is giving a biased opinion of what happened because that is what it is. It is all assumptions because she wasn’t there to witness it. Kind of like Chinese whispers - never end up with the real story. So if you’re happy with a dog that bites then it’s your choice. If you think he actually touched it on the cyst, fine. Do you know that though - does the OP? No! Be happy with your choice because I am happy with mine. Have a good night..day …life…whatever… and pray you never get bit because of you do - it’s what you’re happy to accept 😛

Onceuponaheartache · 16/09/2023 19:45

Your dp is a bloody womble who clearly has absolutely no idea about dogs.

Even the most placid of dogs will snap if they are being grabbed and dragged even after warning you off with a growl.

Imo the dog did nothing wrong, your dp on the other hand was 100% in the wrong.

twistyizzy · 16/09/2023 19:47

@ZebraD I have never been bitten by any of my dogs in 20+ years because I train them and set boundaries from Day 1 however I also make sure that every one else in the family respects every dog and knows how to behave around them.
I would tear strips of my husband if he did this to any of our dogs.

WetBandits · 16/09/2023 19:47

ZebraD · 16/09/2023 19:44

You only know what the OP is telling you not what happened. She clearly doesn’t like her DP so is not being particularly empathetic to what happened. So of course she is giving a biased opinion of what happened because that is what it is. It is all assumptions because she wasn’t there to witness it. Kind of like Chinese whispers - never end up with the real story. So if you’re happy with a dog that bites then it’s your choice. If you think he actually touched it on the cyst, fine. Do you know that though - does the OP? No! Be happy with your choice because I am happy with mine. Have a good night..day …life…whatever… and pray you never get bit because of you do - it’s what you’re happy to accept 😛

By his own admission, as stated by the OP: He said he grabbed her and pulled her back and she growled, he didn't let go and carried on pulling (wtf!!), so she bit him

But you just carry on making excuses for abusive men.

Boomboom22 · 16/09/2023 19:50

You have kids in the house and are keeping a dog that is ill and gas already snapped once? Are you serious?

Boomboom22 · 16/09/2023 19:54

Jesus is this really how dog owners think? That dogs are justified in biting? This is terrifying to read, how the fuck are we supposed to be safe in the park if people think it is OK for a dog to refuse to come in at home and bite?

Prescottdanni123 · 16/09/2023 19:54

@ZebraD

If the child snuck up on the dog, surprised it, tried to drag it somewhere, caused further pain to a existing wound and didn't let go when the dog tried to give them a warning growl then yep. I wouldn't blame the child but it still wouldn't be the dog's fault. It would be the parent's fault for either not supervising their child if kid is young, or not teaching them to respect animals if they were older.

WetBandits · 16/09/2023 19:56

Boomboom22 · 16/09/2023 19:54

Jesus is this really how dog owners think? That dogs are justified in biting? This is terrifying to read, how the fuck are we supposed to be safe in the park if people think it is OK for a dog to refuse to come in at home and bite?

The dog was abused by her owner and snapped at him. She was absolutely justified in biting in response to being hurt.

You’ll be just fine around OP’s dog in the park as long as you’re not pulling her around in the dark when she’s in pain. HTH

Clymene · 16/09/2023 19:57

Boomboom22 · 16/09/2023 19:54

Jesus is this really how dog owners think? That dogs are justified in biting? This is terrifying to read, how the fuck are we supposed to be safe in the park if people think it is OK for a dog to refuse to come in at home and bite?

If someone frightened and hurt you, how would you get them to stop?

twistyizzy · 16/09/2023 19:59

@Boomboom22 the dog growled first. This is the warning sign to stop. He ignored it so the dog bit. They are not robots and he touched a painful area, what is the dog supposed to do? Just accept physical pain?
The issue is that he ignored her warning ie growl and continued with what he was doing.
Noone would make excuses for a genuinely aggressive dog who attacked without warning but this wasn't the case in this instance.

Prescottdanni123 · 16/09/2023 19:59

@Boomboom22

Tell me you know fuck all about dogs without telling me you know fuck all about dogs.

The dog didn't walk into the family home and bite someone did it. OP's DH snuck up on it, grabbed it which give it a fright, caused it to feel pain from an existing wound, tried to drag it somewhere and refused to stop when dog tried to warn him with a growl. If you treated me like that, you would definitely end up with a black eye. And I'm guessing if someone treated you like that, you would lash out too.

BeMoreBarbie · 16/09/2023 20:06

Crazy responses from the forum that wants XL bully's killed on sight.

Your own dog bit a member of the household and caused injury. What if it was one of the kids? This is not ok and a huge cause for concern.

Vet visit and genuine discussions with the trained professionals is what's required. Then you can decide what's best.

Prescottdanni123 · 16/09/2023 20:09

@BeMoreBarbie

See my post directly above yours. There is a difference between an XL bully launching a vicious unprovoked attack on someone and a dog giving it's owner a flesh wound after the abusive that snuck up on her, gave her a fright, grabbed her where she already had an injury and tried to drag her somewhere after she gave him a warning growl.

Prescottdanni123 · 16/09/2023 20:09

*twat

twistyizzy · 16/09/2023 20:10

@BeMoreBarbie massive difference between a dog who was provoked to snap at a human member of the family who hurt it (plus growled first as a warning and then only did 1 bite) Vs a breed that randomly and viciously attacks random passers by without provocation.
OPs dog dod not a track indiscriminately, they responded to physical touch on a painful part of their body. It was not a frenzied attack with the intent to kill.

WetBandits · 16/09/2023 20:12

BeMoreBarbie · 16/09/2023 20:06

Crazy responses from the forum that wants XL bully's killed on sight.

Your own dog bit a member of the household and caused injury. What if it was one of the kids? This is not ok and a huge cause for concern.

Vet visit and genuine discussions with the trained professionals is what's required. Then you can decide what's best.

She bit an adult member of the household because he hurt her first.

She didn’t bite one of the children because the children were not the ones hurting the dog. It was a directly provoked bite following a warning growl. The poor dog tried her best to warn the OP’s husband that he was hurting her but he ignored her and gave her no choice. The bite was entirely preventable and entirely his fault.

You are right that it’s a cause for concern. However, my concern is that the OP’s husband is abusive towards the family pet.